My daughter told me a huge lie! : (

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hello friends, m This is going to be long so thank you if you take the time to read it. These last couple of weeks have been a strain on my relationship with my teenage daughter. My daughter and I have always had a very open and honest relationship. We have discussed everything and anything that she wants. Recently, I found out that she lied to me, and I am so upset and disappointed. I willl start by letting you know that I allowed her to have a facebook account with the knowledge that I have the password and can check it anytimt I would like. She also has a cell phone and an Ipod touch that at any given time I can take and check. I used to frequently check them,but to give her some privacy and let her know I was trusting her, I have not checked it as often as before. I probably was checking only about 2 or 3 times a week instead of everyday several times a day. She had never asked me not to check it and so I figured that I would show that I trusted her more by not checking as often. Hert dad and I are divorced he also can randomly check them as he pleases. Well here goes. Last week she was with her dad and she had been feeling sick, so he left her at home with her grandparents so they can keep an eye on her while he went to work. Normally she would be home by herself. Anyways her grandpap went to check on her and did not realize that she was in the bathroom, so he walked into her room and saw that she was on facebook. He noticed that the person she was talking to was being very explicit and asking her what color panties she had and more! Needless to say her grandpap left her room and pretended he did not see anyrthing until her dad came home. He told her dad as soon as he was home from work. My daughter did not know that her grandpap knew that she was talking to this person so when her dad came home and asked for her laptop she had no choice to hand it over.Apparently the man she was talking to is an adult! She is only 15!! Well her dad was able to read the conversation and the man knew she was 15 because she told him. The worst part was that she responded to what he asked her.So that is the background for the question I have. I found out she lied to us because when we asked if she had ever sexted or spoke to this person before like this she denied it. She also had talked to him before late at ni8ght when she was suopposed to be sleeping. We went through all her facebook mssages and saw that they have done this before. He also offered to send her a picture of himself if she would do the same in their birthday suit! Thank goodness she did not do that. Anyways my question to you all is what would you do? How can I trust her or show her how to earn my trust back? We have taken everything away from her and have changed her facebook, e-mail and twitter passwords so she cannot access them. We also have blocked the guy's number from her phone and deleted his number. Withthat being said any suggestions would be most helpful.Thanks again for taking the time to read this.