Girls don't like me

@tessa9 (1085)
Philippines
September 9, 2012 1:33am CST
I don't understand why girls don't like me. I have more guy friends than girls. I think I am nice to them. I try to make conversation and they would just answer yes or no and not ask anything in return. It just seems that they are not interested in talking to me or anything. I was also bullied in school by girls. They would imitate how I walk because they say I sway my hips too much. They would exaggerate it and walk in front of me. I swear I am not doing it in purpose. They would also shout insults if I was walking with friends. Now that I'm don't with university, I still sense it in my work.
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15 responses
@subhojit10 (7377)
• India
9 Sep 12
hey it was pretty bad to hear about your condition at college. I think every body have their freedom and a life that they can wish to do anything they want. We are not born with any rules and regulations. we all have the right to decide whatever we want to do with our lives. it is very much disappointing to hear how people take pleasure at bullying others and dont even care about the feelings that person must be going through. I would rather say you to move ahead, do not care about the people. let them say whatever they want to. It is better to gave one good friend than many fake friends. What say?
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@annavi23 (6549)
• Philippines
11 Sep 12
Very true! It's better to have few tfriends who will be true to you than thousands of fake ones... They don't deserve being friends with. Cause all they care of is their ownselves.
@jalucia (1433)
• United States
9 Sep 12
It seems as if girls might not take you seriously. You know, we are always looking for the ultra-male/bad boy, until we learn better. I say you should just go for it. If you see a girl you are interested in, make a small attempt at conversation and just ask her out. I think the quicker they get to know you, the better shot you will have. It seems they have to get over their prejudged/superficial first impression of you and get to know who you really are. You just simply may be too much of a nice guy, a sweetie pie on first impression.
@jalucia (1433)
• United States
9 Sep 12
Oops, I'm sorry. I thought this was a guy posting this. I gotta pay more attention! Yeah so, girl, just do you!! Don't try to make friends, they should come naturally ... or they might not really be your friend.
@BigMoney25 (1273)
• Philippines
21 Sep 12
ignore them, live your life, invest in yourself instead and focus on the tasks you need to accomplish, dont worry about these girls, karma will always be there waiting for them to be revenged on.
@ARIES1973 (9910)
• Legaspi, Philippines
11 Sep 12
Well, I don't think it has too much effect on you. You were able to finish you study, did I get it right? Sometimes, other people think negatively on others especially if they consider them as better when in terms of figure and beauty. Just don't mind them what is important is you still have friends.
@silverfox09 (4721)
• United States
9 Sep 12
I have the same problem as you , I happen to make girl friends but they always seem jealous . I was never bullied because it dont wok on me so other girls would say I am acting like I am better than them . People can be quite mean and they never take the time to know you . I have gown to understand that people rather judge than to take time to know you . You will be face with this even at work , they never stop they just get older .
@sk66rc (4257)
• United States
9 Sep 12
Your situation reminds me of a girl I went to university with... I had a class with this one girl... She always had a dark glasses on even in the classroom... I've always wondered why the professor didn't say anything about it but I found out later she already has talked to the professor about her eye condition... I had suspicions as to why she was wearing dark glasses but I thought it was a personal thing so I didn't ask her anything... Unfortunately, other kids weren't so understanding... I heard kids giggling, looking back at her... Turns out she's legally blind... She can see shapes & figures when it's bright out but at the same time, it hurt her eyes... Nobody knew until one girl was picking on her & she took her glasses off & looked right at the girl without saying a word... Everybody could see tears in her eyes & they all could see her eyes were slightly deformed... Then she put her glasses back on, got up & walked out the class & never saw her again... I myself got into a car accident when I was little & pieces of broken glasses ended up in my eyes... Make a long story short, because of the accident, now I have a condition exactly opposite of night blindness... I can't see too well in a brightly lit places or when it's bright outside... It's almost like looking through a wax paper, always foggy... My point is, everybody's gonna be quick to judge no matter where you go... If things don't look what they perceive as normal, there always will be small group of people who won't understand... My belief always have been that I won't live my life based on other people's opinions & standards... Why let other people run or dictate your life? People that are close to you will understand & people who don't understand, you don't need them in your life anyway...
@eltobh (231)
• Indonesia
9 Sep 12
Hi tessa9. I don't think you need to worry about it. I also have more guy friends than girls. It is just because somehow I feel that guy friends are more reasonable or logical in the way they think, and I as a girl apparently in many times like the way guy thinks when I face problems. For the way that you sway your hips too much, well it's just you. Don't worry about it. You can show your other great qualities to avoid girls talking about you or bullying you.
• Portugal
9 Sep 12
tessa i guess they are jealous of you^^ like you say you have a lot of guys friends. so for sure they were envious that you didnt need to impress them for them to look at you. like they had to probably. dont worry for their teasings. if someone ever humiliate you again just dont pay attention to it. i know its hard but dont. if they see you dont give a damn about what they say they will leave you alone after awhile^^ trust yourself and dont let no one tell you that you are not good enough
@toniganzon (59713)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
Are you comfortable with having girls as your friends? I too have more male friends that female friends but it's because I chose to. I don't like to mingle mostly with females because i'm not really into gossiping. I like discussing about cars, politics, etc with the guys. I'm more of a guy friend more than a girl friend. By the way you have said it, it sounds like they are jealous of you. Girls don't like to be friends with someone they see as a competition.
@annavi23 (6549)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
maybe those girls are envious of you that you find it more easier to befriend those guys, which they can't. so they are bullying you instead to make it appear you are on the bad side. or they just don't like the way you walk cause it's not normal for them to se such. don' t mind them too much. if you know you are not doing harm to them, no need for guilt feeling. people are made special, no matter what...
@urbandekay (18306)
9 Sep 12
If you have two dogs both b!tches they will fight unless one is submissive and whislt dogs fight for dominance b!tches fight to kill all the best urban
@jricky1 (6801)
• China
9 Sep 12
Do not feel upset coz that's you and you have made them your good friends and treat them as your heart. Some people indeed do not worth it. Still be you and that's why some other guys still love you, and be true of you.
@aerous (13457)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
They maybe think that you are a gay or something else like that, friend. If no girls want you be their friend or more than that. Why not find some other place...not only in your place...
@humairaku (2039)
• Indonesia
9 Sep 12
I was just like you when I was in a school. I had friends who are boys than girls. But it wasnt because I or they didnt like me but because I felt more comfortable talking and having fun with boys than girls. Girls tend to be so spoil, dependent and selfish. That's why I prefer to make friends with boys than girls. But of course I also had few girl friends. I think it's better for you not to take care too much to what those girls said and done. They treated you bad cos they actually envy you. Maybe they really wanna make friends with boys but they are too shy or something. Just keep being yourself. I'm sure you have something wonderful inside you to show to those girls.
@jenny1015 (13376)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
I get the picture. it seems like you get to be insulted by these girls coz you get a lot of attention from boys and they have branded you as someone that could be a flirt ( excuse me for the term i used) this scenario is very typical if you make ypursrlf a lot closer than boys. even though you are not a flirt, you know how people could be judgmental at times. i suggest you look for ftiends thst does not judge you based on what they see but those that have the heart to see the real you.