Condolences with a difference
@allknowing (130292)
India
September 26, 2012 9:41pm CST
I lost my father when I was ten years old. The most touching condolences came from my classmates. One classmate had a quarrel with me just a day earlier. She wrote to me a note asking for forgiveness with a promise that she would never quarrel with them ever. One gave me a pencil as when I wanted to borrow a pencil from her she had refused. One promised that she would want to be my 'best friend'. Needless to say, there were hugs tears and kisses from all but no flowers as they could not afford to buy them.
What way have kids in your life reacted to tragedies such as this?
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5 responses
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
28 Sep 12
Hi All, when my mother side grandfather passed away while i was still in a primary school, my teacher asked me to take a week holiday. Besides that, my close friends shared their notes with me, to make sure that i don't missed out any lessons. Even my teacher asked me to take a separate exams for all the subjects when i return to school again. I was really surprised at how their understanding and reaction towards people who are having sadness in the family. Although my family was very sad at that moment, but all these surprised happenings makes us all think that indeed this world still have some understanding peoples.
@allknowing (130292)
• India
28 Sep 12
While adults could be doing it as their duty, kids express their true feelings and have their own way of showing how much they care!
@allknowing (130292)
• India
1 Oct 12
Kids are sincere and say and do what they feel. I still cannot forget that day kala!
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
27 Sep 12
i remember when i was in my first year in high school, those times where my mom and dad were fighting much, i was awake almost whole nights listening to them argue..till the break of dawn. I was naive that time and i never really knew the real reason of it.. that time i was in denial thinking it was just normal and that i could drown it out with my sleep..then i would go to school with puffed eyes and my eyes all weary. My very close friends listened well and i thought they would judge me and shun me out but they did not, instead they listened and now, they are still my close friends and we never talked about those days... as for my parents, i know the reason now.
@allknowing (130292)
• India
27 Sep 12
Even as kids they understand what is going on and contribute positively in their own little way. I was touched by how you were handled when you needed consolation.
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
27 Sep 12
yes, i guess at that time i actually do not know what to do, instead i cry it out till i fall asleep then go one.. i honestly do not remember must of those days except for those crying nights and going to school puffed eyes.
@allknowing (130292)
• India
27 Sep 12
It is best if one forgets incidents that are not palatable and move on.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
29 Sep 12
I guess between 10 and 12 was when I lost my mother figure(my grandmother). I still had my grandfather but losing that female figure for a little girl was really hard. I was super close to a cousin that was just a couple of months older than me. She was my best friend and my sister. She really meant the world to me. She told her mom that she would have to take care of me now too..LOL.
@allknowing (130292)
• India
29 Sep 12
How cute! That must have come from the bottom of her heart. That is the difference between children and adults Jen...
@ajk111 (2495)
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27 Sep 12
This is a very beautiful and touching discussion. The wonders of a youthful mind can be quite surprising at times.
I am so glad you had such a heartfelt experience and i do hope it helped you through a sad and difficult time.
I do not have any experiences like this but i had to leave a comment as i was touched by the kindness that you recieved.
@allknowing (130292)
• India
27 Sep 12
I too thought that there would be several who would participate in this discussion but as you can see there are hardly any.
This happened many years ago but I have vivid memories of the role that my classmates played at that tender age.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
29 Sep 12
Hi friend, sad to know you lost your father in very young age, but this incident made you to know about you real friends, surely the persons who conveyed they condolences in various ways are giving importance to your friendship and worried a lot for your father's dismissal. As all of your friends are kids, they are very innocent so they express their condolences in this way
@allknowing (130292)
• India
29 Sep 12
Yes Vidhya. Those acts from kids are profound in that they are real and have depth in them.
@allknowing (130292)
• India
2 Oct 12
There might have been many who came with condolences but what I got from these kids has remained in my memory till now!
