Children naturally have to take of their old parents
By micha5088
@micha5088 (554)
Malaysia
September 10, 2012 1:50am CST
My mother is a diabetic. She is under medication now and I regularly bring her to the hospital for her doctor's appointment. I don't mind taking time to bring her for her review, as I am her daughter, so it is my responsible to care for her. My mother is not living with me. She lives with my two brothers and younger sister. So, I expect them especially my sister, to dress her up properly before I pick her up. It is a long queue in the hospital and we usually spend about three hours for the visit. I am quite impatient sometimes with her because she walks so slow and dress up messily. Recently, she walked even slower. I wonder what was the matter. I scolded my sister for not preparing her clothes. Then I found out that she has been having bladder problem for quite some time and most of her clothes are probably wet. That's why she looked a bit untidy and afraid to walk fast. My mother also doesn't talk much nowadays, when she does we usually do not understand what she is talking about. My poor mum! So, I am going to prepare her some new clothes because I cannot depend on my brothers and sisters. Once in a while I will bring her out to have some fun like visiting places of attraction, go eat at restaurants etc. Sometimes I am afraid, I am not sure how to care for her as I can be very impatient, my weakness. I need to have patience, patience, patience...one day, I too am going to be old so I must treat my old mum and any elderly people gently, kindly and warmly.
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5 responses
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
10 Sep 12
Oh, that's great to hear. You're such a loving daughter even you are impatient at times. Yes, our parents took care of us patiently too when we were younger. Imagine how naughty we were or how bad we were but they did their best to become patient and raised us up properly. However,I'm not saying here that all children were bad when they were young. LOL. It's about time to take care of them too when they grow old. They really love us and gave us everything they could ever give. It's too sad when the time comes that they can no longer walk with us or even talk to us. May you and your brothers and younger sister enjoy your time with her. Time is too short to waste. Make your mom the happiest as she made you the happiest children before... Happy mylotting.
@micha5088 (554)
• Malaysia
10 Sep 12
Yes, one day we will grow old and probably not healthy too, who knows. My Mother has spent years of her life taking care of us. I remember there were painful times that she had to endure when I was still small. She doesn't always share her pain with us. When she was younger, she befriended some friends who were not 'good'. So, she didin't always make the best decision as a mother. But it's all in the past now. All it matters now, as life is too short for finger-pointing, is to forgive her, care and love her. I hope I can do it and overcome all the challenges ahead of us. I know I will never regret doing this. Thank you for your kind words.
@snookms (53)
• United States
13 Sep 12
Everyone should take care of their elderly parents. I have in past worked at facilities where some people put their family members and never even bother to visit them again. It is just heartbreaking to see those people so sad. I do understant that people do have their own lives but that does not mean just forget about your parents. Your parents gave you life and took care of you when you needed at least most of them do. One day when your parents are gone if you do not help them out you will surely regret it. Both of my parents have passed away but I never regret helping to take care of them when they needed me. I have at times thought I did not do enough for them. But please understand when the elderly wet themselves or can't do things as good as they used to it is very disturbing to them. They get upset and embarrassed about needing the help and the best way to help them is to just be there for them and reassure them that you understand and do not mind to help them. Do not forget someday everyone gets old and you never know what kind of shape you will be in and what kind of help you may some day need.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
10 Sep 12
The very pre-requisite for a person is to know what we are. We behave differently with different people depending on who they are. We will be respectful with a teacher whom who taught us. We may be funny with our friends, serious with doctors and advocates and naughty with children and the behaviour with our bosses will be again in a different fashion.
So, prepare ourselves to deal with different people is a must. Now you are aware that your mom is weak and having ill health. Sometime we lose temper and may not have patience. But we realise what and why. The power of understanding on our environment and situation is the main discriminating nature of human beings with others.
We should always act in their role and we will realise what we need to do. Anyway, whatever we do, it should be from our own heart. If your sister not capable of doing things in a decent manner, tell her nicely, how to do it. And also, elderly people may be slow or not upto the mark how we think. Just cooperate and understand, I think you can do it so easily.
Regards
Regards
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
Any mother would be so happy to have you as her child. I wish my kids would do the same t me when I get old.
@violann (436)
• United States
10 Sep 12
Your last statement makes me wonder??? are you taking care of her because you love her or are you hoping that you are putting out so called good karma. Sounds to me like you're doing it out of so called duty and not love.
I was in a similar situation a little over a year ago. My mother needed full time care. I gave up everything to move in with her to take care of her because I love her not because it was my duty. I have 5 bothers and sisters who anyone of them could have done it, but chose not to, I did. Not because of duty or expecting anything in return from my children or otherwise, because I loved her and still do. And I miss her terribly. And I am extremely thankful for the time I got to be with her before she past away.
The only way you are going to get patience is to take care of her because you love her not because you feel like you have to and hope someday that someone will be kind to you when you get old.
@micha5088 (554)
• Malaysia
10 Sep 12
You're right violann, I am probably doing it mainly out of responsibility but I am also trying to love her. You see I am not very close to my mother although she is my real mother. But I am working on it...our outings together sometimes accompanied by family members, hopefully can make our bonding grow strong. I am not very patient with stubborn people and she is very stubborn. But I really don't expect her to be perfect. I will try to lavish her with love and accept her with all of her current imperfections.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
10 Sep 12
do your duty please for the sake of love to your mother. tear-jerky me as i read this story. because u know, people do grow old and the most fear would strike my anticipation is so badly hitting me if that would concern with my mother. i cannot bear the pain to might what happened. been there to few situation like that when you know my grandpa was sick and so as my uncle. i do not want to connect that experience with my mom. so please God help all the sickly mothers out there
@micha5088 (554)
• Malaysia
11 Sep 12
Yes, we need to be nice to old and weak people regardless of who they are. It is what we're suppose to do unless something is preventing us from doing it like special skills to handle special problems (maybe like alzheimer, parkinson, dementia etc). I do think that being patient is the most important attitude or virtue that we must have to deal with old or people having these kind of problems.
