...teenage pregnancies are up

Philippines
September 17, 2012 8:49am CST
I am in bit of a quandary. I grew up in a generation where the contemporary living starts. The age where parents going abroad is a a real thing and girls in my age are getting married but after getting a baby in the way. Marriage don’t even last for a decade, save for the ones who really try to work theirs. True, this has happened before and it was everybody’s dark and big secret but now, it seems like commonplace and practically everybody is doing it. I heard from a news program that there has a rise in the number of teenage pregnancies. Girls aged thirteen and below are getting pregnant by guys who are slightly older than them. I will not elaborate on the causes and the whole issue. Even my former classmates are getting pregnant first and getting married later. Personally, it bothers me because not every girl can be a woman. And not every mother (teenager or not) can raise her child. Throw in the issue about the RH bill and you probably have a combustible issue. I also worry that my younger cousin will end up like some fo those girls. She has her mother o her side. That is thankful, I can’t say for the others. She has good sense but I doubt that would work in a relationship which now demands having a little more physical contact. I guess nobody can now stop this trend. There are growing numbers but somewhat no solution or inclinations to follow them.
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7 responses
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
18 Sep 12
Teenaged girls are getting more liberal each day. They no longer think of the repercussions if they get themselves involved too seriously to a relationship too soon. Even with proper guidance from parents sometimes isn't enough. Peer pressure is one major factor that incidents like these seemed to be unavoidable. I hope our children will learn to be a lot wiser in dealing with this issue. After all it is their future that is at stake.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
19 Sep 12
Yes. I think marriage should never be the answer for an unwanted pregnancy. I think it is proper to let the kids mature enough and understand what life is all about instead of pushing them to be married without knowing what to do.
@rsa101 (37968)
• Philippines
18 Sep 12
We are currently in an era where conservativeness is a thing of the past. I think younger generation of today are more bolder and more opinionated that they do what they want to do in their lives. I guess at a younger age it seems that every parents are too focus on working so that they could provide for their families. While technology has opened up young minds to ideas we adults were not aware of in our childhood. I think time has changed already that information is easily accessed already.
• Philippines
18 Sep 12
Definitely a thing of the past. The thing is the parents or any adult should catch up. Society also needs to catch up. If these young generations are our hope (as Rizal says) I don’t know how to imagine that future. I think that adults can still get their children but necessarily make them feel intimated or even scared. Even parents have to adjust. that is the most difficult for migrating families since they have great distance physically and metaphorically speaking.
@namiya (1713)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
some claim right parental guidance could have prevented this. in a way maybe but sometimes surroundings and the people these children associates with have also great influence on them. this is because i know someone who had nice and respectable parents and the child had been a good child and almost everyone particularly the parents found it difficult to believe when she got pregnant while still in high school. It later turned out that some classmates persuaded her that entering into a relationship is the normal thing and having none is sort of a disgrace at their age.
• Philippines
18 Sep 12
Peer pressure is a definite factor in this issue. I think some teenagers are taking the wild oats far too much. It's okay to have n relationship but it doesn't mean that any party should be stupid top consent to everything that another party demanded. I guess being 'too perfect' or 'two goody to shoes' is also a sign of being an outcast. But better a outcast5 ow than a life full of regrets later.
• India
17 Sep 12
Hi friend, Sad to hear about this unwanted trend. Teen age persons easily fall in infatuation with opposite gender person and think it is the real love, due to their curiosity they got pregnancy easily, after that they worry a lot about their mistakes. There is no use in regretting for our mistakes after forming the baby. Lot of teen age persons whoever did this kind of mistakes are ready to abort the unseen baby which is really a great sin. We don't have rights to kill other life even though it is an unborn baby. Teen age persons must control their emotions to avoid this kind of problems, don't give importance to unwanted infatuations and crush and fall as a prey to them to make your life as delicate. Parents of the teen age persons must watch their each and every activities to avoid this kind of issues. If your daughter got this kind of pregnancy, don't try to abort the baby, as well as don't force them for marriage, let her to give birth to the kid and make her to settle down in the life before marriage. Abortion is not a solution for this kind of problems and it will create some unwanted problems in the future. Guide your teen age kids in a good manner to avoid this kind of unwanted problems.
• Philippines
18 Sep 12
Some teenage parents do resort to abortion but I think some opt to deliver the baby and raise it themselves. Of course, that will incur a shotgun wedding or adoption. Even though they have this options, I tihnk the parties involved are scarred for life. it is something that is unexpected and yes, something not to be remorseful if the circumstances are different.
@riyauro (6421)
• India
17 Sep 12
well there is solution to all problems and I am sure this problem can be solved if people want to. The teenagers are not kids anymore and if they want to do good they will do and not fall in the pit. Awareness is very important and their must be something that must scare the teenagers that they think twice before getting physical with anyone. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
• Philippines
18 Sep 12
There is a solution but I think some people just chose to ignore it and to whatever the consequences will lay. if that is true, I guess we should expect sum numbers to fall some time. In addition, awareness is a tricky thing. Some people would like the youth to be aware but some (usually the religious and otehr moral societies) don't want this a sit is kind of a sign of declining morals to discuss some thing like these in public. People already have loose morals, why not protect them further?
@nhieleiko (109)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
It is true. Things today are getting complicated. How to prevent high number of teen pregnancies? RH Bill is one of the factors but there are pro and anti RH Bill. Our generation today is more liberal and people become more curious in different things. The only thing that we can do now is to let them learn how to control and to be ready in life for them to realize that it is hard to have a family at an early age.
• Philippines
18 Sep 12
I'm nodding at every sentence. I think that since we are already stuck with this norm and we cannot seem to be having a permanent solution to this (as if teenagers will not to this in the coming years despite the problems). I think talking about this issue in the open and education is our best key. We cannot prevent every incident but at least the people will be aware and it is up to them whether they want to still pursue this or not.
@shello (964)
• United Arab Emirates
18 Sep 12
This only shows how the morale of our generation has turned out so bad. We can't really point out how this has happened too soon or to whom to put the blame too. It's sad to note that the main root of this problem cannot even be pointed out for real. Was it the lack of education? We can't barely say yes. Was it the poor guidance of the elders? We really don't know. Or maybe we are just closing our eyes to the realities that our society nowadays is buried to a disease unimaginable and untreatable by the human capabilities.