Growing Old ..Opting to Live with Family or in a Retirement Home?

Life is now.....enjoy it. Face problems/situation like this as they come. I hope I live my life until I am 50 or 60.

Don't be afraid to be alone. Being alone does not mean you will be sad or lonely. It is fine being alone as long as you have money to spend during old age. What I actually fear is being dependent upon family for my necessities. I have always been independent and I don't want to become a responsibility. What is more important is to work hard today and save enough for retirement. This way you gain independence to do as you wish. There are many old old people in their late 80's who still enjoy a good life because they have taken care of their physical and emotional health. However, if worse comes to worse in old age, I think I prefer staying staying in a retirement home because I don't want to impose on family.

If the thought of growing old is already scaring you, then believe me it has already taken five years out of your life. In a recent survey, it was found that the most happiest people across the world falling the range of age above 60. This is because at that age, you dont have many expectations in our life and you are satisfied and content with whatever you have in your life. So I would suggest, you should be happy that you are growing old, probably you are inching towards the most happyful years of your life. Live your moment, past is history and future is a mystery.

It's good that you are giving this thought now. Some people don't do any planning and are pretty much stuck when they cannot take care of themselves--or their families are left scrambling to find a facility. There are nice assisted living facilities and nursing homes. Some places have tiered care. You can start out in the assisted living side and, should the need ever arise, move to their nursing home. When my boyfriend's mother ended up in a bad situation due to overmedication, we were left scrambling to find a good nursing home that would be able to handle her particular needs. Thankfully, we did find a good place. However, it wasn't easy. Good facilities can have long waiting lists; one place we had contacted at one point (when we initially thought she might remain in the state where she had been) had a three year waiting list. Of course, many people are now opting to move into 55+ "active living" communities. What is available varies widely. However, this option has certain limitations if the community hasn't been designed to provide care for the residents when and if they need increased assistance. Look at what is available in your area. Take a tour of some places if you would like. It doesn't hurt to look now--not just for yourself but also in case someone you know should need a place.

The system of joint family is non existent these days which has forced seniors to seek senior homes to spend their twilight years. When youngsters see no future in their own home town they are forced to leave their shores seeking greener pastures. Many a time it is the seniors themselves encourage children to do that. Housing being a nightmare there is not enough space in homes to accommodate a growing family. If elders are left alone to fend for themselves that again is a worry for the children as they truly love their parents but are helpless when they find their parents cannot manage life on their own, what with no domestic help being available. A well run senior home is the only answer.

Though I'm still young about thinking that disposition, I think it is fitting to think forward. If I grow old with no one to take care of me, I choose to be in retirement house. But nothing compares of having your family beside us, they are there to help us in our activities of daily living. It will depend on the situation - if I have my family and they are willing to have me, i will be gladly to be with them. Thanks

I would probably want to go in one of the retirement homes where you still have a place of you're own you just have people looking in on you taking care of you making sure you have everything you need. I don't like the thought of being alone either and I wouldn't want to invade in my family's life either to make it uncomfortable for them. Unless they really suggest me staying there then I would.

Growing old with your family around is the ideal situation for me. I think if you have lived with you children harmoniously until they become adult is one assurance that you have founded a solid family where love and concern for every member is part of family life. And this is i think is reason enough not to fear growing old.

I'd like to live with my family if possible and of course with my husband. I hope I could save enough in preparation for our old age. But I don't want to stay in this world that long that I cannot move anymore. Just enough maybe.

In my country, we don't have facilities for retirement home. In our culture, we don't think they need to be in that kind of set up. But, it is inevitable that some elders were been abandoned, they were taking good care of social care services.