never been look good to others

September 12, 2012 10:24pm CST
for some months now, i have been trying to loose some weight and thru the process i know i am loosing some, and i can feel it too and i can fit into my old clothes, but then to some people, like old friends, relatives of my husband, they always see me as this fat girl years back, they kept on teasing me how big I am etc etc. :( sometimes i loose my confidence and i don't want to go out and see friends, ive been afraid and irritated at the thought of hearing those not so nice to things about my body, i am happy with it and i cant celebrate that happiness everytime i hear those teasing words of them :(
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13 responses
@Shavkat (137201)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
I feel bad with your friends or some loved ones of yours. They should not tease you with such. Try to talk to them, not to brag about it. The good thing, you feel comfortable with your body.
13 Sep 12
i feel bad for them too, cause they were missing much more on me, cause all they see is that side of me... i can be more that that.:(
@jazzyrae (1745)
• United States
13 Sep 12
Don't let them get you down. Get yourself where you want too be and get confidence tho know you are beautiful with out looking for anyone s opinion. Do it for you or it won't work. Good luck
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13 Sep 12
thanks for your response :) ill try to ignore them, ill practice more patience :) GBU :)
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
13 Sep 12
There are times that I want to make rebuttal against them when somebody is criticizing me in wrong way. Time will tell but I am really going to do that. I already told my boyfriend that there will a time that whenever there is party gathering and they were the one who cooked it I will bring my own food there and I want them to see that I am not interested with the food they cook. How could I lose weight if I am going to eat their food that is full of cholesterol? did they helped me? Or they just intend to insult me? Isn't that calling you names is part of disrespecting you as well? I find it stupid for other people when they are criticizing your body they won't help you but let you eat what is not right for you.
• Pasay, Philippines
13 Sep 12
I am not yet doing that but I am planning to especially if I am going to a place wherein I don't like the person.
13 Sep 12
u made me smile you bringing food to a party :) youre cute :) thank you my dear :)
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@adnileb (5256)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
Don't be sad. You are not alone. I AM FAT TOO. But I call myself "chubby". The greatest weapon for that feeling is confidence. Wear it everyday and you will feel different. Don't feel so down whenever they tease you. Instead, you go with the flow. Make the first move or tell it first to their face that you are fat. and they will become speechless. Admire yourself, as no one will admire you more but you. You are more beautiful when you yourself is admiring your own body. That is the time you will feel more confident. Trust me, I am fat and that's what I do. When my boyfriend's relatives tell me that I am getting bigger, I tell them, "It's so nice to eat, especially delicious foods." Then, they just ignore me being fat. Don't take it too hard on yourself. What you can do now is to be on a diet. At least, that's the least you can do aside from being confident. Goodluck!
@adnileb (5256)
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
Thanks, kris! We just have to make them feel that we are proud of what we have (like fats?)
@kris3rdE (156)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
Salute for you Adnileb! very well said.
@pahak627 (4558)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
That's good as you are determined to lose some weight. It's really heard to lose weight specially that we are used to eating great amount of food. Keep it up.
13 Sep 12
yes i know, we filipinos, loves rice.. haha :) that's why i have to be active to burn my bad intakes :). thanks for the response :)
@almond24 (1248)
• Hungary
13 Sep 12
Don't listen to them, they are jealous because they can't make the same effort you made to lose weight Seriously, try not to care of what they say, I know it's very painful when they think it's funny to tease you about it, I wonder if you can let them know that you want them to be happy about it and don't need them to take your confidence away. This is so mean of them, everyone has weak points and they wouldn't appreciate it if you teased them about it the way they tease you. Congrats on losing weight, you did an amazing job, don't get discouraged.
@deazil (4723)
• United States
13 Sep 12
Hey! I just gave you a pep talk up there. Get out and feel good about yourself!
13 Sep 12
haha, id like to believe they're jealous, ill keep that in mind :) i hate confrontation, thats why i just stay home and dont do much socializing :(
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Sep 12
joan a pox on those judgmental people.do not listen to them at all.You have faith and confidence in yourself and be happy with you ,throw back your shoulders, hold your head up and smile. you are somebody , you are unique and you are doing something for yourself so do celebrate yourself.
13 Sep 12
thnks for the response Hatley.. ill try my best to ignore them and bring back my confidence
@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
well, do not mind them as long as your happy person. do not let there teasing spoil your mood. you have more important things to do. getting conscious with your weight would only make you fl depress. just think positively and you starting to lose. just do not over do as you would might get the chance to get back to the same habit of your fast style. so changing your diet might help but be sure you still stay healthy.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
Just continue with losing some weight joan. Do not be bothered by others' teasing. As of now, they will not be able to see that you have indeed lost some weight. But in due time , they will. So, keep up that spirit. Go girl!
13 Sep 12
thanks for your response..you guys are so supportive.. thanks fellow mylotters :)
@deazil (4723)
• United States
13 Sep 12
Congratulations on losing some weight! Not everyone can do it. Many people don't have the willpower to stick with it. You have determination and self discipline. Those are qualities many people lack. Your detractors are losing the one thing they had to make fun of you about. So they continue anyway. Even if you are not a skinny beanpole they have no right to be hurtful. Maybe you should let them know that what they're doing is mean. You should ask them how can they say those things to you? Those are not the words of love and caring about someone. Encouragement and kindness are the things we give to our loved ones. Tell them that. Teasing has a place. When it is about something personal - your weight, looks, mannerisms - it is not teasing anymore. It is cruel and is a form of persecution. Tell them this. For yourself, continue to feel good about what you're doing. As I said, not everyone can do it. If you read something that you find inspirational or something that makes you feel good, cut it out and carry it with you. When the disparaging remarks start take it out and read it and smile. They will wonder what are you so happy about. Don't tell them. Smile and put it back in your pocket, knowing that you are a better person than they. Laugh at them because you know much more than they ever will. You know how to be good and kind. Anyone can be mean and hateful. It takes a special person to be like you. Good luck!
13 Sep 12
thank you for you kind words, i really appreciate what you have said. thank you :)
@STOUTjodee (3572)
• United States
13 Sep 12
You're the one who knows if you've lost the weight or not. I'm sorry to hear though that you have no one to support you or recognize that you've lost weight. Don't let them discourage you from losing weight if that's what you want to do. Congratulations on losing weight!
13 Sep 12
yes I know, but what irritates me is, i know ive slim down but they dont see it. my body changed in terms of shape, but nobody appreciates, and much more they say it loud in front of others who doesn't even know me :(
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
Don't mind them. I have been on the South Beach Diet for eleven days now and I am feeling improvements. Other people don't though. But that's okay. I am perfectly happy with what I have achieved, even if they didn't notice it. Don't let their words make you feel bad and don't let their indifference make you go back to your bad eating habits. I can't understand why society is sooo mean to fat people. As early as grade school, kids get teased a lot. It brings one's self-esteem way below! I should know, I have been teased a lot before too and now one of my daughters is too.
@kris3rdE (156)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
I know exactly how you feel. After giving birth to my children it's really hard for me to loose weight. And to be honest I really don't mind if i'm curvy but it pisses me off when someone make a joke out of my figure. If slapping is legal maybe I'll slap every people I know. Lol Well I just ignore them.