well I was wondering if anybody grew up the way I did??

@kylanie (1205)
United States
September 10, 2012 8:20am CST
When I was growing up my family had their picks you see I have a sister and two brothers and my sister was their pick and now I have two kids of my own and my sister has three kids the things my parents would do is they helped my sister get two nice cars they spent the money to go out to colorado to pick her up and all her stuff when her first marriage failed don't get me wrong they gave me a car I think as to say this is to make up for some of it but it did not and also when I had my kids they was at the hospital to see both of them but now they do stuff for her grandkids and when my son played softball they did not go to any of his games but went to the great grandkids games and now they talk about my daughter like she is a nobody that I really don't appreciate I mean thats crazy to talk about youre own family like that it makes me mad but my grandma taught me to respect my elders what am I supposed to say to them and really would it do any good.
3 responses
@cassije74 (247)
• Philippines
14 Sep 12
Hi Kylanie! It's obvious you got jealous with your sister because she is your parents favorite isnt it? Well, that feeling happens almost all families out there. Instead of having an ill feeling towards them. Focus on the other positive sides that brings your families together. Maybe your parents has their own reasons why their attention to your sister is quite different compared to you and the rest of your brothers. Is she the only girl in the family? Or maybe the youngest? I also experienced that kind of thing before when i was a little girl, i usually sense something not right regarding the love and affection given to my elder sister. Actually i am the second, and i have a younger sister too. Hmmmm... i can say, they care more to their eldest child than us (me and my younger sister) The good thing is that, my mother explained to me, their reasons of their extra care and attention towards their eldest daughter. Well then, it all depends how much explanation or at least the parents should explain their sides too why the treatment is so special or something. And for me, although i had doubts and questions in my mind. Sometimes it helps to ask our parents and say openly with our hearts what happened inside and that something not quite normal or imbalance ah. Especially when family members are involve to avoid conflicts and misunderstandings. Troubles often comes when left unattended. Things to consider : 1.Never compete each other especially towards brother and sister. 2.If you sense favoritism in the family, say it openly with thankfulness. Sometimes parents never notice that. And by doing so, they may also be aware of showing it fairly. 3.Accept the fact and reality, whatever their reasons or feelings are. Stick to what is good and for the benefit of your family members. 4. Learn to correct and apply what is right and overcome situations like this to your present families or future family. 5. Think positively, allow yourself to remember good traits your parents, brothers, or sisters shared on you. 6. Never keep yourself at a distance. Keeping distance is not the solution and in fact it creates rebellion. 7. Do not expect each other to be just what you want it to be. Each of us has our own freedom. 7. Most of all, enjoy being with your family. Family bonding is a must, and must be treasured while you can. May it helps you enlighten the facts! God bless ...
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
12 Sep 12
In our family while I was growing up, I have to say that there really wasn't a favorite child. However, to a certain extent, now that my mother is a grandmother, it does somewhat seem like she has a favorite. That is my daughter and I honestly think that the main reason that she is the favorite is because of the fact that she is the oldest. My mother was also there when Kathryn was born and from the time that she was born, she always really took to my mother. Kathryn was almost four years old by the time that her brother and first cousin were born and I do think that also might be part of the reason that she seems to be my mother's favorite.
@Shavkat (136863)
• Philippines
11 Sep 12
In some point of our lives, we can not avoid siblings rivalry or favoritism in the family for that matters. That's really a very frustrating to you, but you need to be strong. Try to divert yourself something, like take good care of your children. You can educate them for being a better individuals.