Arrange marriage proposal in my neigborhood
By riyauro
@riyauro (6421)
India
September 22, 2012 12:11am CST
I have a very pretty neighbor who is like 27 and she wants to get married and never had any boyfriends and she prefers an arranged marriage. Yesterday some family had come to see her. The boy is working in Dubai and is down for the festival here and he also came with his family. Many proposals had come but she did not like it and rejected. But this one is like there are chances. I was present at their house when the boy and his family came. She is okay with this boy and I hope the boy also has liked her..
This is like for the first time I have seen how the arrange proposals work. The boy and the girl did not speak to each other and I was surprised..haha. anyway i hope it works this time. have you seen arrange marriages in this era????
Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead. 
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12 responses
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
Oh she is inferior of herself because she is tall. Her tallness should have been a problem to her, because it's after all an asset. She can be a model.
Though, indeed it's a problem when it comes to finding someone she will like that as tall as her. I hope the boy likes her too.
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@riyauro (6421)
• India
22 Sep 12
She is tall and she is finding hard to get a tall boy. Now this boy is like her height only, but she said he will do..lol the boy got nice job is good looking too. I told her to find someone herself but she hardly talks to boys like that and has never made any boyfriends. Her sister who is 22 years has a boyfriend already.haha Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
@bdfreelancer (518)
•
22 Sep 12
I have seen arranged marriage happen all my life. It works very well in many countries. It is a cultural take on it. Many girls never have boy friends in their life simply because they want to preserve their love and chastity for their to be future husbands and I have great respect towards them. Same can be said about many boys or guys. In fact these arranged marriages involve some meaningful interaction between the to be future partners before the actual weddings take place.
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@riyauro (6421)
• India
22 Sep 12
oh really? have not seen much of it. My parents even had a love marriage. My both brothers too and all of my cousins as well. I would love to see more arranged marriages in the future. I think it is exciting. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
I haven't seen an arrange marriage, but I have it experienced once.
My parents also arranged a marriage for me- but I did not agree.
The rest is history.
It depends on each individual if they want an arrange or love marriage.
Let's wish that this time the proposal will work for the best 
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
I do not personally know anybody who had an arranged marriage but I am aware that still, it is being practiced in some countries like China and India.
@BadWolf (37)
• Australia
22 Sep 12
I had a friend who was "promised" to someone when they came of age. They were perfectly happy with the idea of it since they didn't have to worry about finding someone.
Personally, I think it defeats the point of love but I guess the point of arranged marriages are just to partner people up in life. I do think the idea is outdated in societies where we are lucky enough to all be able to support ourselves but I can see how the idea would be useful in other societies.
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@riyauro (6421)
• India
22 Sep 12
Yeah it is there in India and since I am new here and just started to know families then I can see it now. Actually here is Goa people are open minded too and accept love marriages, I think other parts of India are more in arrange marriages. Yes the idea might be outdated to us but still useful for others. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
Some reasons for fixed marriages would be if a father is in debt and is thinking of finding a rich family that has a son who can marry his daughter. Well, this sounds awful, but this kind of scenario maybe true.
@HomeBase (1153)
• United States
22 Sep 12
Well, I think that since your neighbor has rejected other proposals but she likes this one, that is a very good sign. And he works in Dubai!!
Here in America, I have an Indian friend who told his mother and other relatives to find him "a woman", but I don't know if he plans to marry this woman once she is found. His mom has found a couple of girls to pick from, but he has not picked one yet.
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Here in America, I have an Indian friend who told his mother and other relatives to find him "a woman", but I don't know if he plans to marry this woman once she is found. His mom has found a couple of girls to pick from, but he has not picked one yet.1 person likes this
@riyauro (6421)
• India
22 Sep 12
Yeeah he is a good boy and work is good too. I hope they get married.
Oh I don't know why some people prefer their parents to find the partner for them. My parents had told me not to depend on them to find a partner. they told me to find my own partner and so with my brothers. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
@ztuberi (395)
• Philippines
9 Oct 12
There are still cultures that still follow arranged marriages. And couples under that culture respect and accept it. But what I believe is our God has really somebody for us. It doesnt matter how we are able to meet that guy.
Thanks for sharing, that like a fairy tale to me.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
That what happen to my cousin too. But my cousin is a boy, and when he meet her wife to be. He is very shy and never speak any words with the girl. He said that in their first night after the wedding. He is shy to get closer to his wife and there is no war between them in that night after the wedding. Instead, it's a honeymoon...nothing was happen because he is very shy to get closer to his wife.
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
hi riyauro,
Mom already end this kind of tradition in our family
I myself don't believe on this but we will never know what can happen in the future
Hope it will works for them very well
happy mylotting
@else22 (4317)
• India
22 Sep 12
My marriage was arranged.My mother had been to Kolkata and there he had seen the girl who is my wife now.She went to the girl's house,met her parents,but did not propose to have their daughter as her daughter-in-law.It was her parents who made the proposal.My mother accepted it.I was then not with my mother.Despite this,she accepted her as my to be wife.The girl's parents were surprised and they asked,'What if your son refuses to accept our daughter as his wife?'My mother said,I know my son.He would never disobey me.I know his interests,his likes and dislikes.He will obey what I say.'And I accepted my mother's decision.Never before had I seen the girl,but it is the blessing of my mother that she proved herself to be a dutiful wife.
@romzee (937)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
Never seen one here in the Philippines. But I heard that this traditions still do exist in some far flung villages.
@crimsonose80 (283)
• Canada
23 Sep 12
I have never witness an arranged marriage before not from where i live...
It would be technically the same where a woman and agrees and they date for a few weeks and agrees to marry him..it's a different kind of dynamic to marriages since she doesn't know him very well but they've been married for more than 30 years...
