She calls my mother to baby sit and then fights with her.
By riyauro
@riyauro (6421)
India
August 28, 2012 3:31pm CST
Hi guys, yesterday I called home and my mother was very upset, these days she is at my brother's house to baby sit the kids so that my brother's wife can finish her graduation. she will be graduating thins november but she fought with my mother for nothing and kept her luggage outside. My father is there in our island where we are originally from and my brother is in the capital city and my father suffering there, cooking, washing and all so that this brother's wife can graduate. So much trouble my parents are taking for then and this they get in return. I was very pissed at my brother's wife. I don't know why she is doing like this. What to do? I am very far otherwise i could have done something.
What should my mum do? should she go back to my home to my father? or should she wait till my brother's wife graduates?
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13 responses
@myl999 (2093)
• India
29 Aug 12
I do not know why moral values in India is degrading rapidly and I feel hurt when see and heard things like this.No obligation for all the work and dedication given by our elders towards us..people fail to realize the level of sacrifice the parents do in their life for their children..and when old age chases them these children want to throw them out of their life as if unwanted things....I really hate this behaviour and now I think your mother should go back to live with your father let the lady do what she wants and let her achieve her dreams herself....
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@myl999 (2093)
• India
29 Aug 12
so you are in Goa now that is wonderful..I am planning a holiday to goa since long but it is not happening...you see the struggle for life is becoming complex these days and now I am devoting all my time for my sons career and to build a permanent residence...I like seashore areas but that will not be possible so will settle down to what is available.I have a few plots available with me but no one is that much appealing...so still searching....good luck to you,but I look forward to meet you if I happen to visit goa some day...
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@riyauro (6421)
• India
29 Aug 12
Hi myl999, To tell you that I am from Fiji Islands and this is happening in my country in Fiji. I am the only one from whole big family to reach India because I was on scholarship to study in Pune. Then here I fell in love. that is another story. So, i hope you know where is FIJI. It is costing from Rs. 80000- Rs. 100000 to go to my place. Otherwise I would have been there by now. i was there in 2010 for my mother's operation and my student visa also had expired so I had to go back to Fiji. Then I came back here and got married to the Goan.
This is not only in India I guess but everywhere in the world. I am very upset. Have a wonderful day ahead. 
@riyauro (6421)
• India
29 Aug 12
My father and other brother at home are calling my mum back home and I also said the same but my this brother is very upset with his wife and I think he needs my mum for now just to be by his side as a support. I don't else this witch is capable of.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
3 Sep 12
Personally I would think if she is wanting someone to babysit then she would be respectful instead of always fighting with her every time someone is only trying to help. She needs to be appreciative before your mom gives up and then she ends up without a babysitter but then sounds like most people would have already quit wanting to help by now.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
16 Oct 12
I think your mother should look at this from another angle. She is not doing this for her daughter in law who by the way sounds like a stupid little btch. She is doing it for her grandchildren because really that is exactly who it is for. The grandkids will benefit if their mom gets educated and has a decent job in which to support them. The grandkids also benefit from having Gram babysit rather than some random stranger.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
28 Aug 12
I will fly and give this sister-in law what she deserves.
No one shall do such thing to my mom or I will turn the whole world upside down...
I will send this sister-in law back to her mom so she will learn how to respect my mother.
She's a b*tch...
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
29 Aug 12
I don't like fighting as well.
I am a homebody person and I only have selected friends.
but if anyone every hurt my family especially my mother...God forbid me...for I don't know my limit.
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@riyauro (6421)
• India
29 Aug 12
To tell you the truth I have never ever fought with anyone. But this time I am very angry. All this family issues happen in my absence. I have never seen my sister in laws this cruel side. I know that she had done this before also but they had patched up. I think she never had changed but was putting a facade. she is a b*tch, no doubt. My brother is also tired of her. Have a wonderful day ahead.
@Tina30219 (81536)
• Onaway, Michigan
3 Sep 12
I say she should go home to your father. I know she loves her grandkids but sounds to me like she is being used.I hope this problem is taken care of soon your mom does not need to be going through this.
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@Jshean20 (14349)
• Canada
29 Aug 12
This sounds pretty disrespecful. Why should you mother be treated in such a way when she's helping out in a way that she is not obligated to? I think to teach her a lesson she should give her enough notice and let your brothers wife figure it out on her own, then she might miss what she had and realize how out of line she was.
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@luxlyangels (1286)
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28 Aug 12
To hell with your brother's wife and her graduation, what does she feel like? Huh? Does she not have respect for family? I really don't like people like that. As for your mom, she should go back home to your dad, her work there would be much more appreciated by her husband who would love her unconditionally and treat her right unlike this brother's wife of yours.
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@riyauro (6421)
• India
29 Aug 12
I think you are right but my brother is very upset by his wives attitude. He is saying if mom is going home then he will never go home because every time the wife is doing like this and my parents surrender and go home. My brother is saying that mum should stay with him. thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
29 Aug 12
What do they argue about? I also sometimes not having a good relationship with my mother in law but we never really come to a point like what happened to your mom. And my inlaws never pay for any of my expenses, it is the other way around.
I don't know that made them fight but I think that it is not right to treat your mom or any elderly like that. Tell your brother about and let him handle the situation.
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@riyauro (6421)
• India
29 Aug 12
I have asked my mum and she said that some 2 girls who are her friends had come to stay over and I don't know what happened to her that she started behaving like this. My brother knows and he said that mummy is not going home but staying with him because this had happened before also when my parents had come to visit them couple of years ago. My parents are always helping them and in return they do this. You know how expensive is education today, but because she got married in the middle of her graduation, my father had paid her fees so far when all what my father has is his provident fund money and that also he spent on her where it was her parents who were supposed to pay for her fees and it was agreed. But her parents backed off. I hope my brother will handle things well. Have a wonderful day ahead.
@Timeout (419)
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28 Aug 12
Well, if it was very unfair the thing she is fighting with me about, I would just say "Well now YOU babysit YOUR children like I did with mine!", it is sad because they are your mothers granchildren and she is being very unfair and immature. Tell your sis in law to grow up and respect her elders!!
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@riyauro (6421)
• India
29 Aug 12
Yeah when i am not there then only she does all this. I have never this side of her at all. she was writing to my husband all bad things about my mother and I knew that all that was a lie because I know my mother more than anyone else. Upon their calling, my mum went to help them, and now she is telling my husband that my mum had a fight with the other brothers wife and she felt pity and called my mum to stay with her. This is a pure lie. And also that she is telling my brother and my mum that I am suffering here in India and that my husband is hitting me and all other lies. She has never met my husband and she does not anything about here and just trying to give my parents a mind fu*k so that they worry about me. I all and told my mother that we are fine and she is lying and that. Gosh, someone can go to that extent in a second?? I believe this.
@Gretchen522 (715)
• China
29 Aug 12
I really don't like your brother's wife but I think you should ask your mother's thouht, if the problem can't be solved, go back with your father would be a good choice. A happy family is important.
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@riyauro (6421)
• India
29 Aug 12
I know that is why my mom has forgotten what my sister in law did in the past and came to help her. My mum is a heart patient and she had her uterus operation because of cancer 2 years ago. But this witch is not grateful at all. And on top of that she is spreading bad rumors about me and my husband whom she has never met in real.
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
28 Aug 12
If my brother's wife will treat my mom that way I will personally go there and pick my mom up. She can take care of her own affairs from now on and she will never set foot in our house especially when I'm there. My mom dont deserve that kind of treatment; who does she think she is anyway?
The sooner your mom leaves and left that good for nothing daughter in law the sooner she will learn her lesson. And she deserve it.
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@riyauro (6421)
• India
29 Aug 12
I would have gone but my finances are less compared to the fare. It is like $1500- $2000 range and if booked for sooner it is more. I wish I could go home now but I can't. I am praying to God, if my auditions go well and I am in for the Television Singing game show, then I can call my parents here. It is this sunday and please pray for me. I am very upset about my home situation at the moment. Have a wonderful day ahead.
