underwear checks

I don't know, but that is not a good thing to do to a child. I hope you didn't got traumatize with the kind of confrontation from a mother.

My mother would check, but she'd never spank for it. I think the rule was that I'd lose part of my allowance if I had a stain, but my memory of it is a blur.

No it didn't happen to me, and nor would I do it to my child. I'd find a different way to encourage to wipe well if that ever happened to be a problem. I may give them a nickel for everytime they wiped well, or if they wiped well for a full week I'd let them get something out of the 25 cent machine, but that's about it.. To spank for that? Oh no.

Underwear checks.. That is crazy!! I can understand that your mother wanted to teach you that being dirty is unhealthly. But being hit for not wiping.. I can not and will not do that to any child espeically my own.. My son had that same problem for awhile.. I would sit down and talk to him explaining the health reasons; and also the smell that it leaves... No child wants to be stinky.. He also wanted to get some cool super hero underwear.. I told him that he could have them after he was able to clean himself.. A couple weeks later he had the new underwear he had all of the information brought to him in a matter that he could understand.. And he made his own descision to stay clean.. Granted this may be a small thing, but to a young child that doesnt get to make a lot of descisions yet, it is big.. Granted if he wouldnt of made that choice I would have still be on him to work on it.. but I would never hit him for something like that... People are unaware of the physical conquences that come with hitting.. I knew someone that had problems when he would sit.. And his mother was not so kind like yours... And it left a mark on his life forever.. He had a hard time sitting at all.. eating right, taking vitimans and other remedies just didnt work... He didnt sit sometimes for days... making it extremely painful and bloody... I hope you do not have this problem

My parents spanked us kids for a lot, even without any reason, if they were in a bad mood, angry with someone or had a bad day or moment.. but they never spanked us for that. Nor did my mother check our underwear. We were sent to the bathtub daily and she learned us how to wipe well. The laundry was done daily as well. I would never spank my kids for that either just tell them to do it better and not to wear dirty underwear but change it frequently (daily or twice a day or when needed even more). If you want to teach someone you have to show how to do it first.

I'm with SomeCowgirl on this one. I was never spanked for anything like that and I don't spank my own kids if they don't wipe well. I just explain to them why it is important. And if I catch them not wiping or not wiping well, I just make them go back and do it again. I'm a mother of 4 so over the years, I've found a few things that work better than others. My kids don't use toilet tissue for "Number 2", I buy them flushable wipes which they seem to be able to get themselves cleaner when they use them as oppose to the dry tissue.

oh m yG thats awfu l no I never had underwear chec ks as I d id no need to. I was a clean child.and no I would never spank a child for a stain, just tell them to take more time and show them how to get clean better. teach children with your mouth not beat on them for Gods sakes . thats dreadful My children never were spanked for something that trivial as its easy to show a child how to clean oneself better