I appologized to her, but her reaction made me regret.

China
September 1, 2012 2:06am CST
A big quarral happened between my wife and me,which made us didn't communicate with each ohter for some hours.To resolve the problem, I thought about it for quite a while,and decided to apologize to her.I thought if I apologized to her,she would accept it and the misunderstanding would be gone.However, after I said sorry to her, she insisted that I was wrong and became agnrier.I could not stand her words,and stopped talking once again. It happened just about half an hour ago.Of course, if I say sorry again, it will mean I admit that I am wrong.She will be mad at me. To some extent, I don't have any ideas on what to do.Maybe silence is the best way to resolve such problems.Do you agree?
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20 responses
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
2 Sep 12
I understand your feeling now...I think you are right, better you keep a silent for a while to make your wife calm down..she has more time to think of what happened...and when she is back to normal, you can say sorry again. I think you are such a nice husband...i hope your wife should know it and both you guys can be happy together back...
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
2 Sep 12
maybe you remember your personal experience ryanong
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
11 Sep 12
Yes, the story made me remember my things..i hate it but i have to face it, adhyz82...by the way...you teased me a lot...you wanna pay me more coffee?
@caopaopao (12395)
• China
1 Sep 12
Don't worry so much, little things became the cause of quarreling between the couple, only if it's not a big mistake, your wife will forgive you. Your wife just needs time to calm down, it's nice that you apologize first. You wife will feel happy as you apologize first even if she still appears to be mad at you. Females always do like that, don't misunderstand it. (As I always did it especailly before I have a child, sometimes we feel bored and even a very small thing can make us quarrel) I suggest you leave her alone now and meanwhile do something for her , such as, cooking delicious supper for her, it is easy and practical. Remember woman likes to hear sweet words, don't keep your sweet words in your heart, anyway, these words have no harm and still, cheap. Hope you will feel happier soon!
• China
1 Sep 12
I have to say that your words are just like sweet honey,and calm me down.Yeah, I will give both of us some time to consider our problems.It doesn't matter who has made the mistake,but it is important for both of us to do with the problem calmly. Thank you.
@caopaopao (12395)
• China
1 Sep 12
Yeah, you got what I mean. My daddy often tells me that there is no right or wrong in a marriage, we must learn to forgive . Have a nice day!
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
1 Sep 12
maybe you should be calm down my friend.. yes, silence is the best way for that situation.. she is still angry..and you should wait until her anger is reduced
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
11 Sep 12
Umh, you understand women's feeling very well, adhyz82...
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
25 Nov 12
If quarrel happened in between us and if my danger and sweet hubby told me sorry I feel happy and jumps but my luck is not good and he never say me sorry because he always say he is right and I am wrong. But in such case finally I annoyed and say okkkk you are right and I am wrong because man always right even they beat or ....then they said ohhh why you are anger okkk leave it and make tea for me. I think if the person is saying sorry then the other person should accept it and leave the quarrel because this is also a part of happy life.
• Indonesia
1 Sep 12
I don't think silence will solve the problem at all. sooner, may be both of you will tired to ignore each other and start to talk again, but the root of problem wouldn't solve and you will experience this again and again. both of you need communicate each other. ask her what's going on and what's your fault.there's nothing wrong to ask sorry again if this could solve fight. sometimes woman is very hard to understand ( I did it so... )
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
2 Sep 12
but both of them are still angry redva.. and of course it is hard for finding the solution when "the devil" still dance in your head and mind
@Shavkat (137215)
• Philippines
25 Nov 12
It is hard to deal with people who are tickle-minded. For some reason, they might be in stress or thinking what's the best solution they can do. Sometimes, it is irritating but being patient will be fine.
• United States
2 Sep 12
Okay, you said sorry once already. Give her some time to cool down, and then go back and say sorry again. Give her roses, give her something that she likes, but you get one your hands knees and apologize until she understands that you truly are sorry. I don't know what you did, but whatever it is, it made her real angry, and something like that will talk a while to bounce back from, but give her some time. Yes, she is mad at you right now, and she probably will be for awhile, but you have to be calm as well, and slowly, but surely apologize to her in any way that you can. My boyfriend made me angry once because he went somewhere that I wanted to go, and he wasn't going to take me with him. I was mad because this was a place that he knew I wanted to go to, but because his friend was taking him, he wasn't going to take me because only the two of them were going to go. I was furious and angry at him for it, and I told him that I couldn't believe that he would do this to me? He knew how I felt about it. Well, I didn't talk to him for awhile, and boy did he have to get on his hands and knees to apologize to me for it. It was the first big argument that we ever had in our relationship.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
12 Sep 12
Communication is the key. She needs to be calm and controlled so tell her when she is calm you both need to talk over the problem. Don't let her put the blame on you because an argument takes two. If you are both responsible then you need to be mature enough to own up to your mistake/s. If she continues to berate you and be angry then explain to her that this does not help the situation. She sounds like a nagging harridan and so I feel sorry for you.
@anneshirley (1516)
• Philippines
1 Sep 12
They do say that fighting sometimes with you other half can either make or break your relationship. If you will be able to get through this,expect that your bond will be much stronger than before but if you give up now, then you'll just have to live through with your decision. Is it really that big or is it just your emotions getting in the way? Whatever it is, do not let this day pass without making it up. Don't go to sleep while you are still not in good terms with each other. Try to talk to her and put some sense into her. Just hold on to your temper. Believe me, right now, she is also wondering on how to say sorry to you.
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
2 Sep 12
I think that what you have done is right. It is sad that your wife acted improperly. Maybe, she still very emotional and you should have waited for her to at least calm down. I know that you feel upset for what had happened but just wait for the right time to talk to her again. She may even think that she is wrong for acting that way despite the fact that you are the first one who asked for apology. Maybe you wait a little until she realized everything but don't make it too long. A wound that was left uncured for a long time may be even harder to heal.
• United States
2 Sep 12
Hi! In a way I can understand what you are going through because I have been known to react the same way. Ok, let me ask you this--before the conversation exploded into an argument, what was said and HOW was it said? Sometimes when you say something at the wrong time even though it was well intended, the tone can set someone off and the next thing you know; mayhem. I think you were right to apologize though. The other thing I am considering is she may be wondering if her argument actually hit home. Sometimes when my husband and I argue, it is about tone and our backgrounds so we had to work together so we could find our own balance and function as parents. He learned to read me and I learned to communicate better. If I woke up on the wrong side of the bed one morning the least I could do is tell him so he doesn't say the wrong thing. I hope that what I said will help you. It is trial and error and you both have to be willing to communicate so your relationship has a better chance of working. My best to you both!
@else22 (4317)
• India
2 Sep 12
Take it easy.Such things often happen between husbands and wives.They sometimes quarrel on petty issues.Sometimes the quarrel escalates and they cease to be on talking terms.And whenever this happens,things take time to settle.It is good that you apologized to her.Now it is her turn to think over the whole matter with a cool mind.Wait a little.I hope,everything would be normal soon.I agree with you that silence is the best solution.Keep silent or try to make her laugh,if possible.I have experienced that such quarrels sometimes add to better understanding between couples and sweeten married life.
• Philippines
1 Sep 12
In my opinion I guess it would be best to give her space. Give her time to think about the argument. You cannot resolve it by yourself but you cannot resolve it also if she is still angry. Because she stand by her opinion without weighing both sides. If you feel that you did not do something wrong I guess you don't have to say sorry. make her realize that you did not do anything wrong. But if you did something wrong, then you really must apologize to her.
@blinjk (617)
• United States
1 Sep 12
I think silence could do something and giving her space to think. I know she is also thinking about your quarrel. Just try to act normal and be nice to her I know she will realize that she also have a mistake.
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
1 Sep 12
I think that you should give her some time to herself and let her get over the fact of what has happened. Give her time and then try and talk to her later. Because obviously apologizing or trying to talk to her is just making things worse.
@pahak627 (4558)
• Philippines
1 Sep 12
I agree with you, silence is the best way to resolve it. Don't mind her.
• India
1 Sep 12
Oh oh! Seems the atmosphere at your home is quite heated up. Well, one thing that I liked about you in this situation is that you didn't let your ego stop you from apologizing to your wife. In my opinion, she also should have shown some maturity and told you that she too was sorry or at least should have forgiven you without complaining. But anyway, don't spoil your mood and give her sometime to realize about the situation.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
1 Sep 12
Well i feel sorry for the condition you are going through. I know the situation is very intense as you are not in talking terms with your wife. I think you should give her some time to think and very slowly try to convince her that misunderstandings does happen between a husband and a wife and you should try to resolve the matter with her first that was the cause of the tension. What say?
@Shavkat (137215)
• Philippines
1 Sep 12
You need to tone down the situation first. Women are sometimes tickle-minded, we need to have a lot of patience.
• United States
1 Sep 12
At times, even the bravest man has to let go of a quarrel no matter how correct he feels. You see most of the time, men believe that women have to be submissive all the time. However, there are times when the men need to calm down and handle certain issues in a cool manner. This issue now requires you to be cool and slow in getting angry so that your wife feels that she has a say. That is exactly how you are going to win her heart again and once she feels better, you can softly show her your point. Wish you a quick resolution.