Divorce her then!
By Toni
@toniganzon (72279)
Philippines
September 24, 2012 11:45pm CST
A few months back, I had the opportunity to read messages exchanged between a husband and her mistress on yahoo messenger. A hacker friend was hired by the wife to hack her husband's ym account to find out if he's cheating on her or not.
Since the hacker friend of mine is not well verse in the English language, he sent me a program that appeared on my ym so i could see the conversation and translate it.
The husband told the mistress that his stupid wife had no idea of what he was doing. He even called his wife a biatch and ugly!
Why didn't he just divorce her instead of talking behind her back and calling her names? He obviously doesn't love nor care about his wife anymore, so why stay married? Where's the respect there?
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13 responses
@jugsjugs (12967)
•
25 Sep 12
They do say that the wife is the last one to know when it comes to a husband playing around with another woman.
I feel really sorry for people when they get cheated on by their partners and the partner is also bad mouthing the wife at the same time, thinking that they are clever and that they are never going to get caught out.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
The worst part that the husband did in this situation is not only the cheating but calling her wife names. If he doesn't love her anymore, he should have just left her but never say anything bad about her to his mistress.
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@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
25 Sep 12
Some men can be cruel , he is sleeping with her and saying those kinda stuff behind her back , how low can he be 
. He should be ashamed and just imagine the mistress thinking she is special , dont she know what goes around will come around .
I hope the wife get a divorce because I dont think her life can get any worse only better after she part with him . I know there is always two part to a story but if he is so disgust with her just divorce her already.
. He should be ashamed and just imagine the mistress thinking she is special , dont she know what goes around will come around .
I hope the wife get a divorce because I dont think her life can get any worse only better after she part with him . I know there is always two part to a story but if he is so disgust with her just divorce her already. 2 people like this
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
I totally agree. He really did sound disgusted and i see no reason why he's still staying in a loveless marriage. If i were the mistress, I would break up with him. His attitude is not so manly at all. If he could say bad things about his wife, he is really capable of saying bad things about any woman. Shame.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Sep 12
hi toniganzon I really feel sorry for the wife and for her to hear
his heartless spiel is really sick.why on earth does he not dp the right thing and get the hell out of her live?divorce her and goto hjs precious mistress. He does not resp ect his wife at all. Iholp;le she leaves him for s ure.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Sep 12
typo should be I hope she leave him for sure.
also why on earth does he not do the right thing
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
Hello, Hatley! It's really awful, right? I hope she will. After all, she hired a hacker to confirm. Maybe she has plans to get rid of him in her own gracious way! 
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
25 Sep 12
Such people will never have the guts. They will remain scared of the ale money to be paid (if there is such a law at your place) and also when they are getting more fun without the divorce... whey should they bother about it?
I am pitying that girl or lady who knowing the facts that this guy is married is still flirting with him. But I guess, it is more like the youth culture today - come, lets have fun, enjoyment and you walk your way and I walk mine...
I only pray that the couple doesnt have any kids so when things come out in public, at least there is no one beyond these grownups who have to suffer.
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
Hello Sid, those people are from the US. Even if they have kids, i think it would be best for them to divorce as such behaviour by the husband will affect the children more if they stay in the marriage.
The mistress is really stupid if she would continue having an affair with him. That man is capable of cussing not on his wife but all women with that kind of behaviour.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
25 Sep 12
I pity the wife because she saw what they were talking about, and the husband actually maligning her. 
If i were in her shoes, when the husband arrives, i would tell him to go to hell and if the place is her own, i would throw him out of the house, without telling him why! I would torture him by wondering why.
But if the house is his, i would go away with all my belongings and hire a private detective to gather evidence so i can sue them! 
If i were in her shoes, when the husband arrives, i would tell him to go to hell and if the place is her own, i would throw him out of the house, without telling him why! I would torture him by wondering why.
But if the house is his, i would go away with all my belongings and hire a private detective to gather evidence so i can sue them! 1 person likes this
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
Hello D! Those people are form the US. If i were the wife, i wouldn't say anything, i wouldn't show my anger. I would definitely consult a lawyer, present the evidence that i have and take whatever money he has left including full custody of the kids if we have any. It would be a slap in the face for him the moment he gets the divorce paper. I would give him the surprise of his life he wouldn't even realize what hit him.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
Oh yes Toni, i also would do that too, if i were in the US. I will let him give me an alimony, that he can never forget in his life. 
I can just imagine the look on his face when he receives the divorce paper!
I can just imagine the look on his face when he receives the divorce paper! 
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
25 Sep 12
Who says he is not loving his wife? Who says he is not telling his mistress what he thinks she might like to hear (which is: You are the only one I love). This type of man feels way better if he has more as just one woman who looks upon him. Who tells him how much he is needs blah blah blah. He will not divorce his wife since he is not sure if his mistress will dump him. This way he has both. A housekeeper, cook, nurse, etc at home and someone for fun outside (his own private hooker). Respect???? What makes you think these type op human beings have respect for others? They live for themselves.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
I don't think the wife will stay in the marriage. She wouldn't have hired a hacker in the first place if she still has plans to stay in that hellhole. She might even use the conversation as evidence!
@shaggin (71671)
• United States
26 Sep 12
Sometimes people want their cake and to eat it to and its wrong. I really feel bad for this poor woman having to read what her horrible husband was saying to his mistress about her. She must have been so sad and angry at the things he said and the fact he was really cheating.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
Yeah it must have been awful that the man sleeping next to you is actually saying bad things about you. I bet she's on her way to a divorce lawyer. She has been doubting him for a long time i think, that's why she hired a hacker just to confirm or maybe use it as evidence.
@artemeis (4194)
• China
25 Sep 12
A lot of times, men who are involved in affairs actually do not want to end their marriage and most of all, their wives.
These are just what men like to play and risk when they want to get into the other person's pants even family. Unfortunately, this is the truth most of the time. So, I will never hesitate when someone chooses the other path of a committed relationship.
Sorry but I have zero tolerance for betrayal, so with this fact, I think you know who's the b.i.t.c.h. here.
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
I think the wife has a great plan or she wouldn't have hired a hacker to find out what his husband is into.
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
25 Sep 12
Right, he should have divorced or filed a legal separation if he is not happy at all. i believe he is just a coward for not doing this and talking behind the wife's back.
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
Those people are from the US. I felt awful witnessing such conversation between an ahole and his mistress.
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
26 Sep 12
Wow, that is so sad that her husband would talk about her like that behind her back. I definitely agree, that if that is how he feels about her, then he should divorce her most definitely. Why stay with her at all and you are right where is the respect in the marriage.
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
There's none and i hope that she gets rid of him as soon as possible.
@Daisy_22 (1229)
• Philippines
25 Sep 12
That's the sad part of being in love, maybe the wife already knows but doesn't care becasue she really loves her husband. It's really quite pitiful situation however, at the end the loser will be the husband because most of the mistress will not going to stay beside them forever.
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
If they wife didn't care, why did he hire a hacker to confirm if he really was cheating? I don't think she would choose to stay in the marriage. You think you could still love your husband after he calls you biatch? And the worst, he said that to the woman he claims he loves!
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@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
25 Sep 12
There could be a lot of reasons why the husband doesn't want to divorce his wife now. From being costly, to knowing that he cannot have custody of their kids and even be banned from seeing them, if ever they have some. On the other hand, there could be no good reason for cheating. There isn't any justification that will make cheating okay.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
Cheating and worst is bad mouthing!
Well he will surely get his divorce paper from the wife soon.
@quanquanzhang (504)
• China
25 Sep 12
i am very angry with him,why he does that,just to vent,why?i can't understand,if i was his wife,how sad i felt,it is so terribe,marriage is a gamble,we should be careful,good luck!
