Do you believe that parents stir sibling rivalry?

Yes they do that. I come to realize my brother feels like he is to blame for everything here at times and never see that happening. He is starting to worry me more and more all the time with his paranoia and other mental states, including temper. But i fact they have always treated my brother better with alot of things, as soon as my brother comes home from work he expects to have the TV for himself at 4 p.m., my mlom then turns on the fan for him (if the A/C isn't on) right now and she makes sure he has the remote control by him at times ( but I need it too at that time). She even still makes me about every meal for him (he usually skips breakfast during the week and weekends has his infamous junk food (he practically lives on that stuff, uck!) donuts for breakfast as I won't make pancakes for him anymore) unless he microwaves or fires things for himself (usually just ham or bacon). My mom always sides with him on many things, if I say anything against him right away I'm always in the wrong wether it makes sense to her or not, she is going to protect her little bear cub (age 45) do or die. o you get my point? There have ben times my aging dad has helped him with stuff going into or out of the basement that was bheavy but will just sit there and use his lap top if I am struggling to push a big load of a bag of laundry to the door. Do you get the picture? My point is try to do things as equally as possible for both of the siblings and reassure them that you love them both unconditionally and not like here wether or not I do something like my brother or not. My family does not have the unconditional love here and I often feel unloved. The worst part of it I can't confront them about it cause it will start an argument or something like them denying it or both and I just want peace in my life, with no more arguments.)

I am a parent and I haven't observed sibling rivalry among my children. Maybe it is because of their age gap, that is why they think that we are treating them fairly. Or I just didn't notice. Parents may not know that they had unfairly treated their children, only the children can feel it. I really don't know how to cope this situation.

Well that was very bluntly put about the differences with a toddler and a baby..... I have 4 children and they all feel love from me. They are all 3 years apart and thats never been a thing that has caused any problems. Really each one of them were so excited to have a new baby in the house. Each child come with their tough parts and their not so tough parts. I love all my children the same, but each one has their special thing. Once the children start to get a little older they think that each one should have what the other has and be able to do what the others get to do. I have always reminded them that they all dont get everything that they want all the time and as they get older, they will get more privlages because they are older and thats how I have always tought them. There are times that one will say you like her/him better. I just remind tham that I love each one just the same.

I only have one child so far. Yes, that right. We shouldn't allow to have unfair treatment because that will cause rivalry and jealousy. In every move you make, just tell your eldest that it's for his baby sibbling's good and you have to take care of him more because he's still a baby. He shouldn't feel envious. Happy myLotting.

I am not a parent so I wont know but I will say my advice in the context of having sibling my self. I think it is very hard for parents not to have favorites. I know that both of my parents have favorites and I know it's not me. I think that as long as you don't obviously favors one then I think it's ok. Some children behave badly because they felt left out. Time is also important. Make sure that you spent a few minutes or even seconds of alone times with each of your kids so they won't feel that they are ignored or something. It really depends on the parents and how the children will react to it.

From having brothers I never felt like rivalry I know we didn't get alone due to our personalities but my parents never started any of it. There is no really way to avoid it. It's either going to happen or not and there are going to be times where they just don't get along or they will fight over things. The best thing to do is when it happens to just move them away from each other and find out what is going one.

I don`t think that you can love or treat your children in the same way. Some need more help, others need a stronger grip. I love my two daughters as much, but differently because they have very different personalities. Still, being a mother is a hard job.

Nope, we take sibling rivalry as a normal attitude between children. In my family, its a normal occurrence between my kids. When one was given a reward for a good job, surely the other one would have his/her reward bigger or more expensive than the other. But, they just take it lightly and I think it will not affect their future. It works for us by taking it as a challenge for our kids to perform well with each other.

One thing I believe in here is that parents shouldn't be bias in treating their kid and they must listen to both sides. Because if you won't treat your children fairly then expect the other one will be rebellious and that kid won't acknowledge his/her parents as good parents. That could be a big scar for life.

Though we think little advance and it is not necessary that all our imginations will work the same way. See, there are millions of people have more than 1 child and non are not thinking that there will be the toddler problems for the new born. While considering the over population and to contribute towards this issue, I can say 1 child is good enough and/but if think require a 2nd child, never think about toddler issues. As long as you (as a mother) is around, there wont be any issues to look after the child. Just like anything, the parenting will go on and we need to observe how the children will be behaving and as long as people are there at home, no need to worry about for the next child.

I really can't say more on this topic because we only have one child. But i believe, the parents have in some ways an effect on their kids to rival one another specially when one of them is a favorite. Maybe it could be helped because parents tend to like those who are obedient to them.