Forgiving easily... are you the type?

@chiyosan (30213)
Philippines
September 15, 2012 1:50am CST
I am not sure about you, or others... but with me, this is the case. when people do something that offended me, or has hurt my feelings, if they show me or has said sorry to me, i can easily forget the thing/s they did almost instantly and would rather forgive right away and just a few minutes it would be gone already! =) I am just not sure why i am like this, my mom even told me that i might be too nice or too kind and that if i am like this all the time, people will take advantage of my kindheartedness. I think though that i do not need to carry the burden of being angry, or offended. Yes if the person does not seem to want to say sorry and patch things up.. i move on but do not carry any hatred in my heart. if they ask for forgiveness, i accept it with sincerity and i no longer dwell on the past mistakes, is all.
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@jenny1015 (13376)
• Philippines
15 Sep 12
I am very much easy to get along with. I am very friendly to the extent of being abused by others. I try to understand every bad situation thrown at me. But if you have hit me below the belt, it would take some time before I could actually think of ever talking to you again.
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@chiyosan (30213)
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
i think i can say i am like you too, i forgive easily, forget what was done to me and sometimes i feel i just do not need to carry the burden... even if the person did not say sorry... =) but then of course there is always a limit. i know what would make me really lose my temper on someone and start lashing out. :P
@jenny1015 (13376)
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
You are definitely right!. That would teach them!
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@chiyosan (30213)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
he he thank you jenny! have a great day and happy mylotting!
@oyomesan (115)
• Netherlands
16 Sep 12
I think it's very generous if you forgive easily. I suppose I do too, but maybe it's just that I shrug it off and move on. People have hurt me in the past by lying or betraying me, and I just forgot about it and moved on. Usually they didn't even say sorry to begin with but continued being friends with me. I do not want to have my heart filled with hate, anger, resentment. It affects me negatively. I'll forgive... but it does greatly depend on the situation, deed and circumstances.
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@chiyosan (30213)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
That was the case for some things done to most of us by people.. i guess not everyone wants to be forgiven and still sticks with their known fact they did nothing wrong thus there is no need to say sorry. i guess its just about how we are. maybe that is what i am really. i need not hear them say sorry but if we do have a good relationship and it was a little matter, if we just hug and talk again i know i already have forgiven the person and has moved on from the hurt.
@thaMARKER (2505)
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
i seldom get mad and whenever i am, its gonna be a problem. Its goin to look bad when im mad so i super rarely get mad. Now, whenever someone upsets me, i just dont talk or respond until everything and everybodys cooled down. Then sleep it through then ill be fine. I forgive, smile, hug, talk about it but rarely forget hahaha..
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@chiyosan (30213)
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
hi there themarker. thank you for sharing with us. It is true that when we are emotional or too angry.. we should just try to calm ourselves down first before talking with the person because we do more things or say more that can hurt others.
• Indonesia
16 Sep 12
In my opinion, forgiving easily is a very good trait. It's not good to keep your resentment to others because that could be just hurting your health. However maybe what your mom concerning about you is that you will be taken advantage of by someone, I think that's just natural instict to protect you. In my opinion keep always your kindhertedness but don't be easy to be taken advantage of, So "be as shrewd as snakes and as innocent as doves."
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@chiyosan (30213)
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
thank you random art. my friends and family think so too that i do give out forgiveness easily.. sometimes i forget too. but then i understand that they are only concerned about me and yes it is all about people who might take advantage of us when we are too giving of something that others do not even deserve anymore.
@sender621 (14933)
• United States
15 Sep 12
Being able to forgive smeine is oart of the ealing orocess of life, zi thin we should find forgivrness easily. Life is full of pain and mistakes. Learning to forgive them should come with coimpasion and care. Forrgetting is much more difficukt to deal eith then forgiveness.
@chiyosan (30213)
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
thank you sender for your response. yes it is hard to forget, and though before i thought it is much easier than to forgive. he he ;) happy mylotting to you
15 Sep 12
Yeah!its nice but not everything easy to forgive some people very weeked then can intertionaly bite you and say sorry,God can not forget the person who know this thing not gud and is doing it
@chiyosan (30213)
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
hi murry, it is always good to be cautious when we forgive those people as actually even if we forgive the person who has hurt us, we know that the relationship won't be the same again because there will be that something that has ripped the bonding and that sure will prevail.
@jricky1 (6801)
• China
15 Sep 12
Everybody get hurts once, but i'm the person who says that i'm not gonna forgive but actually did. For i think i'm an emotional person and easy to get moved, so i will judge how serious is this matter to me.
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@chiyosan (30213)
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
Hi there jricky, thank you for sharing with us how you decide on the forgiveness part. It is always best to be able to do that... =) at least with that we know we are careful and we are deciding wisely. happy mylotting.
@namiya (1644)
• Philippines
15 Sep 12
You have a very nice attitude however your mom is right as there are people who take advantage of someones kindness for their own selfish interest. I can easily forgive too but forgetting the offense done depends on the offenders intention in inflicting it and the damage that i have suffered. That is i could be friends with him/her again completely as if nothing happened if offense was done without malicious intent but if it was a grave one and it affected me greatly (either physically, financially or mentally) then i could still be friend to her with reservations and could not just reinstate the trust that was destroyed between us.
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@chiyosan (30213)
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
Hi there namiya... i know that there is always those things i can forgive and forget easily. I usually do not dwell on the things done to me. But you are right. there also comes to my mind about things done to me and the intention and how much it has caused me.. like being cheated on and so on.. it sure was a long time before i got to say to myself and to the person that i have let go of the hurts and i forgive the person. It took time but i still ended up forgiving the person.
@Visdude11 (211)
• Norway
15 Sep 12
Friend, people like you bring peace. If everybody were like you, then the world would be a better place without war. You should be proud of your kindness :)
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@chiyosan (30213)
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
oh my, thank you so much visdude... i just felt that i am like this and i forgive easily and do not hold grudges. perhaps in my little ways, i am able to bring peace, but only to those i come in contact with... =)
@vycess (1588)
• Saudi Arabia
15 Sep 12
That is a great attitude. Forgiveness is hard to give when we are hurt but the time will come when we should forgive other people. We are not perfect, we also have mistakes. God forgives us for our sins so who are we to not forgive others? Hence, that attitude of yours is a good on to keep, I can say that your a kind and loving person.
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@chiyosan (30213)
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
Hi there vycess, it is true that out of love God forgives us... We are forgiven and we are forgiving too. For me, when you forgive we do not really demean ourselves. we only uplift ourselves actually because we release the negative feeling we have in our hearts and with that we feel better too. forgiving is not only an act we do for that person but also with ourselves.
@grkelly (1216)
• Malta
15 Sep 12
I guess it depends on the situation. And also on the outcome of the events and lack of sincerity. Forgiving is never easy as one is bound to be hurt. But in our religion we learn that we need to forgive even those who are our enemies, and we also have to try and love them. However, for me forgiving and forgetting is not easy.
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@chiyosan (30213)
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
it is quite understandable for people to not forget easily and not forgive those who have done them wrong and who has caused pain. but then the end state really is that you should free yourself of the burden you carry and try to be happy as much as you can, too.
@xavier_sh (222)
• Nepal
16 Sep 12
Forgiving easily or taking the argument in a long way depens upon ones habit. but always these forgiveness donot work. forgiveness depens upon the type of misbehave done. Somtimes we need to keep it longer to make them feel what they have done was really wrong. but keeping every argument and disussion longer isnot good. one should be friendy, foriveful and loving. YOur habit i donot say is wrong but you should make yourself strong onyour own side...
@chiyosan (30213)
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
thank you so much for your response i try to make myself strong too, but then i do not really see myself being forgiving as a weakness. i still do try to make myself become the person i am and much more... hayz..
• India
15 Sep 12
I would say I might forgive, but not forget . Actually I dont go for revenge and all. If somebody does ssomething bad, I just move away from that person and never gets in touch with him again. But I see to it that I let hime know that his actions have ben cruel. So I cnt say I forgive, but I never try to hurt the other person. I just dont like wasting time on destroying someone else's life.
@chiyosan (30213)
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
oh yeah, of course going for revenge only adds burden and it won't help and won't even make us feel better or sleep well at night. We all forgive, at different levels, and times as to how much we can say we forgive someone.. it wall depends on whom we give our forgiveness, and to what kind of situation was it and it the forgiveness is deserved. But it is correct there is no point in losing your life yourself by destroying the lives of those who has hurt you.
• Philippines
15 Sep 12
That is honestly a good attitude. I don't why your mom wants you to be the opposite but in my opinion it is totally better to not hold a grudge against someone. I am not a person who forgives easily. If someone apologizes to me, I forgive but maybe after 3 to 4 hours or after a day. I have to think first before accepting apologies. If someone don't say sorry to me then I won't be able to move on and I will keep ignoring this person. I want to be like you.
@chiyosan (30213)
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
my mom just noticed that i seemed quite easy to forgive and not really about her wanting to change how it is.. she just worries that i might just be abused by it or that i get hurt in the process more. on the topic, forgiveness does come with a great courage for the one who gives it if you ask me, and well i think that sure is worth to give anyway. when you gather up the courage to forgive as well as let the person yet have another chance to do the same mistake to you again.. but then its all not on you who gives because the reward is still great - as you are lifted a heavy burden.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
15 Sep 12
Yes I'm the type of person that don't keep my feeling of resentment to others that long. I just thought they are the one who will carry those sins not me. As for me life is to short and I don't want to ruin it with anger and hatred.
@chiyosan (30213)
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
thank you lyn.. that is quite a good attitude. =) we know for sure that we would be living life to the fullest if we do not carry so much baggage that would weigh us down. =)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
Just like you, also forgive easily. Im just so soft-hearted if somebody says sorry or shows kindness to me again. but i don't want to be taken advantsge of. if that happens I would teach the person a lesson.
@babyeve (1049)
• Seychelles
17 Sep 12
I used to forgive easily, but not anymore. The reason for that, is that people from the past have taken my kind-hearted act for granted and making a fool out of me. So in the end, I have decided that for some reason it better for me to just cut ties with these people who have the audacity to hurt me over and over again. The are so many good people out there that can make life worth living, so why should I waste my time with people who does not treasure our friendship. My Mum tells me that it is not nice not to forgive, but I told her that I have already forgiven those people, but I refused to be mislead by them and it is better if we just say 'Hi' and each lead different lives. Some people should learn to earn for forgiveness rather than just get it and then toss it away by repeating the same mistake again.