When you just have to say how you feel...
By chiyochan
@chiyosan (30184)
Philippines
September 4, 2012 12:29am CST
And then you can't stop yourself / or you try to stop yourself from talking more or saying more than you should.. but its too late!! ha ha. Has this happened to you when you do not feel like you can just shut up because something is bothering you at a time, or over a situation, or how a friend, or someone has treated you and even if you try to just "forget about it" you don't seem to get over the idea and just have to say what you feel?
=)
How do you rant, exactly - do you usually confront the person or people involved and tell them and don't care no matter how or what they feel about it?
1 person likes this
4 responses
@kongno (431)
• Philippines
7 Sep 12
if i think i said that someone is hurt, i usually consult my family members and let them judge me of their reaction of what i said, then it will going to be an almost endless debate of differing opinion, that;s why i;ll just wait and see what would be the outcome, and to my surprise most people that i think was hurt to what i said did not bother at all,.. i just maybe being paranoid of having this always being careful of what i say in order not to hurt others...
1 person likes this
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
it is true that we have to be careful of what we say, sometimes though when we feel we have had enough of trying not to hurt others with our words, but they never care about their actions and words that they surely do not mind offending us... i think this i have to really voice out what i feel.
@kassych (16)
• Kenya
4 Sep 12
well, it actually depends, I keep quiet and try to think of what to say as I would not want to express my self halfway, then I try to use metaphors that the person will understand and to let them know that its not them but what they did. Am not angry or anything but their actions need to change... it takes a lot of strength to do that I have noticed but works better. Initially I used to keep quite and revenge in some way but now I know better.
1 person likes this
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
5 Sep 12
hehe hi there kassych. thank you for your response. i think it is really how people are and we react to situations differently and this is just as how we are really. Perhaps for me i really need to say what i have to say. i just have to learn how to filter what i say. :D
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
I understand about it.
I was tactless when I was younger but as I grow old I mellowed more and become more mature.
Now I understand more that words spoken hurts more and we cannot take it back anymore.
So, each time I am angry and felt bad towards a person- I tried to calm myself or walk away from the situation to cool down.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
I know, it is true that once we said things we can never-ever take them back. the thing is i know i have not said bad things, but said only what was bothering me on this instance and i kind of lashed out on this person. haha he said he took it positively as he knows what he is supposed to be doing instead. I just hope he is not bluffing me! ha ha
@fatlex06 (895)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
I just experienced that last week. Someone sent me a message on facebook and saying something bad against me and my family. It's so true that if your family is involved, it really hurts a lot. This woman don't know what she was saying. My boyfriend was with me that time. At first, I was so silent that I don't know what to say to that woman. But when I gained power, lol , I sent her a reply from her stupid messages. She was really absurd. She really don't know what she was saying. After a long chat, she realized that she was the one who is wrong. I'm thankful for that, but I told her that the pain that she caused me will not be fade away with just one "SORRY." Even until now, everytime I remember what she sent me, I'm still pissed and my boyfriend is getting sick with me. Haha. But I don't care. I will say what I want as long as I know that I'm the one who is right. That girl don't have the right to say against us, she didn't stay with us here. She didn't experience what kind of treatment her cousin is showing us. My mom also needs some respect. WE DON'T REALLY DESERVE THAT. And now I remember again! Good luck to my boyfriend again. Haha. :D
1 person likes this
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
5 Sep 12
i would haven reacted the same way, actually if you ask me.. especially when someone i love or my family would be put to this kind of being talked about or when someone tries to put their name to shame and saying so many things about them that is not true... =( i guess this is just as anyone would be reacting to.
Im glad that the person realized her mistake but then again, the harm is done. maybe at this point you can always just be open to accepting the person's realization and just be careful with how we are with them because they can always retaliate and be the same again in the future.
