Public potty training

@dorannmwin (36392)
United States
September 5, 2012 12:13pm CST
We've all been there as parents and we know that potty training is difficult. It took my months to finally be able to get my son to use the bathroom on a regular basis, but I never took my frustration to this kind of an extreme. http://www.ksl.com/?nid=148&sid=21957105 (not a referral link, for discussion purposes) What do you think about what this mother has done with her little girls? Would you ever think of doing something like this with your children so that you would be able to get out of the house? Would you get up an leave a restaurant if you saw someone doing this with their children? Me, there is no way that I would have even been able to consider putting my children on a training potty at home while they were eating, so I definitely would not have done it in public.
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@ShyBear88 (59306)
• Sterling, Virginia
6 Sep 12
I haven't even started potty training my daughter yet. She doesn't seem ready for it but she is still not 2 yet. I would never bring a potty out in public. I would take that time to try to do it in the bathroom there after they are done eat or before they eat. I would also never strip my kids down to being butt naked either not even in my own house. The only time I've done that is when I had to rush my daughter to the bathroom to get a bath when got the stomach bug and was throwing up and and stuff all over here crib.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Sep 12
That kind of reminds me of something that Paul did early in the summer. He decided that he needed a suntan and he actually went outside on the front sidewalk in just his underwear to try to get a suntan. I had to get him to come back in the house and tell him that he really needed to have on a pair of shorts or swim trunks.
@ShyBear88 (59306)
• Sterling, Virginia
11 Sep 12
Today my oldest wanted to run around the house topless for a while and then she wanted to put her shirt back on put couldn't do it alone. It made her upset that she couldn't do it. She so wants to be independent and I let her try till she gets frustrated and upset. Early before that it was her pants so she was running around in the house in her diaper and shirt which doesn't bother me one bit but then it was time to go outside and we tried telling her she can't go out that way. Little kids are so darn funny.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
11 Sep 12
Little kids are extremely funny. I simply have to ask, how is the baby doing? How has it been adjusting to having two children instead of just one?
@kaka135 (14916)
• Malaysia
5 Sep 12
I think that is not okay at all. I suppose potty training is quite personal, we shouldn't make it public, and most of all, it affects others. I don't think it's good to be in public, anywhere else too, not saying it's in the restaurant, while others are eating, this is really inconsiderate of the mother. Also, I don't think this is a good lecture for the child too. We should tell the children to go to the toilet to pee or poo eventually, also we need to tell them it's private. I have a friend who potty train her kids in the living room, and let them watch TV. I don't think it's good too. It will build a habit that the kids will eventually need to do some activity when they poo, this is a bad habit and is not good for their health too. The kids are 6 and 7 years old now, and they still sit on a potty and watch TV in the living room, though they already learned going to the toilet.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
6 Sep 12
I do think that training the children in a room that is not the bathroom is something that can be a difficult habit to change. Now, I did allow my children to have a book with them when they went to the bathroom while they were training and there are still times that they will take a book into the bathroom with them today. However, at least they do insist on their privacy when they are using the bathroom.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
6 Sep 12
thats just gross. i should not be so shocked though as people are doing crazier and crazier things with their kids these days. its like most young people have no shame any more. i potty trained my 5 and 2 or 3 others i watched at times and never never would have shamed them like that. or myself.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Sep 12
Just like you, I didn't just potty train my own children, I potty trained my nieces and a couple of other children that I had as well. I realized that accidents did happen, but I wouldn't have ever done something like this that would have embarrassed them.
• United States
9 Sep 12
I would have been one of the people complaining very loudly to management about the situation. Ick... This is a form of child abuse... not to mention violating health regulations. Again, ick... File this one under "people who shouldn't be parents."
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Sep 12
This is definitely a case of someone that shouldn't be a parent. I can't help but wonder if the fact that the management of the restaurant didn't do anything about it at the time lost them business in the future?
@much2say (53942)
• Los Angeles, California
5 Sep 12
Oh my! That's just crazy! I definitely wouldn't take potty training to that extreme. In fact, that's not even potty training . . . the kids need to know there is a time and place for going to the potty (it is a private thing) - and doing that in the middle of the restaurant was NOT a place or time for it! The mother also stripped the girls down to nothing and let them sit there like that in public - geez, give them some dignity for goodness sake! I don't know how that would be handled. Do you tell the people at the restaurant they need to do something about this (surely it's breaking some "code")? Do you get the cops in on this? Do you actually go up to the parents and tell them a thing or two? Geez, just what was that mom thinking????????
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
6 Sep 12
I don't think that I would have personally been a person that would have gotten the cops involved. However, there is no doubt in my mind that I would have been one of the people that would have complained to the management of the restaurant about it and I would hope that they would have asked the lady to leave the restaurant.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
5 Sep 12
There is a time for everything and you can train your kid as much as you like but if it's not ready it's just a waste of time. You better show by your own behaviour (and others) that it's good to went to the toilet and give a hug/applause if they do so. I would not let my kids sit on a pot in a restaurant or at my dining table. But if they needed to go and I am on the road (and they are little) I would not mind to put them on the potty on a parking place or where ever. It's better (esp. if they say they need to go) as let them do it outside (which is not allowed over here at all). If it comes to training it's not about being in public but about the right time (kid needs to be ready). I think it's overdoing to say (complain) you can't leave the house for hours because you are training your kid. Never heard anyone say that in all those years (over 28) I am a mother.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
6 Sep 12
When I was potty training my children, I found that I was able to keep a schedule with them even when we were away from home. I would just take the children into the public restroom so that they could try to go to the bathroom. Now, I do know that there were more accidents when we were away from home, but I always thought that was something that simply came with the territory.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
5 Sep 12
I don't think anyone should do this....uck. In a restaurant? My kids trained at home.....not in any place public besides asking them if they needed to go when they started crossing their legs!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
6 Sep 12
When I was training my children, we did plenty of visiting public restrooms. However, we never considered allowing the children to use the bathroom at the table. Heck, even when I could tell that my son was trying to go to the bathroom during dinner, I would take him in the other room for a few minutes.
@shaggin (71678)
• United States
6 Sep 12
That is absolutely disgusting and so wrong. I cannot imagine how any mother would ever think that is ok. There is no reason for that she can do that at home if thats how she thinks you potty train your kids but no way should she ever do something like that anywhere else.
@Shellyann36 (11385)
• United States
6 Sep 12
I don't think that it is right for her to do this to them in public. She literally has her children naked in the restaurant and being on a potty is quite unsanitary in a restaurant. Potty training her children in this manner does not bother me on bit if it is done in the privacy of her own home.
@Shavkat (137237)
• Philippines
6 Sep 12
Potty training should be done in an appropriate place, like home. It should not be done in public, seems creating a scene.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Sep 12
I do think that children should be aware of the fact that there are times that it is appropriate to use a public restroom. However, I don't believe that any child should be taught that it is okay to use the bathroom in front of a lot of other people.