I Do Not Really Care...

I can say I am fortunate not to experience that in my relatives. It' s fine when you say that to kids so as to make them conscious of their actions and not to be naughty in front of people.. but saying that to a sane adult?--that is totally embarrassing! There's no need to tell an adult what to do and act. Another thing is, they are your family. Why do you need to impress your own family? Aren't families suppose to be the first to accept and understand your uniqueness? Each has own individuality. If they accept you, then great! If they don't like you, it's not your problem;)

Yes, I have a few family members who care about how I look and how I dress. And I have gotten to the point where I don't care either. Why are you going to focus your life around what they think about the clothes on your back. Instead of just being able to see you and spend time with you. I think that it is childish, that there are people out there that are like that. I find it really annoying. I wouldn't worry about it though, I say do whatever. Who cares. I wouldn't.

Our family has its share of gossips and critics, but for the most part, we tend to ignore their complaints. It's much easier than trying to please them!

Yes I do,but in my case it is the hot temper I just can't take the stress it causes me.

I know the kind of person. Don`t mind her, have fun and dress how you want. It wouldn`t do any harm if you answered her back in a nice but firm way if she says something nasty.

Go ahead and go.You should not be intimidated because of her and it's not her that you are going to.You will go there because of your nephew.I have 2 aunts who are like that and I do not mind what will they say about me because this is my life and I know what is good and bad.Sometimes I think that they should mind their own business because if you look at their life. Their life is more worst than me. Maybe their children have the best life and they always compare me to them but I take that as a challenge and never be bothered about they say about me.But still,I respect them because they are my aunt and I admit I sometimes argue with them because they sometimes say things to lower me or degrade me.

It's very sad that you are being told/warned on how to look or act in your aunts presence, luckily I don't feel that kind of pressure from anyone in my immediate family. I'm glad to hear that you don't really care, it would be a shame to not enjoy the day due to someones childish ways.

I suspect that when my aunt was alive, there might've been some who felt that way about her, but since we saw her so seldom, I didn't do so. I only had 2 aunts and they were both aunts by marriage, but that one I didn't like as much as the other one. Well, that one is gone now and the other is still alive, and was, the last time I saw her, still as sweet as ever...

There's always someone like that with every family. I remember going to my mom's uncle every Christmas. It was sort of a tradition for the family to gather around that time. And of course you'd always hear something terrible said about this family, and this family etc. As soon as me and my siblings were grown up, we choose not to be a part of this reunion anymore. You're right, it is childish!

Right, you should not care about what she will say about you. We can't avoid people like that in a family. They think they are superior over others giving them the right to say rude words. Mind you this kind people will never want to hear bad comments about them. Lol.

Definitely annoying! I know how you feel and I think the same as you do. I don;t need to impress anyone and put up a face just for a person to like me. "What you see is what you get" attitude is what I embody. There shouldn't be any wrong if your do not follow what others would tell you. If they are bothered with your aunt and just wanna please her to escape any rude comments, then let them be. Just be yourself!

That is very childish indeed. I'm thankful there's none of my relatives that I have to please. They don't care much about how we look or how we act. We just seem to be happy whenever we get the chance to meet each other. And you are right! That aunt of yours is not God anyway, so why take effort in pleasing her.

Yes, you are absolutely right. You should not care about what other thinks about you. And everybody has the right to live with his/her free will. I don't think I have any such friend or cousins those are so what I say annoying. But if I had I would not have given them a damn. And that is what I think is right, in my perspective. Everybody should behave in a sensible manner and know that going out of limits about anything is not a good thing. It applies to everything.