Soulmates and Egomates
By muggiekins
@joliefille (3690)
Philippines
August 30, 2012 9:28am CST
I came across this quote about soulmates from one of my astrology lessons:
Why is it so hard to find a soulmate? Because most of us are actually searching for egomates instead. We place the most limited and unloving aspect of our minds in charge of our search for love, and then wonder why we aren't succeeding. To the degree that we identify with this false sense of self, and operate on the basis of its limited point of view, we aren't looking for someone to love so much as recruiting fellow actors to take on supporting roles in a favorite melodrama. ~ Carolyn Godschild Miller in "Soulmates: Following Inner Guidance to the Relationship of Your Dreams"
It reminded me of this picture from Divine Evolution which essentially depicts this message:
There is no Other ... There is only ONE.
When you look at another ...you are actually looking at another version of Yourself.
It has reminded me time and time again that we attract what we are and that love first and foremost must be found within before we can look for love in other people. If we don't love ourselves, we would only be looking for egomates subconsciously. 30,000 times the subconscious is much stronger than the conscious.
2 responses
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
30 Aug 12
yes, our soul mates are already fixed by god and we are searching them in our life, some times we find the real persons and get satisfaction with it, but most of the time it is really hard to find them and we are searching a lot to find the real soul mate
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
30 Aug 12
You will definitely meet the person designed to be yours or later. In life you meet many potential candidates but non that can trigger your heart. But when a stranger appear out of the blue which make your heart pound loud and fast that send your blood rushing madly along your veins you should search no more. She is the one meant for you.I
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@joliefille (3690)
• Philippines
5 Sep 12
@zandi458: As in the quote above, the author used the term egomates for those persons we attract or get attracted to who happen to unconsciously feed our selfish needs. She is saying that we let the mind think up or conjure a perfect partner for ourselves, that sometimes we get into a relationship for the wrong reasons. Some people find it hard to let go or get clingy to the previous partner just to feed their own selfish need to be pampered and not think of their partner's welfare. Normally this scenario can be seen with people who have low EQ (emotional quotient). If we stop intellectualizing or using the brain so much and learn to let go to trust life's process, that's when we can be more open to recognizing who our soulmates are.
@vidhyaprakash_2: Yes, soul mates may be pre-arranged for us by the divine, but I believe we also have to be a better person for our own sake first. We could have a soul mate pre-arranged for us but even if they arrive into our lives yet we don't know how to be open and deal with their emotions in a loving way, then we would never be able to make the most of our experience with them.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
30 Aug 12
Hi friend, you are right, most of us are failed in our search of soul mates and think ego mates as our soul mate, first of all we must love our self, then only other persons will love us, we learn to love and love our beloved persons sincerely to get the same from them
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@joliefille (3690)
• Philippines
5 Sep 12
@vidhyaprakash_2: True. Plus real love is also unconditional love. If we suck at loving ourselves, how could we ever give to others what we failed to give to ourselves in the first place? 
