It's My Parent's 51st Anniversary Today

@NailTech (6874)
United States
September 23, 2012 2:24pm CST
She had originally told me it was Monday and I couldn't remember either so today she told me at the kitchen table it was not Monday but today! I already got them a card and put $40. in it for them to split up. We went to the store today too and got some groceries. I think she wanted the Mums that were at Costco but they were $20. a piece and she needed four of them, to high for me. We only got a lemon pie for celebrating, but at least it was on sale plus today's special at $2.50. I'm not even sure if my brother said Happy Anniversary to them. I told her now she better not change the channel when he comes in now to eat at 4 cause it's their anniversary and he should respect that and at least let them watch their (parents) show (baseball).
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@stringer321 (5643)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
23 Sep 12
I won't be surprised if your brother will take control over the T.V. I understand from earlier discussions that he is not a nice person. You are so nice to treat your parents in such a good way, buy them a gift for their anniversary. Wow, your parents must be about 70+ years old, assuming they got married at the age of 20+. I wish I will have a nice daughter like you when I have children one day. Maybe I said it before, but, I will say it again, you are your parents gift. I hope your brother will behave nice if not bring them a gift and let them enjoy T.V... How old is your brother ? It sounds like he is one spoiled little brat...
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@NailTech (6874)
• United States
23 Sep 12
Well, he did for like 20 minutes, but I told him as he was headed towards the other room that they were watching their baseball now. Then as soon as I go into the room he grabs the remote and puts his show on. Mom is still making dinner but still, to just do that and mom saying "Oh it's OK." again like always made me 'mad'. I then told her I wanted the TV too at 4 since he had it on again anyways. So he went upstairs (yay, the farther away from me the better sometimes with him) at that time at least and I watched a whole 20 minutes of something and let my mom watch her baseball again. I basically wanted my lazy brother to get the heck out of the TV room for awhile, and leave it for us all for awhile. It was already over though, she said it had alot more hours to it so I thought she would be able to watch it more. He had just come home from using my dad's car to go somewhere. He's been using that and dad's lap top at times and i don't know what for, he has both of his own. It's like he wants to take over all of his things. Anyways I did try...I asked him if he at least said Happy Anniversary to them and he said yes. As far as I know he didn't buy them a gift though.
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@NailTech (6874)
• United States
23 Sep 12
Oh he is "only" 45.
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
23 Sep 12
They are both in their early 70's. They got married in their early 20's.
@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
23 Sep 12
$2.50 for a pie? Seriously, they are $10 - $15 bucks here. But wish them a Happy Anniversarry from me. I love hearing about couples being together for so many years and make it through kids. Many split up and go their own way when the kids get older.
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@NailTech (6874)
• United States
24 Sep 12
Yes, it was a pretty good deal so I had to pick it up. It was slightly hard on the crust top but I could deal with it. of course my mom complained about that and that the lemon was sour. Did she really think lemons should be sweet?? Thanks for the anniversary wishes though, i will wish them that. She actually said today 9 to me thank goodness and not to my dad) that it's been "too long"! Another rude comment. I told her she should have said it's not long enough. That would have been more positive but she always has to be negative in so many things she says or does. I know things have not always been pleasant for both of them but they could have worked on that sooner than they did and made things work better.
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@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
30 Sep 12
I agree, I think once you hit a certain age they get sour and negative. My Grandma actually made a homemade lemon pie. It was pretty good the piece she gave me, and carried on how fat I was the entire time. I think once the kids are grown up, and then most problems come to the surface.
• United States
24 Sep 12
That's so nice that they are still together after 51 years! I think it's nice that you remembered their anniversary too and got them something!
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
24 Sep 12
Yea, it is nice but I wish they would have been happier together at times. It is what it is though. I remembered it was near the end of September but always get confused on the exact date.
@Fulltank (2882)
• Philippines
24 Sep 12
One of my ultimate long term goal in life is to reach our 50th wedding anniversary. I think few people had reached this milestone. I would like to congratulate your parents for reaching and even surpassing this wonderful day in their lives. And for you, I would like to congratulate you for being their on their special day. I'm sure, your parents were not after the costly celebration as long as you guys are there on their side during this momentous event in their lives. I'm wishing them both many more anniversaries to come and hoping that you will still there every year for them.
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@NailTech (6874)
• United States
24 Sep 12
I hope you do reach it, good luck to you. We are always wishing them the best here. Thank you for being so polite and saying all that. God Bless.
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
24 Sep 12
wow its really awesome to hear,get them some new gifts which they like and make them even more happier
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@NailTech (6874)
• United States
24 Sep 12
Yes, it is. I get them gift etc when I can afford it. I just spent over $30,000 on a surgery I needed badly in July so I don't have much else to spend right now.
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@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
24 Sep 12
51 years! Give them my best would u!?! I would like to stay married to the same man for a long time too! How did ur parents do it? Remain together for that long? :) did ur dad always agree with ur mom!? I only grew up with one parent and that was a challenge! I am married now for almost ten years come next Sumer! But I have been married for 7 years. It wasn't easy considering the reason he married me. That was a nice thing u did for ur parents! Lemon pie is good!
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
25 Sep 12
He married me because he got me pregnant. And I married him because I didn't want to raise the baby w/out a father-like me. He's a great father and....I wish he do more as a husband if u know what u mean..it's got a lot to do with his background being a catholic... I grew wiser with age as the week turned to months and months turned to years, he's a difficult man too cheap and too manly. Lol! I think it would have never lasted if I never changed how I thought about older men. the old me wouldn't even give him a chance, u see he's almost 20 years older than me and more than half the time we don't get each other and that makes me sooooo sooo mad! And he likes it! Before I meet him I just broke up with the one person that has my heart in every way possible and he and even tho we broke up we still kept in touch. One day he said 'if ur not happy with me, I'll find someone ur happy with' and that was it for me. It wasn't for money or looks or nothing like that it was also because his parents would have disowned him if they ever found out he fathered a child out of wedlock, they're catholic and he thought that if he didn't marry me God would strike him down! I'm not in love with my hubby tho...but I do love him. Does that make sence to u? i dont want to confuse u..:)I think it's difficult to find a good man who has good intentions. When we first meet he was looking at my friend not me. Then my friend said to him I have a single friend u should talk to and that's what he did. He said if u give me $20 ill push u in. At that time I was deciding if I should jump in the clear blue water along with fish that nibble on ur toes! It's not easy living with a total opposite hubby. Trust me! Lol. It's like we were born from different planets!! He was middle/upper class and I was raised low/poor class lol! But he's a good man a great father what more could I ask for?! U have a great day mylotting friend!
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
26 Sep 12
Oh thanks for explaining, I bet that took alot of courage. But I see what you mean now, I'm just confused on what you mean by a few things is all but it is what it is. I hope you can one day also fall in love with him. It must be difficult when he is 20 years older. I have a friend or two with large spaces between their ages and it is about the same thing, they break up at least three times within a year and then they get back together, ugh. I'd rather be along sometimes than have a bad relationship. If he is a good father and man then he is OK I guess though for you. I just wish some of the things like the cheapness and other things would work out and yes I do get how it is with two opposites being married cause that is my parents, and they argue all the time.
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
24 Sep 12
Yes, i will do that. I would too but I have never been married, so I guess I never will be ever. :( No it has never always been easy. In fact they should have gotten to know each other better before marrying, it was so short of a courtship it was almost like it was pre-arranged or something. But my mom said they were neighbors when they met. She says she never knew he was as "deaf" as he was and other things. I don't know how you wouldn't know that or how someone wouldn't tell you at least. They have been through alot, together but still manage to stay together.What was the reason why your hubby married you if you want to tell me, if not then thats fine. Yea, thats all she wanted was the lemon pie, I would have picked something else out if I had known that.
@AmbiePam (85467)
• United States
24 Sep 12
That's funny. I hope they had a great anniversary.
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
24 Sep 12
Glad I made you laugh. Thanks.
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@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
24 Sep 12
hey that is great! it is so rare these days to have someone celebrate their 51st. glad you did something special with them. hubby and i will be celelbrating our 25th in a month today actually but with one daughter at college and the other in highschool, we don't have a lot of money to do much but hoping to spend the day together and go somewhere fun.
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
26 Sep 12
Yes it is rare, and if they would have stayed together that long sometimes one spouse doesn't live to be 70+. I worry my dad won't live to see his 74th birthday or so, cause of his weight and losing so much of it. I think the cancer's back, sadly. he will go for tests again at the end of Oct. But 25 years in Oct isn't bad to be celebrating your anniversary either, so be proud and just do what you've been doing to make it work.
@shaggin (71664)
• United States
24 Sep 12
It is so heart warming to hear of couples that have been together that long. My husband and I only made it 6 years of marriage. My parents had their anniversary recently on the 12 of september and I gave them $30 in a card. I wanted to buy them a mailbox but they didnt have the one I was looking for in the store so I think I will be looking for a nice one for a christmas gift.
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
24 Sep 12
Heart warming sometimes, but I wish some of the marriage would have went well for them and it didn't. They are still together despite "things". September seems to be a popular month for married couples to get married in, as well as June and February. I hope you can find them a really cool mailbox for Christmas.
@sweety_81 (2124)
• India
25 Sep 12
Congratulations to your parents on their anniversary. It would be a great occasion for them, and I wish them all the very best for their future.
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
26 Sep 12
Thanks, last year was their 50th but they didn't celebrate it much, just like them though. Nothing is ever that truly "special" for them.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
24 Sep 12
Congratulations on your parents anniversary. that isuite an achievement fir their marriage and their life together. i hope they can celebrate many more years of blessings and happiness togrther.
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
26 Sep 12
Thank you, I hope so too. Just wish they would seem happier with each other cause it seems they just tolerate each other sometimes. Dad being even more deaf now doesn't help matters.
@HomeBase (1153)
• United States
24 Sep 12
It is commendable that your parents stayed together that long... Too much talk about how much money you spent, though , imo. I'm sure they spent a LOT of money on you when you were a child.
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
24 Sep 12
Yes it is. Sorry I talked about to much money, I wanted to add something to the discussion.
• Philippines
24 Sep 12
Congratulations on your parent's anniversary and that's very thoughtful of you to get them a card. As for your brother, I hope he had greeted them too!
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
24 Sep 12
Thanks they deserve it, and I guess I am thoughtful but if I didn't she would probably be mad LOLO. My brother said he said ( greeted) it to them, too.
@lynnes75 (443)
• Malaysia
24 Sep 12
Awww, congrats to your parents, this is just a sweet thing to read about. I hope there's many more years to celebrate for them :) My parents recently celebrated their 48th anniversary, and they're still as happy and content together as ever, and more sweet, I get heart-eyes just looking at them *_* I hope your plans for them comes through too :)
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
24 Sep 12
Thank you. I'm glad your parents are happy at marriage after 48 years. They must have their own secrets too. Heart eyes, awe.
@lynnes75 (443)
• Malaysia
26 Sep 12
I'm sure they do, as do yours, so we must ask them what the secrets are ;) Aww, that is such a cute emoticon, I wish I can post using it too. As it is, I have to manually type them in since I'm not qualified yet, lol! See *_*!
@kareng (54598)
• United States
23 Sep 12
What a nice thing to do for your parent's anniversary! I hope they have a wonderful day :) That was a good thing to do to remind your brother to help make their day special. Good for you!
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
23 Sep 12
Yea, i do try despite everything. I'm the one who tries the best and gets the most grief though so it's not that "fun" for me to be how I am sometimes.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
23 Sep 12
I hope they have a wonderful anniversary...and yes...your brother better step back a bit and let them celebrate they way they want.....by watching their favorite shows.....and good for you for making it a special day for them.
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
23 Sep 12
Thanks jillhill. Well so much for stepping back. No go for him. Yes, I did try.
• Indonesia
23 Sep 12
Congratulations to your parents Not many couples are able to maintain the marriage until decades. Once again, congratulation. May they through a fun happy day to celebrate this special day.
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
24 Sep 12
Thanks mrswhitfield, you are right not many couples stay together for that long. But there have been circumstances where they probably shouldn't have even to this day. They have just stayed together out of things not being very easy to manage otherwise I guess. I think it was just a normal day for them for the most part. Nothing special.
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