Brother blocks me on facebook !!
By riyauro
@riyauro (6421)
India
September 23, 2012 9:10am CST
In my earlier posts I have mentioned that my sister in law had problems with my mother. She calls her to babysit and then fights with her, was the discussion. I have sent my brother a message on facebook what all the wife is saying to me and all wrong things. I am so far far away from them but still when they are fighting or arguing there, they bring me in though I am not present there. I told him to tell the wife not to message my hubby because she was giving all wrong information about my mother... Now after I had sent my brother the last message, he sends me a reply and blocks me and also deletes me from his friends list. I felt bad because till now we have never fought. I am always okay with my brothers and the wives. What do you think about him blocking me??? and I am their only sister, how would you have felt about this?? Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead. 
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22 responses
@meowchie (992)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
aww it looks serious :/ for me, i'd cry over it.. especially that i am really close to my siblings.. Hope it wouldn't happen to us in the future.. You are family, and i know family should talk that ignore each other. To clarify issues and all.. The way you're brother deleted and blocked you, means he don't wanna pursue conversation and it's really sad.. :/ Hope you're well there.. *hugs*
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@riyauro (6421)
• India
23 Sep 12
Yeah I have never had any fights with my brothers ever. I am very far away from home and it seems that his wife was bringing my name in the middle of the fight that as she is suffering, I am the sister and I will suffer that way too. this is horrible. My father has paid her fees so that she can study, and my parents are wonderful people and this wife is doing all this. I have not seen my family almost 3 years now and the mostly we communicate via facebook only and that also he blocked me. ridiculous.
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@meowchie (992)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
Yeah indeed it's ridiculous.. Your sister-in-law is already your family too.. So whether it's really your brother who deleted you, or just accessed by her wife, both ways it's sad.. :/ Your step-sis is supposed to respect & love your parents the way she do to her husband.. You are not strangers to each other anymore. Hope she will be calm enough,mature in dealing with this matter.. Than nagging to your brother.. Even letting you be deleted.. you're by-blood siblings :'(
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@riyauro (6421)
• India
23 Sep 12
I had spoken to my brother 2 weeks ago and he was telling that his wife is at fault but in the message I read he is saying that his wife was right.. It can be possible that the wife has excess to his account. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
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@varunkrishna007 (1909)
• India
23 Sep 12
Hi riya, i know how much you would be disappointed at this moment. but I would say, facebook is just a social network that has come 7 years back. you relation with brother is much older than that. he blocks you in facebook doesnt mean he has blocked you in life. things would be better as time passes by I would suggest you meet you brother directly and try to solve the issues.
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@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
oh, that is sad.
as i am not privy to the exchanges which might have caused the action of your brother, i can only guess it's all about those messages. blocking you is another level. it could mean that he really got affected and believed his wife and he got hurt. i am only guessing here.
it is always sad when differences arose because of the wives and husbands of our siblings. it does not happen with you alone, or with only a few, it happens most of the time. it is more painful though for a tightly-knit family where before the relationship is excellent. the newcomers in the family can make or break the family is what i observe.
try contacting him through email and phone.
as i am not privy to the exchanges which might have caused the action of your brother, i can only guess it's all about those messages. blocking you is another level. it could mean that he really got affected and believed his wife and he got hurt. i am only guessing here.
it is always sad when differences arose because of the wives and husbands of our siblings. it does not happen with you alone, or with only a few, it happens most of the time. it is more painful though for a tightly-knit family where before the relationship is excellent. the newcomers in the family can make or break the family is what i observe.
try contacting him through email and phone.3 people like this
@riyauro (6421)
• India
23 Sep 12
I understand it, that is why I am not present there in what they are fighting about there in my country. But I am so far away and they have never been here and they have never seen my married life and when they fight there, they bring me in the middle. I know that this things happen in all families and I know that his wife fought with my mother, I understand it is temporary and they will get back together in time but I don't understand that why they want to bring me in when I am so far away from them and I only chat with them on facebook or phone. It is very expensive for me to call them. Last time I spoke i spent $50. It is way expensive for me so i used to keep in touch with them on facebook.
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@sweetloveforeve (13107)
• Portugal
23 Sep 12
im so sorry :( but maybe it was his wife blocking you from messaging him. bcs no one likes her right? bcs she was being mean to your mom. so maybe she did that. but if it was your brother doing this it just means one thing. it means that he is choosing his wife even though everything she said. i guess he is blind in love with her. someone should find a way to talk to him alone and say what happened. bcs maybe his wife is denying what you told him.
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@riyauro (6421)
• India
24 Sep 12
We all used to like her and there was no problem with anyone. It is just lately she has started throwing tantrums to my mom. I would love them to be happy and do good in life but one must have respect for those who have brought to you in thus world and my parents have always stood by them. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead
@watchamacallitz (1171)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
Have you thought that maybe it's his wife who blocked you from his facebook account? Or better yet, talk ti your brother. Call him and tell him the real story. You are brothers and sisters and nothing should tear you apart, not even your husbands nor their wives.
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@riyauro (6421)
• India
23 Sep 12
yeah maybe it is her because I know my brother and was shocked to see him block me. Me and my brothers never had any problems or miss understandings ever. I am the only girl and both brothers are elder to me. we were in good relationship always. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
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@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
23 Sep 12
If he blocked you and you were in good relationship, then how sure are you that you are really getting the point? If he blocks you, he doesn't want your relationship. facebook is about relationships; simple.
I once asked someone to stop tagging me excessively in his photos and he said he wouldn't stop, that I should block him from my facebook if I do not like it. I thought: "waoh, I wanted him on my friend's list because I wanted the relationship. I was not going to block him, but ignore his misbehavior." so I did not do as he asked. because I wanted his relationship and the network of friends he was bringing to the table.
I think your brother has scores against you.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
23 Sep 12
Hi friend, sad to hear about this, there is nothing wrong in your side. I think your brother is loving his wife a lot and give more importance to her, so only he don't have the ability to tolerate your message and blocked you from his friends list. However you are his sister always and he don't have the ability to block the relationship
, don't worry for this issue. It is the time to know about the real face of your brother
, don't worry for this issue. It is the time to know about the real face of your brother3 people like this
@emmanola (482)
•
24 Sep 12
I, personally, feels that one cannot afford to put some information on facebook. Family issues are private and sensitive and one feels one need to be very careful before bringing family issues to the open.
Now back to the issue at hand, one feels you should have sent an email to your brother to clarify issues or call him on phone. Any of those two options should have allowed the man to discuss with you in confidential manner. So, I advise you to call your brother or contact him by email to clear up the issue.
@riyauro (6421)
• India
24 Sep 12
I have not put anything on the facebook. Gosh, where did you get this idea from I have not mentioned it anywhere that I have put information on facebook. I used message because it is okay to message. It is similar to skype or any other message. No one apart from my brother can read it. It was private message.
I will call him but ut is very expensive for me to call home. From my country to call here it is very cheap. I will have to wait to call them I guess. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
24 Sep 12
Hi riya!
It sounds a bit strange that your brother blocked you on Facebook and did not take you in confidence and/or did not give a chance to express your point of view. I suppose that he would have discussed this matter with his wife (your sister in law) and she might have suggested to block you.
Take it easy, he may realize his mistake and may contact you again. You could phone him to know the exact reasons, if feasible.
Have a great day!
Take it easy, he may realize his mistake and may contact you again. You could phone him to know the exact reasons, if feasible.
Have a great day!1 person likes this
@shaggin (71664)
• United States
23 Sep 12
Its possibly that it was your sister in law that saw the message you sent your brother. Maybe she saw it and went on his account and blocked you. I am sorry this is happening to and now you have your feelings hurt. My sister and I faught and I blocked her on facebook because after my husband and I split up she started hanging out with him all the time and was telling him everything I said.
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@riyauro (6421)
• India
24 Sep 12
oh how bad of a sister..Sorry to hear your story. I have been very nice to everyone and I have never fought with anyone till now. So I was shocked that he did this. I am away from my family and I do not know what all is going there. It is just that sister in law started messaging into my husbands account saying bad things about my mom. I will surely not like it because my parents are angels. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Sep 12
hi riyauro thats another reason why I hate facebook so easy to
block the people you should love and that hurss no two ways
about it.so brother took it the wrong way and is defending his
wife. I am sorry but its normal for a man to defend his wife even if he probably knows she did wrong. i think its a rotten thing to do
but why is f acebook that immportant to you, it s just a silly
social site not as good as my lot at all.
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@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
24 Sep 12
First, it might not be your brother doing the blocking thing.. it might be her, second, i believe it would be better to talk about this in person rather than on facebook as this is a serious family matter. sometimes there will really be things such as this that will rift you and your brother apart. It is a matter of how you will perceive and handle this, if you let this bring you and him apart then it is your choice if you won't then go and talk to him and person and tell him how you feel.. but your sister in law is a different person and what she thinks of you and your mom is something she needs to learn to change sometime in the future. If she still continue to rift you and your brother apart then just make sure your brother knows how you feel...and it is now up to him how he will deal with this.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
24 Sep 12
Sorry to hear about this.
It's really sad when brother/sister relationship turns out like this because of in-laws.
I guess the best thing to do is talk with your brother and sister in law in person.
Don't let the gap to get too far- or else it would be harder to patch up things.
I know this won't be easy, but you can always try your best to save your relationship with your brother.
@riyauro (6421)
• India
24 Sep 12
Hi jaiho, I really cannot meet them in person because I am very far away from home. I would cost me more than $3000 to go home and back. I do not have this much to spare right now as I am going through very tight budget as of now. comment on my post in GS re saiba
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
23 Sep 12
its so hurting to hear,speak to him in person,he is not in a good shape,i vouch you to have a silent word with him atleast first for sure
@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
24 Sep 12
Since he sounds older (as he is married), I think its childish. The fact his wife is causing trouble and drama in the family and he is allowing it. I think he is just as bad as his wife especially since he is clearly siding with her. He wont have the family to be at his side eventually, and I dont think his wife will be around long either.
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@riyauro (6421)
• India
24 Sep 12
Yeah he is 30 now with 2 kids. When I had called last when my mother was there, he spoke all bad about the wife that sh is doing this and that. But I told him to just let the wife finish college and get her degree so that their financial status will become good. she will graduate in november. That is what I was telling her to complete her education first when she was chatting with me last. I have never been rude to her ever. we were happy when ever we are together. But I don't know what's going on with them now. I don't bother because I have my own life and i cannot come between them or my mother. I just told him to tell the wife not to message my husband. That is all i said. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
24 Sep 12
From what you are saying, it sounds like just maybe his wife responded to you and blocked you to make sure that he did not know. I think I would try calling him. I would be upset, but would try to make amends or find out what is going on.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
24 Sep 12
I would feel really bad if my sibling would block me on Facebook. What is it with your sister in law? She doesn't seem to be a good person at all that she even made your brother delete you from his friend's list. Does she want you out of their lives? I think you need to go to your brother and talk to him about this gap you are having. It is unhealthy for siblings t be fighting with one another. Siblings should show support to one another even if they already have their own families.
@jula65 (128)
• Hyderabad, India
24 Sep 12
your brother did not do a good thing by blocking you, as you are his only sister. anyway try to contact him and restore your relationship.
@Angelpink (4035)
• Philippines
24 Sep 12
This is sad , I have experienced being block and deleted by a relative and it was so hurting but we can not do anything , it was their rights . Just one message they want to convey , they don't like to communicate anymore to us , then fine ! So much more in life to be dealt with why be affected with such things. Blocking you is not your lost , it is theirs. The best thing to do is to forgive them and accept that there are really people like them so mean and feeble minded and we should not step down to their level.
@iBizkut (80)
• United States
24 Sep 12
I would have felt betrayed. Sounds like that wife doesn't know much about love and marriage. If she really loves him she wouldn't make him choose between you and her. That is just wrong and manipulative. I have beef with my in-laws but I don't go forbidding my husband from speaking to them. That's just classless and immature.
