Appreciate their "smarts" and you get an egoistic brat;Notice their "effort" and
By inkyuboz
@inkyuboz (1392)
Mandaluyong City, Philippines
September 5, 2012 5:34pm CST
...you get a kid who knows he can "do better" next time.
I think this is true for most kids I know. I mean, there are people who grew up thinking they're really really smart because their parents always told them they're smart and they end up totally lost when they encounter failures.
And there are people who grew up being taught the value of putting an effort, of applying themselves, and most of these people know how to cope with failure compared to the people who were told they were the smartest ones in the room.
What's your opinion on this?
3 responses
@jenny1015 (13359)
• Philippines
5 Sep 12
Thst is true. I think parents should balance things when it comes to giving a boost on a child's confidence. Telling your child that he is alwsys the best could make him a self-centered person and would weaken him if he faces a big problem in the future.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
8 Sep 12
My nine year old daughter came home today telling me that she isn't smart and no one in her class is smart. She said that her teacher told them that they might be intelligent, but they really aren't smart because being smart is something that comes from their attitude as well and that is something that is very difficult to develop.
I think that this was something that was great for the teacher to tell the students because of the fact that this is something that will definitely keep the children's humility in check.
Now my Kathryn is a very intelligent individual and I've told her that she is smart before, but that is because of the fact that she is very humble about her intelligence.
