anticipating what to feel for being a mom of first baby, are you a happy dad?

@missjahn (4574)
Philippines
September 9, 2012 8:59am CST
i am still single even i can say and even all of my friends would tell me that my age is appropriate enough in having a baby. oh yes, would gladly have after my graduation for plan to enter marriage life so and so. if my bf and i can see a cute baby, the two of us would stare with each other coincidentally and he would asked me always, when to have ours. we both knew when is the right time as we pray for it that we should stick to the plan. but anticipating conceiving a baby at your tummy of course, would made me happy and excited. i already creating names if the baby is boy or if it is a girl. but i guess, like my nephews and nieces, i gave them so called-names, nicknames, or even their first names when they are already born. well, you can give them a name based on your feelings and because of their appearance. of course as a parent too, you will think of the welfare of the child as one does grow to become a full pledge person. too many anticipations are playing in my imagination. but the most important is that we can have the baby healthy and away from sickness or illness. parents, what did you felt when mom is carrying the first baby? share please and thanks in advance :)
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visavis
@visavis (5934)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
Since I'm working abroad far away from my family. I always remember the first time when my wife said to me that she is pregnant. In that day I always imagine when come in this earth, the name for a boy or a girl. Sad to say 2 years straight before I've touch my son meaning he is already walking when I meet him personally. Exiciting and happiness when my vacation came and see him personally for the first time - but you know even he saw my picture he is little bit aloop to come with me. but being a father I'll try my best to become close to him which takes two weeks before he come with me, play with me and laugh with me..
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visavis
@visavis (5934)
• Philippines
10 Sep 12
Yes one thing I always thanking God of giving me a chance to show my feelings with my children even I'm far from them. Now they are grown to teens and my son is in college and daughter is in high school, our communication is always there. Thanks for the new technology, internet because I feel I'm with them everyday... I pray to God that our plan will not change for 3 more years here until my son completed his college in UP Diliman.... it is nice and very inspiring even small sacrificing there... but worthy
missjahn
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
10 Sep 12
congratulations... you are a responsible father ") you did it excellently. with prayers, your dream for your son will be a great achievement for the family and will be honoured to you and to your wife for the job will done. yes, agree with you that internet has a great role for having a communication of the relatives in far away places like of your situation. your children are lucky to have you and vice versa. :)))
missjahn
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
wow... a good father indeed. like before, the relationship we had with our father was not that close. as if we are afraid of him always. he looked like he is a very stern father to us. i do not like him around in our house. i want him to fled always so that i can live and breath freely. it happened because, i can see him rarely in years because he worked at far places. there would be time as i remember that i can saw him only once in a year until one day and i was a young lady at the moment that he already went home with us once a week. still the relationship is still the same. unlike my two other younger sister and brother that he was much closer with him because they grew with his presence. well, i knew that my father loved us all but still my feeling is indifferent with him. our relationship was okay but there is gap. no direct affection and so. but i love him of course. so now, i bet, you kid was so happy that you are making your ways to patched and catch the time you weren't able to held him for you are working abroad. good thing you did that to establish closeness between you and your son. thanks for joining in here :)
kongno
@kongno (431)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
it is really hard to imagine how a living human being is inside a mother's womb and slowly evolving, and when he/she is born, no words can describe the kind of happiness the parents would feel, good luck on your 1st baby, by the way it is also a good idea to name your baby with the combination of your(husband/wife) names...
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missjahn
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
congratulations, you reached a hundred level of participation now. work harder and be polite to all to achieve our much higher aim level or reputation. to say mine is hopeless, will delete this one soon if this one goes down, unless if there is someone who will like my statement and rate me positively. but i guess, this thing should go around here. but nevermind, what i said is out of topic back to the context, never had one so that is why never experienced a life is kicking at your tummy. observed plenty of happenings like this by my friends and sisters as they got pregnant. oh yes, i have a name already but do not like it anymore. i guess, i will rely to the feelings when held my baby in my arms. and they all said, the feeling is indescribable when you have your baby. gosh, how would it be. someday soon. hmm thanks for best wishes and for sharing your experience in here...
kongno
@kongno (431)
• Philippines
10 Sep 12
it is because of you all my friend that i should be thankful of reaching this level,i found that mylot really is a friendly environment, well yes the feeling is really indescribable having your 1st baby...
missjahn
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
10 Sep 12
yeah, you must be friendly here. and pertaining to have a baby at first time, already is anticipating how would it feel, the joy, the pain in labouring, the medication, the pre-natal, etc. - hope to enjoy all of it soon thanks
mermaidivy
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
10 Sep 12
Having a baby in your stomach is amazing especially once it starts moving. I felt bonded not until I heard my baby heartbeat at my midwife, since that moment, I realized that I was really pregnant and a little one is growing inside of me! During that whole 9 months, I was excited, nervous, worried... becaue I couldn't wait until to see my first baby7 but at the same time, I worried about his health, the labor pain, recovery without family help where I lived, stuff like that. As soon as I had my first baby, I felt so happy, knowing that he was born healthily naturally, it gave me a boost even though I was exhausted. I have 2 babies and they were both good experience, I'm hoping to raise them good and healthy! I wish you good luck in the future with your marriage and babies!
Jenny1015
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
The very first time i gave birth was a total surprise. i wasn't really aware that i was pregnant coz i had irregular periods. i did not give birth on a full term- the baby was just 7 months in my tummy. when i saw my baby for the first time i wasn't sure how i would react coz i was still young at that time, i was on my last few months of college, my dad doesn't know about it coz he was working overseas, am nit sure if my boyfriend would accept the baby as his own and of course i was worried with his family's reaction , too. to nake the story short, everything went okay. we got married about a month after ( civil wedding). Then 6 months after wr had our church wedding ofgiciated by the Archbishop of Manila. That was 17 years ago. now my son is in his 3rd year in College. How time flies!
Jenny1015
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
10 Sep 12
I am happy to share it with all of you and somehow othets would learn something from it. have a great day ahead!
missjahn
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
10 Sep 12
wow... affectionate story from having a baby and then to marriage then now, your kid is grown up already. whew! how was that? things really happened even out of the plan and God so nice to you. imagine, the baby was seven months old in your tummy before you knew that you are pregnant. gee, so good that nothing happened to him because, you should not be moving harshly that might harm you as you conceived. but have a story to tell. the girl had a stomach ache and then he went to the comfort room. her father was at the living room for the moment when all of the sudden, he heard a baby crying. as he discovered, his daughter is labouring and had a baby. the baby was fallen into the bowl and what is good, nothing happened bad to the baby. the father was so shocked how come he did not know that his daughter was pregnant. it really cannot be known because she is kinda fat girl. everybody thought that it was just a love handle. so that was it. the baby is big now. thanks for sharing your story in here :)
missjahn
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
10 Sep 12
indeed, it brought joy to my heart as read the context of your story. and amaze that the baby is not a grown up lad and in third year college now. soon you will have grandchildren . and they will call you grandma. wow life is that amazing. while you have it like that, me myself, have not yet started my life having a baby of my own - just okay. better late than never thanks again
Nezavisima Deskata
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
9 Sep 12
I got pregnant when I was quite happy and I'm happy. sense to bear their own thing something is torn from you one little creature that nine months has evolved into your belly is amazing. after he was born even greater thrill I was pregnant with twins and feeling great when I was you imagine two at once. being pregnant give birth it's just a miracle God gives with being a mother for a child to rely on you for everything to raise a family to give him to behave well and do it man! It just can not be described in words. I wish you a slight birth and your baby is alive and healthy way to test him alone!
missjahn
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
good job... wow, twins! i cannot imagine how painful would it bear during your labouring time. i cannot describe the feeling now as i read your texts in this discussion. i guess, as all the moms and dads would feel mix emotions like there is happiness, excitement, anticipations of the things parents can do for their child's future. indeed, bearing a life would be a gift from God. thanks for participating in here. thanks for best wishes. i hope to have a healthy baby someday!
aadrkumara
@aadrkumara (32)
•
9 Sep 12
Become a mother is a number one dream of every one of woman. Also is is a grate promotion given by the nature. But waiting long time to get marry will result to hard delivering a baby. The suitable age is 18 to 25, because result is a healthy baby. I am a father of two cute sons in my 32nd. My best wishes for Missjahn.
missjahn
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
thanks for that. hmm... they are scaring me that my age is not healthy to have a first baby but i am not scared of it. i believe in God to interfere in my life most of that time and situation someday sooner. and i am praying with HIM not to have it for now because i am still studying. hope to have it next year hopefully and prayerfully no matter what would be my state with myself and with my boyfriend. i am not just ready as of now but anticipate to have it next year. thanks for the best wishes and congratulations for being a father of two cute sons. i guess you are proud of being a daddy. thanks for joining in here :)
missjahn
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
10 Sep 12
ahaha... so much of wanting a baby but the intense plan to have it after i graduated. i do now want to mess up with life and would choose what to prioritize. do not risk my study and so the time spending with my baby. it is alright, if it is meant for me now or having it later, then so be it. i believed God has a great plan for me which i am trusting and putting my confidence therewith. He knows best for He is mighty and mercifulness. thanks for joining in here :)
aadrkumara
@aadrkumara (32)
•
10 Sep 12
Thanks dear, So i don't say you are not in a healthy age. I said you are in a critical age to deliver a baby. Because of if we miss a one year we have to spent another year to looking baby. Hurry up, while studding you can get marry and then think about your baby.