Could or would you share your man with another woman?
By CRSunrise
@CRSunrise (2981)
United States
September 26, 2012 7:53pm CST
Ever since the Brown's came out in their series, Sister Wives, I've occasionally thought about the concept of a man having multiple wives. There are occasions when I wish I was in that instance because then I wouldn't have to deal with him 24/7...if that makes sense. There would other woman around to help you with the kids, and other household things. It's an intriguing idea, but I'm not sure if I could honestly do it. At least, I couldn't do it while living so near my family. They would so not agree with it....neither would my husband's family.
What do you think?
7 responses
@Heathert514 (43)
• United States
27 Sep 12
I also found this idea to be intriguing, because just as you said, women don't always want to mess with their husbands. Not that we don't love our guys but just because sometimes we just want me time. I also flipped this idea and considered a relationship with one wife and multiple husbands. And honestly, you'd think that type would be much easier as men aren't as needy, jealous, or fatty as women can be.
Obviously no matter which way you flip it, this type of relationship would only work for couples who had a lot of trust, and a huge amount of communication, and didn't keep secrets from one another. Also, this would only work for people who weren't prone to jealousy.
Personally, I wouldn't be able to do it, not because I couldn't share my husband, but because I can not stand for someone other than myself to clean my house! And if another women moved or redecorated MY house, it would be on! Lol
@CRSunrise (2981)
• United States
28 Sep 12
Crap, I so gotta make sure I'm reading the right response. I meant to put this comment here.
"I would hate having to share my house with another woman, too. However, and I'm going on the comparison of Sister Wives', it seems like each individual would have their own set area. So, it wouldn't be like you were actually roommates with the woman. I'm just guessing here though."
@CRSunrise (2981)
• United States
28 Sep 12
You know, that wold be kinda interesting. The only thing, if there are multiple husbands in the house, and you get pregnant...could you imagine how much you'd spend on paternity tests? Now if you spent one month with one man, and another month with another....who knows?
@Heathert514 (43)
• United States
28 Sep 12
Lol.... Yes but in this economy, who can afford a house big enough for this! Lol.... I'm just saying, that would be a huge pet peeve in my fantasy world of polygamy!
Actually, if I had my fantasy world, I'd be the only female in the house, that way when one husband made me mad, I could go snuggle up to the other one! Lol
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
27 Sep 12
I am sorry CRSunrise but I can't even imagine myself in that situation, that would be heart breaking. I would never ever share my husband to any woman. I've seen a situation like this on TV where they feature a couple living in one roof with his husband's mistress. I honestly think it's gross I am so sorry.
@CRSunrise (2981)
• United States
27 Sep 12
Don't worry about me. Like I said, I'd never really do it. It's kinda like those fantasy we all have. We can almost dream about it, but we know it'll never happen.
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
27 Sep 12
I've seen that on TV and I just don't know how to react to that. They have even featured a couple where the wife later on found out that his husband is a gay. But she loves him so much so she allowed his husband's boyfriend to live with them. Oh, my head is really aching. It is so complicated and beyond imagination. But although it is out of this world, this is actually true and it is happening.
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
18 Oct 12
I know I couldn't do it. I could not share. I think I definitely have a tendency towards jealousy and I just can't imagine my husband with another woman, it would rip me apart. I'm also quite competitive, but at the same time I hate competition. If that makes any sense, lol. I just could NOT make it in that kind of arrangement.
@CRSunrise (2981)
• United States
27 Sep 12
I've never heard of a situation where there were multiple husbands and one wife. It wouldn't work well if procreation was the plan. Maybe that's why it's always one husband and multiple wives.
@CRSunrise (2981)
• United States
27 Sep 12
You're right. It's not practical from the standpoint of procreation....unless of course, there was a woman for every man, and they switched off. If that were the case, that's not polygamy....that's a swingers household.
@Murryluv59 (70)
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27 Sep 12
Absolutly mistake for any woman that got more than one husband and man supose to hold his wife tith not to look outside.
@CRSunrise (2981)
• United States
1 Oct 12
It just depends on how the woman feels about it. One person would deem it a mistake, while another would welcome it whole-heartedly. You may not agree with it, but there's not a thing anyone could do about it though.
@sheila2666 (90)
• United States
27 Sep 12
I have three friends in Singapore who are in a Poly relationship and have been for about 15 years now. The dynamic is two men and one woman. They worship the very ground she walks on. Although I respect what they have, I don't know if I could do it. We talk daily, and they are all faithful to eachother and what they have works for them. Since what they do does not bother me, I am ok with it. Have I considered it? Not so much. Sharing my husband is not an option, and I know he feels the same way
@CRSunrise (2981)
• United States
27 Sep 12
As far as your friends, as long as you can work around things (is that how to phrase it?) you shouldn't have any problems. However, no matter how people really feel about it, there are things that tend be a touchy subject, no matter the person.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
3 Oct 12
No way! I can't believe there are women that does that. If I was like forced to it, I don't know if the world was upside down and that was normal then I would have my right to do the same thing I guess, if only him, no. But again I could never love again that'd do that to me, he's just immoral them.
