Benefits of having a break up
By kenshin2143
@kenshin2143 (1880)
Philippines
September 19, 2012 11:58pm CST
Two days ago, me and my girlfriend had a break up due to some personal things that we cannot handle anymore. It was very hurtful for her part because of the length of time we are together. For me, I did manage to contain my emotions and just prayed for relief.
Anyhow, the best part of that break up was we manage to see our flaws in handling our relationship, the things we handled inappropriately and it had given us the chance to appreciate ourselves better.
Just today, we decided to continue our relationship. I am confident that we are better persons now, and will manage to handle our relationship more appropriately.
How about you? Do you tend to find positive things in break ups?
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17 responses
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
21 Sep 12
There is always an advantage of things that we do in this life.
The break-up indeed gives you both time to understand the situation and realized that you cannot live without each other.
The break-up at least gives you a good result
@singtomyself (48)
• China
20 Sep 12
HI. I think just as the coin has two sides,everything has its benefits and flaws.Take break-up as an example, lovers can think over the relationship between themselves,they will find their wrong doings and they will correct themselves and their relationship will be strengthed.And sometimes maybe the break-up brings some bad things. So i think people should think hard when it comes to break-up.
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
20 Sep 12
oh, okay, i think it was quite a short break for you to have realized a lot of things. he he but then there should be no time at all when two people are in love even if you are together you work things out together and try to make your relationship all the better too. :D Goodluck with your relationship and best wishes! I hope you both make it through tough times and hold on to that love of yours! Godbless!
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@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
20 Sep 12
You will know how important something you have once you lost it. The good things about breakup is you learn to realize the mistakes, having time for yourself and then reassess the whole situation. We learn from mistakes, and breakups tend to teach one great lesson sooner or later.
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@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
20 Sep 12
I will never call it quits when I don't actually mean it. When I say it is enough, it is enough. I don't look back. Once I told my partner that we're off, then that's the end of it. I am very patient when it comes to my partner and would always make sure I have given him all the considerations before deciding to give the relationship up. I would never joke of breaking up with him just to prove something. I know many girls would do that to know how much they mean to their man and it will eventually become a habit.
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@Belle_of_the_Ball (896)
• Philippines
20 Sep 12
I am a type of person who always look at the positive side of unfavorable situations.I've only had two relationships before I got married.My break up with my first boyfriend wasn't that bad at all because I realized early on that I needed someone who would know my worth. It is actually a blessing in disguise. Had I not ended our relationship, I wouldn't have met my wonderful husband.
So, you're back in each other's arms? I am sure love is sweeter the second time around.
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
21 Sep 12
Sometimes you need to give each other some space when you find your relationship going sour. When no longer together that's the time to know if you still love each other. If you miss each other and you both saw your respective mistakes, how you've been quite childish or unfair to each other in one way or another and when you regret all those hurting words you uttered, then that is a good sign. It means you are still in love and reconciliation is nearly possible.
I am glad that you and your girlfriend are back into each others arm. Hope you relationship become sweeter and may you learn to be more understanding and forgiving of each other. 
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
20 Sep 12
sometimes good things happen. i think you and her saw each other's value after losing each other. like people say: let it go, if it comes back its yours, if it not, then it was never yours. sometimes we need to let go to see how we really feel. in your case you and your gf saw what you meant for each other^^ anyway always try to show her you love her everyday doing sweet things for her. i wish you the best 
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
20 Sep 12
Sometimes giving each other space can let you see the things that you should prioritize and give importance. And it will help you to be a much better person in dealing with issues and will try not to commit the same mistakes again. Love is sweeter the second time around, isn't it?
@kissmackerz (2)
• Philippines
20 Sep 12
i am now as well in a breakup from a marriage of just 2 years,.. and as Jenny1015 said it really did helped us as husband and wife to deal with issues and prioritize our daughter;s welfare and trying to make our relationship work again,slowly but atleast its giving us time to learn the mistakes we have done and making things right.Now i feel like were at the first stage of our relationship and were like on boyfriend/girlfriend thingy again. It feels great and as to the break up when you give each other time and space, you will begin missing each other again and thats the time you figure out you still love each other and makes your relationship stronger than ever:)
@kenshin2143 (1880)
• Philippines
20 Sep 12
Indeed, it is much sweeter on the second time around. haha
At least now, we know our flaws and tries to correct all of it this time.
@rog0322 (2829)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
20 Sep 12
Hi,
The best thing I find in breakups is that I don't have to concern myself with the structured life of being in a relationship. No more schedule to arrange like dinners and dates, no more scrimping on the budget to pay for these front putting sessions, no more nagging on my clothing and such, no more calls, no more text, no more furtive glances on the girls passing by, no more putting off flirting with the game ones.
Then, no more limits on what I would like to do with all my heart, going anywhere at will and being a free man once more.
@kenshin2143 (1880)
• Philippines
21 Sep 12
You may not have to worry about all those things again. But for me, in the long run, when you are already old, you will then realize the importance of having such partner for when old age comes, most of your friends will be in their own life, leaving you behind. By that age also, you will feel mostly satisfied if you have grandchildren already or leaving some legacy upon your departure. haha
@annatia92 (1)
•
20 Sep 12
I think a trial breakup can be positive in many ways, you have time to think iv it is really what you want, it makes you realise the things you really do love and miss about the person that you are in a relationship with, gives you the space that you wouldnt normally get when being with someone 24/7, but when in a realationship where you eel trapped and want to be a ree man, there obviously isnt much trust, when your with the one you love you should eel ree to be able to do the things you want, wear what you want! so next time thinks about the one your choosing and how you eel with that person.
@sq2108 (95)
• China
20 Sep 12
Like you, i've had a break up with my wife sometimes, especially after we quarrelled. I've been trying to make effort to restore our relationship after a quarrel, but i found it was useless, because both i and my wife were been in bad mood for a time after a quarrel, so it was unavailable to deal with our bad relationship during this time. To the contrary, if we had a break up, so we both had space and time to think our flaws, and after our emotion had been smoothed slowly, we can checked our behavior again and thought maybe our quarrel was just so absurd, and it can make our relationship more closed.
@Shavkat (137251)
• Philippines
20 Sep 12
Hi friend! In my case, if the relationship had been broken. Most likely, no reconciliation will happen. I simple move on, same with my partner.
@kenshin2143 (1880)
• Philippines
21 Sep 12
We all have different ways of handling things. Its a good thing that you and your partner move on from that downfall.
@areema (1)
• South Korea
20 Sep 12
I think you're so thoughtful guy :). In my case, I don't want to apologize to my girlfriend after we argue with. But I know if we wanted to make a good relationship, It would be better that I apologize to her first.
But it's not as easy as anyone thinks. haha. You are so good person.
I'll try to be a good person too.
@kenshin2143 (1880)
• Philippines
21 Sep 12
I am just very thankful that experience and my family really raised me in a such manner. Apologizing for me is as easy as saying hi and hello already. The more you apply it on daily basis, the more you will be used to it.
@Crystalan (94)
• China
20 Sep 12
Four days ago, my b up with meoyfriend broke up with me. He said we are not suitable any more. I,however, find out he has fell in love with another one. I cannot believe the brutal fact. I have always had faith in him. I believ we could have a bright future. It turns out betray! I am afraid that I'll meet him with his new girlfriend someday. I am heartbroken. I don't know how to face it.
@kenshin2143 (1880)
• Philippines
21 Sep 12
Do not stereotype such person for you will never know the fact unless you confront him. Maybe there are deeper reasons for such act. Just do not jump into conclusions in judging a particular person. One more thing, life is full of uncertainties, we are very prone to risk, failures and hurts, if you do not want such sufferings, then you life would be that boring and worthless. 
@Crystalan (94)
• China
22 Sep 12
Life is full of happiness and sorrow. Since we cannot avoid it, then accept it. God is fair, I must learn to be mature rather than childish. You are right, without pain life will become worthless. I'll become strong enough to face all the misfortune.
@Ysabel (1201)
• Philippines
20 Sep 12
well sure you did have a lot of realization in the span of two days! for most people, two days after break-up would be nursing the pain, hurt, rejections and whatever negative emotions there would be. being back to each other's arms would be the farthest thing to hapeen! i mean, two days and now you are back in each others arms! isn't that wonderful?
for me personally, if i would break-up in a relationship, that would normally really end it all. besides, if i am not yet over with that person, i will not break with him in the first place. but that's just me. i can say that you are indeed fortunate to be able to resolve things quickly. cheers and good luck to your relationship!
@aejey322 (1004)
• Philippines
20 Sep 12
It's also good to take a break especially if the relationship gets heated up by issues. It gives you time to think, a time to rest, a time to refresh yourselves so you can be recharged with energy. If you are renewed, you could have a more open mind to accept things.
@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
20 Sep 12
Yeah there are a lot of benefits of having a break up. One thing is, you will learn how to value yourself. From the moment that you were engaged into relationships, it seems that you already forgot yourself and your worth as a person. Your always thinking of your partner's concern.
