Would you let a stranger use your cellphone if they ask to?

@ardoy0731 (7305)
Philippines
August 29, 2012 2:41am CST
Good afternoon. I went to work last Saturday to finish some works that are needed b Tuesday since it was holiday last Monday.After office hours,on my way to the mall,I was using my phone while walking to message someone when a stranger on my way approached me. I thought he will ask a direction but instead he ask if he can used my phone to text someone.I was hesitant and told him that I don't have credit balance in my phone and continue walking. Due to bad news about strangers who used this kind of act or scam to get other people's phone.The first thing that comes to my mind was that he might get and run away my phone once I lend it to him.The fact that there is a waist level barricade between us, so I can't run after him immediately once he get it and run. But what if he really need help or if it is a modus operandi and run away my phone? Do you experienced it too? What will you do if it happens to you?
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@vijayroy (212)
• India
29 Aug 12
I will help him if he/she looked innocent or something like that and I will observe the way of behaviour also, actually I too behave like you only in those scenarios but once I faced same situation i.e. asking some ones phone to send a msg to my brother but I asked that inside an IT PARK so others will trust us, so I realise that when it comes to me, so I will help him/she by giving my phone.
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@ardoy0731 (7305)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
Yes we can consider if it takes place in a secure place like inside the mall with lots of people and security guards all over. But it happened to me in a quite dark place and just few people are passing by so my human instinct tend me to decline help for safety reason.
@vijayroy (212)
• India
4 Sep 12
Yes in that case I will agree with you. Because in those situations they can pretend like they really need some help, we better to go for our safety only.
• Greece
29 Aug 12
No,for the reasons already given, plus there are numbers he can ring that are scams that will charge you huge amounts of money automatically. The only exceptions I would make are an elderly person obviously in difficulties (they couldn't run off) or a mother with children who needs help for some reason. I wouldn't use my phone in public either, it is asking for trouble.
@ardoy0731 (7305)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
Not using phone in public or streets is a great idea especially when your phone is quite expensive that really catches the attentions of the thieves. It is really depends on the situation, the people who ask and the place it will occurs.If the place is safe better help them but if you feel that you can be off guard and the place is quite dangerous, better leave and make some alibi.
@nupur123 (392)
• Hyderabad, India
29 Aug 12
I did this once when i went to a marriage party there i found a lady, she was crying a lot because her mobile was fallen somewhere . When i heard this i got petty on her and i told her to call someone from her home so that they can go to the police station and register her complain . She tanked me for my help and told me that she can never forget me for this.
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@ardoy0731 (7305)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
Well in this case I would surely help her to the fact that it was in a party of a person I know so for sure they know also the lady. It is really depends on the situation and where it occurs.
@gmkumar08 (396)
• India
29 Aug 12
Yes,it totally depends on the situation.He might be the good guy who really need to make that call or he might also be the bad guy with criminal intentions.It's really hard to differentiate who is good and who is bad.But,what if he is really good and we hesitate to help him.This might someday happen to us too.What if nobody helps us then!!So,i don't wanna take a chance.If someone asks for help,i definitely will.
@ardoy0731 (7305)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
Yeah we cant really differentiate it but if it occur in a place where in I know that I am secure like in a mall,establishments with lots of people and security or with friends,I guess I would help him.But my initial reaction was not to lend it due to news that I heard and watched and the sidewalk is quite dark and no people are passing.
@Raine38 (11514)
• United States
29 Aug 12
I will not also let any stranger used my phone. He will either make a run for it once he got it, or secure my number and use it for goodness knows what kind of scam. I would have also said the same, or if it's at the mall like that, suggest he go to the information center and ask assistance and permission to use their phone. I know thy have phones there and they let the public use it for free in case of emergencies.
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@ardoy0731 (7305)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
Yeah security and safety first before anything else so we wont get hurt or harm in the end. If it will happened in the mall it could be another case but happening in a sidewalk or street would quite not safe or gives us doubt or second thought if we will help or not.
@shylade (3135)
• Philippines
29 Aug 12
No I won't give my phone. It is better be safe. You really can't tell what's the real intention of strangers. Just last Saturday, while I was walking, a middle-aged woman approach mo and ask me where I am going. I don't know her so I just keep on walking and I noticed she was somewhat following me. I walked a little fast and I never turn my back again until I reached a safe area. I saw her approaching another woman again. I hope she's not into scam.
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@ardoy0731 (7305)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
Yes it is better to be safe than sorry in the end. Nowadays and based on bad news in TV, we cant really know the real intention of a person instantly. Saying " dont judge the book by its cover" is really true. Sometimes innocent people who we might think that wont and cant do any harm are the one who make bad things to us and to others. Being alert all the time is really needed.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
29 Aug 12
I think it depends on the situation.The kind of person and where I am. If someone is really in need I would or I would make the call for that person. I don't think they use your phone to get the numbers more to steal the phone, use your credit etc.. if it comes to stealing the phone. I also don't think I would run after that person. What I do is I delete all messages from my phone frequently and I wrote down all phonenumbers elsewhere. Also I don't have an expensive phone with all these kind of options people seem to "need" nowadays to belong to the group. My phone is just there in case of need and I use it as a phone, sometimes I use the alarm option or calculator. That's it. BTW I was once in need and I could use someone elses phone, I did pay for making the call. To make a long story short I would let someone use it if it comes to it, but I would dial the number I quess
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@ardoy0731 (7305)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
Well I could also offer help just what you have said, i ambthe one who will text or call the person he wanted to contact to. Maybe human instinct, safety reason based on bad news that I heard and watched in the news that's why I dont let him used my phone.
@namiya (1709)
• Philippines
29 Aug 12
On impulse, most probably I wont trust him too. But maybe if he looks like he really needs to, i'll consider the situation, that is ask if he has no cp; look around if the place would allow him to escape easily; ask him why and let him explain; will do the texting for him without handing over my phone to him.
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@ardoy0731 (7305)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
Well we can still consider that he really need help but still at the back of our mind we cant still cant help it to think that maybe he might do something bad just like what we in the news.
@aerous (13452)
• Philippines
1 Sep 12
Well, I think it depend on the situation and the expression of the stranger who borrow and use my cp. But if I look on the expression is not a person of being trustworthy I can't allow that person to touch my cp.
@ardoy0731 (7305)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
Well facial expression could be consider but doubt would always be there due to bad things around that we used to watched in the news. Human instinct is really important in this kind of situation.
@aerous (13452)
• Philippines
27 Sep 12
Yup! I agree with you, friend. Because there are many people today that are pretending to be needful but a bad person. If we can't enable our mind to determined the persons behavior through his/her external reaction. We loss something in just a second...
@carmelanirel (20948)
• United States
30 Aug 12
No, but I would ask the stranger if I could call someone for him or her. If it is really important, he or she will accept, if it was a scam or not important, the offer will be turned down..
@ardoy0731 (7305)
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
Hard to predict or say that it would br scam or really need help. There always second thoughts that what if they really need help or what if they are criminals that might do something bad once we help them. Hard to figure out what a stranger will do so we should reallh be alert, aware and prepare to protect ourselves.
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• United States
30 Sep 12
No we can't predict, that is why I said, "I would ask the stranger if I could call someone for him or her." That way if there is a "real" need, he or she will give me the number to call.
@enelym001 (8323)
• Philippines
29 Aug 12
Yes it did happened to me once. Not in the Philippines though. It happened several years ago. There was an Egyptian guy whom I asked for directions. Then he borrowed my phone to call a friend. I have less balance on my phone but since I feel it is important I let him use it. I felt like he will not runaway from it. After using my phone, he tried tobe friends with me. And followed me until I felt he is a bit dangerous. And he is indeed dangerous. I just thought we really must choose whom to lend our stuff. And most especially whom to speak too.
@ardoy0731 (7305)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
Oh sorry for what happened. It is really hard to give trust to others cause sometimes those people ehi look innocents are the one who are harmful.
@daisy777 (214)
• South Africa
29 Aug 12
I've had a similar experience and did the same as you, told the person that I had no air time.
@ardoy0731 (7305)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
Yeah i think it is the best alibi for us to get away fast in case that the stranger has a bad motive.
@daisy777 (214)
• South Africa
31 Aug 12
Absolutley, one just cannot take a chance.
@suspenseful (40312)
• Canada
27 Sep 12
If he wanted to use the phone, and he had to tell someone, he could have given you the number and tell you what he wanted to say and you could have done it for him. But I suppose he was a thief and would have run off with your phone. And if it were an emergency, would he not have gone to a police officer and tell him?
@ardoy0731 (7305)
• Philippines
29 Sep 12
Yeah he might run away the phone,we really cant tell whats gonna happen. We really have to make sure that the place is safe, get the number and be the one to make a call or send a message to whom he wanted to contact to.
@MANJET (84)
• Malaysia
26 Sep 12
This is a hard decision to be made. Sometimes the person may really be in need to make a call or message. But there are just more and more of those crimes too. I think I will look at the surrounding to make sure it would be safe and if the person only wishes to text someone, I would help him to text. If you wish to speak in phone, we call for the person and turn on the speaker so that the person would not be able to get a hold on our phone.
@ardoy0731 (7305)
• Philippines
29 Sep 12
Yeah you hard to make a decision somehow. We dont know whether they are saying the truth or not. Whether we will help or just go. If they are innocent or criminals that might take the cellphone away. Maybe if the scenario will occur in a safer place, I think I better help but make a call for the stranger.
@garson (884)
• United States
26 Sep 12
Has cellphone theft been common in Phillipines? Has it been an issue for someone to run away with other people's cellphone? Why did he want to text instead of call? What is the significance of texting? Is it expensive to just call?
@ardoy0731 (7305)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
Well it is quite more expensive when calling than sending a message trough text.I think around six times higher than sending text message.There are some promos too for unlimited texting that people always avail.
@MsTickle (25214)
• Australia
8 Sep 12
I'm pretty sure I would never hand over my phone to a stranger for anything. If it was a friend or a family member, that would be different but give my phone to a stranger, No Way!
@ardoy0731 (7305)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
That would be the initial reaction of most of the people for own safety and protection.We never know whats gonna happen once we lend it to them. Our own safety is what important before we help other people.
@Canellita (12051)
• United States
5 Sep 12
I used to have a pre-paid phone so that made it a little easier to say no. I have let one or two people use it before, but lately people are having to deal with the possibility of their phone being stolen more and more often.
@ardoy0731 (7305)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
There always a doubt that the stranger who will ask for help might run away the mobile phone once we lend it. Security and safety first so there will be no regret in the end.
• Kenya
30 Aug 12
I learnt the hard way never to trust anyone with my cell phone when I went to see a guy about a job and as I was writing down my credentials, he asked if he could use my phone to check on his wife who was about to have a baby and I fell for it and he stepped out to make the call and he never came back. If I ever meet someone who looks to have a genuine problem, then I will ask them to give me the number of the person they need to reach and I make the call for them.. no touching my phone.
@ardoy0731 (7305)
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
Yeah better ask the number that they would like to contact so thag they wont har any oppurtunity to run away the phone. Be alert and aware too that they might grab the phone and run. The best idea maybe is lead them or show the direction of the authorities nearby.
@prashu228 (28007)
• India
30 Aug 12
yes, this is common these days, we cant believe any strangers, actually this kind of incident happened with a boy near our house, the boy was going on his bike, on the heavy traffic road, suddenly a teenager, came from somewhere, as asked him lift, the boy thought , the teenager might have some urgent work ,so gave lift. As they were going on the bike, they came across a signal point, so the boy stopped the bike, the road with heavy traffic, the teenager suddenly snatched the cell phone,which is in the boy's pocket,and ran away, the boy is in shock for some time, but couldn't get the teenager, as the road is busy, and h in in the middle of the road, by the tome he realized his cell phone is gone, the snatcher already crossed the road and went away ,as if nothing has happened, the boy recently came to my house and narrated the whole story to my mother. such things have become common these days, we should be very cautious.
@ardoy0731 (7305)
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
Oh what a sad experienced for the boy. Sometimes people around us just abuse the kindness and innocence of other people. There some people too who pretend to be in need are the now who commit crimes. We really have to be careful with strangers that we meet. We should have to know them well to avoid any regret in the end.
@riempie9 (1023)
• South Africa
30 Aug 12
I have not personally experienced that, no. I will only hand over my cell phone to someone I know and then stand and wait for it. I would not say give it to me later or anything like that. You should just say kindly that you do not have your cell with you... and don't walk in the street and text. It makes you a target.
@jayrene (2712)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
yes i very much agree with what you said... never walk and text...