I feel like my sister judges me
By amycarp417
@amycarp417 (9)
United States
September 23, 2012 4:42pm CST
My sister recently broke up with her boyfriend and so she came up to spend the weekend with my husband and me. He and I like to go out and have some beers and hang out with our friends at a bar down the street. She tagged along with us because I thought it would do her some good to get out and let loose to shake him off but after we got home last night she was talking about how bad she hated it and didn't know why my husband and I go drinking all the time and that she couldn't wait to get home. We don't get smashed drunk at all, it's just a social scene. And she had a really good time Friday night so I don't know what changed on Saturday. I feel like she judges us for our lifestyle.
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@moneymaka (492)
• United States
23 Sep 12
That's not right of her to say that to you. She really needs a lesson in matters, I mean why would your own sister judge your lifestyle if you're a grown adult. I understand if she judged your personality but this is how you like to enjoy your self and you aren't a child, no wonder she's single.
You should really kinda confront her about this.
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@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
23 Sep 12
Maybe she's just feeling a little bitter about breaking up with her boyfriend and also feeling a bit jealous while seeing you and your husband go out and have a good time. I don't see anything wrong with going out on a Friday night to have a few drinks with some friends. If you say she had a good time then my guess is that she's just feeling jealous seeing you and your husband together when she just broke up with her boyfriend. Hopefully she doesn't do this anymore but try not to feel so bad about it.
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@shaggin (71666)
• United States
24 Sep 12
I really hate the bar scene as well but I think its just because I live in such a little town and all the losers go to the bars and get trashed and try to pick up girls. Or all the girls who are single moms trying to pick up a man go to the bars. Its just not a place I like to go to hang out. If a bar was full of nice normal people who just wanted to socialize then it could be fun. Maybe your sister just feels akward because you are there with your husband and shes alone. Oh well if she doesnt like it dont bother to invite her again just you and your husband go and have fun.
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
24 Sep 12
I'm like you shaggin, I never did like the bar scene. Although I do come with some friends but we do not stay long, besides none of us are drinkers anyway. It maybe does because she isn't ready yet to be out where couples usually hang out. Maybe it is still too fresh for her and instead of her saying or admitting to that, she just used the drinking issue as an excuse to tell you something. I am not really good with reading between the lines so I am not really trying to begin to dig deeper into what she said, but it does sound like coming from someone who's bitter. I'm with shaggin on the not inviting her again part. When she's ready, I am sure she will be the one to ask to join you next time.
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@sarahb411 (75)
• United States
24 Sep 12
When you're missing someone, namely a boyfriend, everything else seems trivial, useless, a waste of time. It also magnifies what others are doing and and distort a persons perception of what's really happening around them. She sounds like she'd rather sulk a little, which is natural after a break up. Its hard to get back out there and be social. As long as it doesn't go on too long, maybe she just needs some "down" time and a little one on one with her sister when possible. Then take her out again and it'll probably be different.
@lizrelox (144)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
I am sorry to hear that. Please try to understand your sister that she is maybe in a difficult situation now and she expects you to be her great companion and strength. Going out and getting will never help someone who is hurt. It is much better to stay with her and try to listen to what she will say about her troubles as this can lessen her pain if she will be able to let it out. Most of all pray for her or pray with her.
@thelopautheory (27)
• Philippines
24 Sep 12
maybe she was the one who got drunk. you may not just see it, but she is envy the way you and your husband spend quality time together. maybe you could talk to her the moment she has already cooled down and explain to her some of the reasons how to get happy in life. simple things maybe.
@ferianneful (148)
• Philippines
24 Sep 12
There is nothing wrong with a little socializing and it always come hand in hand with drinking. Just try to understand your sister. She is just in a bad mood because of what she's been going through. She's not really judging you and so what if she is, you are both grown-ups now. You have all the right to do what you want to do. If she doesn't approve your lifestyle then that's her problem, right. Like they said, to each his own.
@nhieleiko (109)
• Philippines
24 Sep 12
Maybe she is jealous with you guys or she felt that she was alone because you are with your husband. She felt that she was out of place when going with you. It is just a guess. You can talk to your sister and discuss it privately.
@quanquanzhang (504)
• China
24 Sep 12
eveyone has different lifestyle,i think there is missunderstanding between you,you should have communication,perhaps it will be better,i hope your family can be happy!good luck!
@kimilawini (111)
• Philippines
24 Sep 12
she may be remembering her own time with the ex-boyfriend and now that she sees you doing things with your husband, she just might be reminded of her ex and the things they used to enjoy doing together. leave her be.. she's going through a tough time. don't make her pain your own, instead make her feel that she hasn't lost everything when they broke up. she still has her family. :D and thing is, you can't break up with your family and friends. :) they'd still be there.
