Am I a Bad Sister?

Philippines
August 30, 2012 2:09pm CST
I am the eldest. I have one and only younger sister. But we still have 3 half younger sisters. Since our parents broke up, me and my sister also separated from each other. She's with my mother and I'm with my father's (biological)family. I grew up with my grandfather, my aunts took care of me. I felt that all of them has the right to scold me,love me,discipline me,and get jealous for me. I was able to finish my studies through my aunt's financial support. How about my sister? both parents were really hard up. Both of them can't afford to send us to college but I'm fortunate enough my aunt and her family helped me out. My sister's only hope was, when I graduated college and get a job I am the one who will send her to college. She was still in High School when I get a job, I send her a little amount from my small earning to help with her daily expenses. But my aunt was not happy about it, she told me that I should prioritize my father. I was thinking, that my sister needs help more than my father do. There were days that she missed her classes,mother can't afford her daily fare. She decided to move to father's place so she can continue her studies. Father won't help her if she will not stay with him. But aunt wasn't happy about it and father was staying at Aunt's house. But aunt doesn't want sister to be with father and she had the right to decide because father was in her house. So, sister moved back to mother. And the worst thing that she want me to do was. She doesn't want me to send sister to college because she want me to prioritize father. But still I told her she should move to my place because there is a competent government University here that is affordable compared to other private schools. And that is the only school which I can afford with my little salary. But she decided not to, for me to honor my aunt's decision. Since then we never see and communicated each other again. Contact numbers get lost and everything. I never knew if she was able continue her studies.
1 response
@fatlex06 (895)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
Oh, that was a sad story here. I think you had a hard time weighing your father and your sister as well as your aunt's decision. You were not a bad sister, you don't have to worry about that. I really do appreciate that even if you two are far from each other, still you have concern on her. I hope everything will be okay in the future. Meanwhile, maybe you could let your aunt's decision reign at first, but never let her manipulate your decisions. Your aunt was right when she told you that you have to prioritize your father than your sister, but helping isn't really bad specially if it's a family member. I wished you could have a much better job and produce more money so you could afford to help them both. But don't forget yourself. You are a nice sister. :) Have a great day.