Who is your enemy?

@rubyroy (824)
India
September 24, 2012 1:44am CST
How will you define an enemy? Is he the one who cause you harm with ill will? Or is he the one who will deals with ulterior motive to harm you? Or one who would openly point out your fault in front of others to degrade you by destroying your self esteem. A friend of mine pounces on me whenever I commit a mistake,and goes on describing about it to others,how foolish and thoughtless I was to commit that mistake.A few times I heeded to him,and explained why I did that mistake and told that I would be more careful.But he always maintain that I intentionally commit a mistake to spite him.How will I prove to him that this is not an intentional mistake to harm him?
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@tipay26 (867)
• Philippines
24 Sep 12
You have defined the meaning of an enemy my friend.An enemy is someone who thinks about you less and thinks about himself more .An enemy is someone who will harm you regardless of situations you are facing.An enemy belittles you in every aspect and doesn't think that you can and you have.it is very hard to explain to your enemy about your deeds they will never believe it why? Because you are enemies that simple.If I were in your shoes I wouldn't make any effort in explaining to him why would I he/she won't believe it anyway hahahah..I'll just go on doing my thing and keep him out of my sight :D
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• India
24 Sep 12
I dont object your definition. But I think this is more like a villain in movies that we see. Do we really find such heartless people in our life. if so have you ever wondered why has he become so.
@riyauro (6421)
• India
24 Sep 12
I think the person who talks behind your back it your real enemy because he or she claims to be your friend and then spoils your name by talking behind your back. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead
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• India
24 Sep 12
There is only one enemy you can ever have in your life an that is you. it might sound a weird philosophy, but when you think thats very true. Think about the person you hate he most. You would find that atleast once there must have ben some provocation or mistake from your part that prompted the problems. But its hard for us to be perfect. people might turn against us, but remember we only create enemies.
@rubyroy (824)
• India
24 Sep 12
You may be correct to an extent,but not fully,enmity can happen due to selfish motive of a person,and also because of wrong notions of both parties.If you are a true friend, you will try to clarify each other through constructive criticism and mutual help.Drastic comments that hurt a person will never help both the sides.
@MANJET (84)
• Malaysia
24 Sep 12
If I have to define my enemy. I would say that any person who intentionally do something that can hurt me either emotionally, mentally or physically is considered as my enemy. Those who criticize you or point or your mistake hoping that you would be a better person are not your enemy. Yet, I don't think there is any other way besides trying your best to convince him that you did not do it purposely.
• India
24 Sep 12
have we ever wondered why would a person would want to hurt me intentionally. Smoke is not born without fire. There might be some reason that made them hate you. Lets not blame entirely on somebody .
@HomeBase (1153)
• United States
24 Sep 12
And you say this person is your friend?? I'm very curious as to why you really put up with this type of behavior?
@rubyroy (824)
• India
24 Sep 12
He is a colleague and also a relative of mine.He makes these comments in our family gatherings.He is known for his barbed comments,beside he is very senior to me.I find it difficult to be rude to a elderly person.
@HomeBase (1153)
• United States
25 Sep 12
Oh okay, now I get it. He is not really a friend of yours, he is an elder relative, but not a friend. You do not have to be rude to him, you can speak to him about certain things as one adult speaking to another adult. Very calmly, no need to be rude at all. Calm, cool, and collected.
24 Sep 12
People who obstacle our way,those are either relativist or one that is antagonist or hates to another.
• India
24 Sep 12
These are all different categories of people that we come across in our life. Dont you feel if we move away from such people, we can be better. Do you think such people always remain bad at heart.
@Ysabel (1201)
• Philippines
24 Sep 12
In general, I am so easily to get along with. I am flexible and can adjust to people from all walks of life. However, there is a colleague in my work environment who is really very hard to please, difficult to adjust and really so pissing me off! Enemy could be an extreme word but this person has become a nuisance to my everyday work life that I am really becoming to abhor that person! I could have killed her in my thoughts, - but only in my evil mind,. In reality, what I do is that I just pretend she doesn't exist. So an enemy, to define the word, could not really be that extreme one that you associate it with violence, but an enemy could also be someone who at one point or another disrupts your daily activities and ruin your day! In your case, what is that mistake that you do, and that he has to punch you? That is really, really rude, and you should not allow him to do that to you.
• India
24 Sep 12
You have really given a wonderful definition of an enemy. i think in that sense a cockroach can be your enemy. But my concept of enemy is completely different from yours.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
24 Sep 12
For me, I have to say that I'm a person that really doesn't have any enemies in this world. In other words, it really does take a lot to make me mad and though there might be times that I choose to not be around someone, it takes a lot more than that for me to define a person as my enemy. With that said, the way that I define an enemy is someone that takes advantage of me without my knowledge despite the fact that I've been doing everything that I can to help them through a tough place in their life.
@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
3 Nov 12
Read the Gospels. Have Jesus's teachings in mind when you make decisions.
• Bangladesh
25 Sep 12
So to speak the truth, your friend is trying to defame you. May be you had been ignoring you in the past and now he is taking revenge on you. Just be sincere to him and the entire sitution wil be ok. I would say no one is our enemy. Our enemy is our arrogance, our superiory complex for which we are to pay in future. Stay well
@STOUTjodee (3572)
• United States
25 Sep 12
An enemy to me would be a person that would go behind my back and do things against things that I believe in. A person like that would inevitably hurt or harm you and wouldn't care. With a person like this you would be always looking behind you and making sure that that person is not trying to harm you. With an enemy you can't live a peaceful life because you will always be wondering what they did to you.
@leahn011 (58)
• Philippines
25 Sep 12
Enemy for me is that the one who pushes me down and belittle me in front of many people behind my back. Also being traitor is an enemy for me too.
@shm1975 (38)
24 Sep 12
To me enemy is is that person who heart me with silly selfishness,but the person who criticize me i never take as enemy because due to him i know the fault of mine whatever small or big it may be.on other hand is a friends who help to re-correct my fault.Another type of friends who always flatter u is a type of enemy who never realize u what is your fault.
• India
24 Sep 12
There are a lot of selfish people around us. the best thing we can do is get away from such people. Try to have mininmum interaction with such people and our life would be much better
• United States
25 Sep 12
an enemy is all of the first lol. as far as the friend goes, that is called a frienemy. one who is with you but follows no real boundries. and as for showing him you mean good and no harm, next time add up all the things that led up to what went wrong, review it and explain how the incident happened.
@rog0322 (2829)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
24 Sep 12
Hi, A "friend" that tells some bad things at your back is the real enemy. Why it is the work of the devil, telling lies about his rival and causing untold anguish to all concerned. Persons like that should be avoided at all cost to mitigate the damage.