What should i do for my wife?
@Rohitt03011979 (249)
India
September 16, 2012 3:05pm CST
My wife has pursued her post graduation degree in commerce and now she wants to clear a competitive exam(NET) to be a lecturer,which requires so much time to study.we have a daughter and she is fully dependent on her for everything.my parents also live with us and my wife hardly gets time for preparation.but she wants to do something in life,wants to achieve a respectable position so she tries hard to manage some time for her study.but sometimes she looses her patience as she is not able to dedicate as much time as required .i m also worried for her as she has been very bright student but due to family liability,she hardly gets time for herself.what should i do for her?i m really worried.....
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@elsino91 (440)
• Poland
16 Sep 12
what about you? Do you study? or do you have a job? If you have a job and are earning money then perhaps you can afford a nanny or someone to take care of you daughter during the day while your wife studies. If this is too expensive then maybe either of you have a family member that would be willing to help out.
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@Rohitt03011979 (249)
• India
17 Sep 12
Ya i do job.we already have two maid ,one for cleaning our home and other for cooking,because except her all are working in my family and they go out in day time.i think just hiring people doesnot serve the purpose because managing many people at a time is a tough job.and that also requries time.
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@tetris15 (539)
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
Understand her more. If ever she'll be upset with the things going on, her studies and her responsibilities at home, make her feel that you are there to support her. With regards to your daughter that is fully dependent on her, try to get some of the duties or routines that she's been doing for your daughter. This is the time that you have to show your wife how much you appreciate her and just love her more and more. Good luck.
@Rohitt03011979 (249)
• India
17 Sep 12
Ya my friend i try to share my daughter's responsibility but she always wants her mother.but i try for sure.....
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@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
Oh, I guess the only thing you can do is to hire a nanny or a babysitter for your baby. Studying and taking care of your daughter at the same time will give her pressure. She can't concentrate for sure. Just try to giver her some time for her dream. That is to have a respectable position. She's a wife to be proud of. Not all wives are like her. Go and sow your undying love and support. Happy mylotting.
@Rohitt03011979 (249)
• India
17 Sep 12
Ya definately i m proud of her,and i support her for her dream.studying with so much liability is not a easy job.my parents take care of my daughter as well but still there is so much work to do at home.i just hope she does good in her exam.
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@Lastbrother (171)
• United States
16 Sep 12
I think you should schedule a time just for her to relax. Try treating her out to a spa or something that helps her relax. But you probably need to schedule it with her so that she can make it. Or make her a list of all the qualities that you love about her. Try to make her smile as much as possible when you can.
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@mangtony7451 (479)
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17 Sep 12
Hello my friend, greetings. You really are in a little complicated situation. I have read the other comments and all of them are true. I think it also good to talk to your wife about the whole situation. Analyse and weight carefully your plans and decisions carefully. One thing though, and I am sure about it, "If there is a will (and resources) there is a way". Good luck to both of you.
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@comike8 (59)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
if you love your wife you should understand whatever she want specially for her self. Because even if women's are already married they still have the freedom for their self specially when it comes to what they want for their career. The only important she should not neglect to your family especially your daughter.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
Well, it's really difficult to study when there are a lot of home concerns about. I think you should try to take the load off by helping with the things she needs to do, also solicit help from you daughter - after all, you and your wife reared her into what she is now, she has the responsibility to at least help out.
You could also hire some assistants for the chores. Just motivate your wife to pursue what she wants to pursue before the interest leaves her.
Have a great mylot experience ahead!
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Sep 12
rohitt oh I do feel for your wife.cannot your mom take over some care of that daughter so your wife has the time she needs for study.so daughter is spoiled so let grandma spoil her some more so mom can get qualified to be a lecturer do they not
understand how important this is to your wife? Just do make sometime out for her let others take the reins for God's sakes she should not have to quit just to please everyone else let them do some sacrificing for her instead for the time she needs its not like it wou d be forever,.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
She needs all your love, support and understanding to be able for her to achieve her goal. It may be a difficult road but with your love, she can just make it.
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@surekharathi (14146)
• India
21 Sep 12
You should help to your wife because your parents is with you so for some days your parents can take care of your daughter. Your wife should pay the attention on her study but should not avoid the daughter some time spend for daughter also and you should always with her as supportive member.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
17 Sep 12
Umh,....you can help her to do house work as much as you can since she focus on her study and care a kid. and sometime you should ask her what can you help her then you guy can understand each other more. i hope she can complete her study soon and then spend more time on family...
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
17 Sep 12
Hi,
You only need to tell her ‘go ahead, I’m with you’ and keep encouraging her doing whatever she desired for. Being with her and supporting her morally boost up her and let her fly on the sky. I can understand how difficult she might find it to serve the parents-in law, take care of little daughter plus other household chores but still she would need your support, care and love. Wishing her good luck!
@mrswhitfield (2044)
• Indonesia
18 Sep 12
I could feel the difficulties experienced by your wife to arrange a time for family and her study. Your wife you want to give the best for the family but also want to finish her degree that requires a lot of concentration and time to study. If you want to help your wife maybe you can hire a maid to take care of the house and your children while your wife study. You should discuss about this with your wife.
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@else22 (4317)
• India
17 Sep 12
A difficult problem indeed.Your wife is a ambitious lady.She desperately wants to attain new heights in life,but her own responsibilities as a housewife and a mother come her way.It is really difficult to find a way out of the problem.May be a babysitter can help you.If you find a good babysitter for your daughter,she may get herself endeared to the baby.Children want to be with their mothers.That's natural.Or you may request your mother or your sister to live with you and look after the baby so that your wife may get time to prepare for NET.
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