The school district cops are closing in on me.....

Oh that stinks, so you are just over the line into the next district? I hope you can keep all your children there, but I can't help but wonder why you didn't use a transfer form right away? We live on the dividing line, so if I filled out a form, my son could go to the other school district, but I didn't, because without a car, he would have to walk up the street and over, which being on the lake, in the winter can be a rough walk..Besides, he likes the school he is in now, his only other option he would prefer is to be home schooled..lol

You rack your brains trying to keep your words not to move your children away from their friends.I admire you for the way you love your children.It seems that over there what school children will go to also depends on the district where their parents live in.

With us moveing at CHristmas time WE got to leave grand daughter in that school but had to put her this school here in this zip code area this year. SO fr she does like it and the teacher SHE pics friends carefully she will friend all but she will pick favorites

I responded to you and have just received a communication from Mylot that my text should be modified? What does that mean? To include only, letters, numbers, and standard punctuation. Dear Mylot - I know that ot was a long time ago but I used to teach English and Literature in a High School. I just don't know what they mean? Am now scared to respond! So I will whipser: Hope it works out okay Dawn. I will now tiptoe away to my tent.

I'm still biting my teeth about our situation. We wanted to keep my daughter in her school, though we moved out of the school boundaries. The drive is less than 5 minutes away, but of course the school doesn't care about that - boundary is boundary. So my daughter's teacher from last year (1st grade) has been helping us with this. She said just not to say anything. She said they actually will NOT check on the address unless my daughter tries to burn the school down - ha ha. Or get in trouble that she is sent to the principal - that sort of thing. She said put our old address down BUT it will be very important that we put the correct phone number on everything. She said if they send out stuff and it gets sent back, it will be given to the teacher to give to the student. She assures me at least 25% of the kids who go to our school do not belong there . . . so don't worry about being caught. But course I still worry. I know a couple families who have been caught. One mom freaked about it and told the office the truth. Well, she was told her son can stay for 2nd grade - but then he has to go. She shouldn't have said anything. The teacher also says wait til she takes the gifted test later in the year (as she thinks my daughter will surely pass). Apparently she would be an asset to the school - and the school will want to keep her. Then literally I could spill the beans if I need to. And if anything should happen, this teacher would talk to the school on my daughters behalf (wow, this teacher is sure going out for us!!!) if we should get caught before then. She said other kids in our old class were in the same situation, but she says she can't do much for them beyond telling them don't say anything. But she thinks she could help my daughter to stay. So here are the back up plans. One stay-at-home dad will sign for us as the before and after school caregiver as he is in the school boundary. He did that for another family we know who recently got caught. One mom friend works in a bakery nearby that is in the school boundary (her kid is there on her work permit) and she said she would "get me a job" - not really a job, but a letter stating that I work there so I could get the work permit. So there are other options . . . just have to be sneaky. Bottom line - if my daughter can pass the test to be GATE student, we are in. And if she can be there officially, that's my little son's ticket into the school in a couple years. And then getting into a better middle school and high school in the future, if we are still here, will be another story. Anyway, hope all your kids can stay right where they're at. I know, I totally do not want to move my daughter to our "real" home school - it's not a good school at all. See, now there is no GATE program at this other school - so hopefully my daughter can be able to stay here, that is, if she passes the test. Good luck, Dawn!!!!

Do not stress. I told you before that stress is not good. Now that you have written this letter, feel good that you have vented... and then get on with life. Take things in your stride. You can't change what's happening.

Usually, at least around here, once kids are in a specific school, they can keep the spot. This often allows their younger siblings to get into that school as well unless there are no spaces available at all.

Am sure you'll be able to find the solution for the best interest of your children.

Sometimes there is just too much paper work involved in this type of thing...just fill out a form that nobody reads...maybe just asking then if they are really listening might be a way to get someone's attention....and by the time everything gets situated you will probably have to transfer them back. I don't know why they can't stay. Here your kids can go to whatever school they want....even out of town. California might want to adapt the open enrollment thing there!

I know atleast here in NC, it's expensive to have to pretty much keep kids in another district when you live in a different one.. Not because of gas, Well not JUST because of gas, but because of the fees etc associted with it that the school board implements. Hopefully it'll be a smooth, and CHEAP transition for ya'll...

That is a huge pain. I remember having to move my children out of their district too and it was so tough. I hated having to do it...I tried everything to keep them there before having to finally move them. Kudos if you can work that out. Getting a job in that area will certainly help.

Things like that happen at municipal schools in my country too. But those schools can be very good or very bad, depending where we live. What many people do is cheating, providing their children have very good grades so that the principal can look elsewhere. They will find a friend or friendly ex-neighbor in the district and use that address for the school.

I'm not sure how things work where you live, but I know where I live that the school district is really good about allowing out of district students into the various schools as long as the school that they are attending is not overcrowded. For example, my niece was allowed an out-of-area for a school that is actually across town from where they live. My brother did decide at the last minute to allow my niece to attend their neighborhood school. Then there are a set of twins that are in Paul's class and they are out of area students but they go to the school that my children attend because their home school was actually so crowded that they had to turn students away.

Sounds to me you and your ex are still able to work together on this issue which is a good thing. Sometimes promises can't be kept, I think this is something your kids have to learn too. I wonder why your kids can not stay at the same school even if you live in an other district. But for now I would say: don't make (more) worries as you already have. At the time you really need to find an other school it's early enough to do so.

Dawn, I think you are on a worry cycle. I am very well versed with this cycle. The thing that happens is it becomes a habit, as soon as one worry is resolved you find another to take it's place. Pretty soon this become part of your personal mind set. If asked and answered truthfully, what is your purpose, would you be surprised to hear yourself say I am the family worrier? Believe me I have been there and if I am not very careful I get there again very easily. The way to pull myself out of this is to write it down, the subject of the worry, the importance of the worry and the value to me of having the worry. Since worry is useless, after I have seen all this on paper it does become pretty funny, also just the fact that I realize the none of it is world destroying and have a few tears for being so stupid, AGAIN and then a good laugh at myself, I can pick myself up, dust myself off and start to do something constructive. Try it, you might like it, and feel my hand on your shoulder while you do it. Life ain't easy, but there is always laughter. Blessings.