I am afraid of my friend's safety

Malaysia
September 20, 2012 7:05pm CST
My friend is openly attacking this 'certain' religion. It is not that I never agree with her. I am just worried about her and her family's well being. She, being a mother to two young children should think of her family first before anything else. I believe that if she continues to openly attack this religion, insensitive to the people around her who are practicing many different faith, she might end real bad, like being jailed. Oh dear! How can I help her before she get herself into trouble. I don't think I can easily make her change her mind. I have a few times already, gently remind her to be careful. What do you think mylotters? I have known her for a long time, she is a nice lady, only that she seems to have this passion to fight against this 'certain' religion.
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15 responses
@lampar (7584)
• United States
21 Sep 12
If she remain stuborn and refuse to stop her attack on this religion without taking into consideration of your repeated advices, then nothing much you can do for her, she may have to face up to the consequences of her action of relentless attack on this religion coming her way, you can either get ready for the plea of help from her later on or just stay away from this stupid friend of yours right away. You don't have to feel guilty of anything bad coming her way due to her own conduct and action, or even need to worry too much about her well being anymore, she will have to face up to her action as an adult and can't blame you for her own bad behavior. Let her continue to enjoy her passion of attacking this 'certain' religion until she can't do it anymore after someone shut her up.
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• India
21 Sep 12
There is a limit to which we can convince people. once that limit is crossed, we have to watch helpless. but i can understand your feelings for her. Nobody wants one's friend to be hurt.
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@lampar (7584)
• United States
22 Sep 12
Your friend should realize that certain religion in our present world demand their followers to react in a very violent way when facing attack either verbally or physically from non believers. It is part of the requirement to become its adherents and followers of the religion leader. She should get ready for the worst coming her way if she insist on attacking this 'certain' religion without standing on solid ground to justify her attack, personally, she shouldn't be doing that just for the fun of it unless this certain religion has done injustice on her in the past and terrible against her own wills.
• Malaysia
21 Sep 12
I just hope that she will stop or do it more discreetly. Yea, there's nothing I can do for her beside advising her and praying that nothing bad will happen to her. She is old enough to think for herself and more importantly, her young children.
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@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
21 Sep 12
Hi Micha5088 Sad to hear about your friend. What do you think is the main reason why she is mad to that religion? she might had a bad experience on that religion?did you try to ask her or open up this to there?she might need to go on counselling. just be with her all the time. she really need your presence as of this moment.let her realized the consequence if she will pursue her protest. I know she would listen to you. i wish her all the luck.
• Malaysia
21 Sep 12
Well, I know the reasons why she is mad with that religion. But I rather not explain it, it's just too sensitive. I don't think I can use the word 'counselling' to her. She just need to control her over-emotional sympathy to those people who are hurt by that religion.
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• India
21 Sep 12
The reason is not a concern here as far as I think. Because you are not able to control your friend's out burst means your reasoning is not bringing any change. i think you will have to do something forcefully to convince her.
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• Philippines
24 Sep 12
hi micha if you really love and care for her. you have to do the best that you can for her security. what if something happen to her(i hope not), what will happen to her children? please enlighten her. let her realize that what she is doing is wrong. i don't know what justice is she is asking and she is really mad that way. maybe you can do something for her not to be mad on that religion. bring her to a place where she can have a peace of mind then talk to her once in a while.
@Fulltank (2882)
• Philippines
21 Sep 12
you can always give advice to her. I think if she listen to you then she would take your advice. But if not, then all you can do is to check her back. Sometimes, people will take their faith seriously no matter what the consequences are. History already teaches us that many wars were taught in the name of religion. I just hope that your friend will be guided by her religion's God to see the wisdom of what she is doing right now.
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• India
21 Sep 12
The problem is you friend would be targeted very badly. i am sure later she might have a sorry feeling. But then it would be too late. the problem with such issues are once it gets ignited you just cant put it off.
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@fannitia (2167)
• Bulgaria
21 Sep 12
Hi, Micha, I agree with you that your friend maybe is in danger. I understand that there is some very bad story being in the origin of the problem. If this is true maybe she needs first to overcome her bad experience. It wouldn't be enough to explain her that the religion is a personal thing, that all the religions can coexist peacefully etc. Maybe she knows all this but she is overwhelmed by her problem. You know her better and if you thing that her problem is too serious maybe you should convince her to seek help from a psychologist. I hope that finally she will find peace. I wish you courage if you are willing to help your friend.
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• Indonesia
21 Sep 12
If she continues to attack a certain religion then one day she will get into trouble. You should be able to convince her not to be too loud in opposing other religions. If she does not like other religions, the better is she keeps her feelings to herself because if there someone who feel hurt by her word then she will have a big problem that can cause contention with other religions.
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• India
21 Sep 12
What i feel is she would already be in the hit list. i feel the damage is already done, now only thing that can be done is to evade the impact. i would suggest she should be moved to some safer place.
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21 Sep 12
Apparently,I am suffering the similiar problem.You kown I am in China now.And there is being a huge conflict between Chinese government and Japanese government which is about whom the diaoyu islands belong to.The most Chinese are trying to be sensible while some did very bad stuff,for instance,they destroyed Jusco which is a very popular shopping centre in China ,the factory of panasonic and the stores of Nissan,Honda and Toyota.That is illegal and ridiculous!!!Even worse,someone fighted the Japanese in China. This is also sensitive.And what we should do I think is to try to be calm and do not touch the bottom line.Protect yourself.
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• India
21 Sep 12
I think this is a global phenomena. there are bad elements in all factions of the society who is a bad omen for the whole humanity. The social imbalance and violence the bring in at times remain irreparable for ever. i hope peace would soon prevail in your region.
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22 Sep 12
I hope so,too.World peace is all peace-loving people want.In the near future,the children of all races in the world can be hand in hand
• India
21 Sep 12
Her anger towards the religion is based on some misconception or some bad thing cause to her by some pycho paths who belong to that religion. its like burning down an entire house to kill a mice. Your anger towards a person cant take shape for anger towards an entire religion. The earlier she realises, the better for her.
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@maximax8 (31055)
• United Kingdom
21 Sep 12
On my travels I have visited Israel and it is a very religious place with three big religions. I didn't speak against any of these religions. Each baby born in the world can come into the life of a family of a particular religion. Usually a baby like that grows up belonging to that sort of religion. A person of whichever religion should be respected in life. In some countries someone saying bad things about a religion might go to jail. In other countries violence might happen due to that. You could ask your friend to live and let others live how they wish to. For a student world religion is an interesting friend. Take her to a library and learn more about that religion she doesn't like. She is the mother of two young children so she must think more carefully about what she is saying. Good luck.
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@shaggin (71572)
• United States
21 Sep 12
I think if your friend does not like a certain religion she should be able to speak her mind but also she needs to be respectful to others who have different beliefs then her. I also dont think anything bad should happen to her because she has different beliefs then otgers but tgere are very hateful people out there that will hurt people who speak out against their religion in a negative way.
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@nzalheart (2338)
• India
21 Sep 12
Hi micha5088, Its really bad to hear that you are in such a situation. It not good to attack other religion. Every people have their won right to religion. You should really convince her not to do so and if you can't, you may take help from your friends or relatives who have better convincing power. Goodluck!!! Happy Mylotting...
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• India
21 Sep 12
That was a good suggestion from your end. sometimes we might not be capable enough with our speech to change someones view or thought process. In that case we should take of others who are closely related to the person. I think you should try it immediately before the whole issue goes out of hand.
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
21 Sep 12
She is putting herself in danger. And yes,she should be more careful with the things she say most especially that she has kids that needs her. What is scarier on this scenario is if some of the members of that religion would think of harming her. I hope she listens to you.
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• India
21 Sep 12
I would say she is already in danger. This is the problem with us. We start hating whole group because of two or three people. We need to understand that a minority remains as a minority and its silly blaming a whole community for wrong doings of some people. i hope your friend would understand it sooner or later.
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• Malaysia
21 Sep 12
I am not the only one who thinks that she is exposing herself and her family to unwanted danger, in fact, there are a few who are close to her, who also think likewise. If she does not listen to me, I hope she will at least listen to the other friends.
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• Greece
21 Sep 12
It sounds like more of an obsession than a 'mission'. She would listen to her friends if it was the latter, but an obsession is not easily overcome. Perhaps if friends emphasise the danger to her children she will think twice about continuing. I think this is a disturbing but familiar story. The sad thing is not your friend's obsession, it is that there are dangerous people around who are also obsessed and will go to any lengths to punish someone. I wonder sometimes if there is such a thing as free speech, when I read about someone like your friend who may have to pay dearly for it.
• Canada
21 Sep 12
Religion is one of the topics most people try to avoid becaue it causes a conflict if one disagrees with the other.. Religion can make two people closer or break from each other..It can provide a sense of belonging, and give hope when life seems despair.. I feel bad for your friend's vocal statement towards other religion. I understand your fear for your friends safety..I know there are other solutions rather than blurting out hate comments towards another religion by researching it..It can make a person understand it a little bit better.. Perhaps you can try to make your friend "share" her religion to other people..See what she would say.. Vanessa
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• India
21 Sep 12
Why you should change anybody's feeling. She has her own idea to deal with different issues. If you want to suggest her something then talk with her calmly and suggest her that a single will cannot change the minds of thousands, where nobody is ready to listen her.
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• India
21 Sep 12
Hi iritsharma, your point is valid in the sense when somebody is very stubborn you are wasting your time on them. Here had the person in question been some colleague or stranger, nobody would bother to indulge. but given that person is a friend, its not easy to just let her take her path. We do have a moral responsibility on the activities of our close friends.
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• Malaysia
21 Sep 12
Yes, especially when it is about religion...people sometimes go into war because of it. We learn this from history.
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21 Sep 12
I think no one have the right to attack on any religion because this is of no use of that people who attacking the religion so i requested all people that please do not insult any religion thanks.
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• India
21 Sep 12
Insulting a religion only shows your intolerance levels. It not only bring disgrace to you alone, but to your family and your community. just imagine what the other people of your family has done for the disgrace that you bring to them. people never realise such things before getting into some stupid acts.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Sep 12
hi micha what country is she in, is she attacking the religion of that country?that does sound scary is she at home or abroad as maybe she would be safer in her own country? i am not sure what to tell her but she needs to be safe from religious freaks.If its rigid Mosley she is in real danger.suggest she move to a safe place and tone down her attacking.I would also hate to see her jailed. oh g.i am so glad I live in America where we are free to practice whatever religion we believe. I will pray for her. good luck.