scared of the idea of being lonely forever

Romania
August 28, 2012 10:56am CST
this perspective simply scares me.I'm almost 23 years old and I can't say I had a normal relationship till now.I"m currently in one but I think about another guy who has a girlfriend...I gave up the idea of us getting back together because I know it's not right. I can't get emotionally atached to my current boyfriend. I mean don't get me wrong I'm not waiting for prince charming I want him to have something that would make me look for him and sadly my boyfriend doesn't have that "something"
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@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
28 Aug 12
Get rid of that boyfriend. It will harm you if you stay with someone you can't get attached to. So actually you are saying you are just staying with him because you are scared to be alone? Because you are almost 23? Sorry but I can only laugh about that. With 23 there is no need to feel you are left over or nobody wants you or you will never get married. You live in 2012! You should make plans for your future, go for your dreams, live your life the fullest so you know who you are, you have memories to look back to/to remember at the moment you are married and you can sacrafice everything for a husband (who will probably go on with his life) and your kids. Life is way too long to already get attached to someone at your age. Ask yourself what you want for you, you want with your life instead of being focused on marriage. If you get 93 years old you can still have a marriage of 50 years if you get married if you are 40 years old. Ever thought about that?
• Romania
28 Aug 12
I don't want to get married now. I barely could take care of myself...a marriage involves responsabilities that I'm not ready to take. anyway I wish I would find a guy with who I would have a normal relationship. from all the guys I met I can say that it was only one guy that I actually cared for. and the one I"m with now deserves me to love him...he different from others and he looks like he actually cares for me. but for some reason I can't love him...I don't know why...maybe because I got hurt and I'm afraid this would happen again
@iamJB7 (122)
• Philippines
28 Aug 12
So how many months are you in a relationship with your current boyfriend?? Maybe you'll just fall for him after few months or later. One of my friends has the same situation with you. But later he started to fall in love with that guy. Actually they have this several break-ups but the guy didn't give up.Until such time the guy gave up then my friend realized how important his boyfriend is and how she really missed his company. Hmmm..you will surely fall for him if you let him.
• Romania
28 Aug 12
we've been together for 3 months now. but you can't really call this a relationship beacuse in the last month we hardly saw each other as I had to go and visit my parents. I hoped my feelings when it comes to him would change but looks like I got it all wrong. I was talking to a friend of mine and she told me something that I consider it true...you don't like him enough this is way anything he says/does gets you angry
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
28 Aug 12
You're still young. 24 is not a scary stage my dear. I have friends who are on their early thirties already and still single. They're enjoying their single life together with their careers. I've asked them if "when are they going to settle down"- but they only smiled at me. I cannot blame them for choosing such life- they're very ambitious and career oriented people.
• Philippines
29 Aug 12
you don't have to be scared of being lonely forever. look at your age, your still so young and you can do a lot of things. i know your someone that has this something will eventually come. i'm not saying that you can break-up with your boyfriend but maybe just maybe your boyfriend may acquire this something you want overtime. think positive. don't look at other people's boyfriend because you can be the reason for their break-up someday and i don't want you to discover your "prince" in that way.
• Philippines
29 Aug 12
Twenty three is incredibly young to worry about not having normal relationships. If you want a normal relationship then get rid of the current abnormal one and get yourself ready for what you're looking for when it comes. You have more than enough time you need, you'll be alright.