How Come People Are Stubborn When It Comes To Medical Care?
By KrauseHome
@KrauseHome (36445)
United States
September 26, 2012 10:59pm CST
There is a woman I work with. Actually she has been at my job over 5 yrs. She has been having major health issues for over a yr now. Part of the troubles put her in the hospital last yr almost in intensive care. Problem is in the last 2 weeks she has been having major problems and has not seen a doctor yet. She had to have surgery set yr on a neck vein and such due to incorrect blood flow etc and could not even move her neck most of last week. Even came into work looking warn out and her face looking ragged and lopsided and having people ask her if she had a stroke. She says they are wanting her to quit working and get on disability before she kills herself.
She did have her dad willing to pay her rent etc ao she could stay home as the doctors are telling her too, but she insists that she cannot do that and even will work the 40 hrs a week here and at least 12 usually another job and always complaining she is broke and even has had one personally who works here feel sorry for her and helped pay her bills. Last I heard she has never offered to pay anything back as well.
But seriously when you have good medical why wait until your doctor can see you to get seen by a doctor when you are having issues like this? She even acts like it is no big deal when she says no because her doctor does not feel it is an emergency. Seriously I know I am not one to speak with all my health issues but she is 54. Just wish somehow she would be more worried as this should be a wake up call before something more serious happens as well. Because who then will be around to help take care of her?
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@dragon54u (31633)
• United States
27 Sep 12
Her behavior gets her a lot of attention and sympathy, doesn't it? This might be the reason she's milking it for all it's worth. Or she may have a fear of doctors. I'm betting it's a ploy for attention. I hope she gets better and someone addresses her mental problem as they fix her physical problem.
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@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
6 Oct 12
Interesting way to look at things, especially when she never wants to hear about anyone else's issues and wants everyone to feel Sorry for her instead. Personally though she always has to post everything on Facebook and then never go see a Doctor even when she is feeling the worst. Hope it is not a Stroke or something that happens at work for someone to really wish they could have said something to get more serious about her health.
@randylovesdar (4932)
• United States
27 Sep 12
It is terrible when people do not take care of themselves. I know that it took me a while to get Randy to see a doctor when he was losing weight yet he was eating up a storm. It turned out that he is diabetic. In January of this year his foot had been swollen and he almost did not go to the emergency room. My mom had driven him to the emergency room and the doctor there said that it was probably water building up. His primary doctor ordered an MRI and that was when we were told that he had Charcot's Foot and had to be in a wheelchair for six months. Now he has a boot that helps him walk around, however he still has to take it easy and is unable to work. We finally got disability for him which had helped us get a place of our own. I hope that her dad can talk her into going to the doctors before it is too late.
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@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
6 Oct 12
Personally not sure what will wake her up and force her to get into a Doctor. Problem is they allow her to not take calls, etc. at work when this happens while at the same time even with me getting the Hyperbaric Oxygen I am supposed to take calls and not be tired etc. Ok? Say what?
But honestly why are they wanting to Baby here instead of trying to force and insist she go to a Doctor? Do they want to be held accountable when something more serious happens to her, especially if it is as work? We have decent medical so why is she being so stubborn?
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
28 Sep 12
She may not be paid as much on disability, the people I know in the states cannot get what they would have from working. If she has all that debt she cannot afford to stop.
But she is playing Russian roulette with her life though.
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@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
12 Oct 12
That is for sure, and she needs to wake up and realize what she is doing to herself before one day she wakes up and someone has to help her dress herself, etc. You would think she would quit being stubborn while she has good medical and at least get herself checked out. When you have something wrong and keep on ignoring it usually it never goes away.
@jillhill (37353)
• United States
28 Sep 12
I understand what you are saying...but we really don't have the right to tell someone else what to do with their person..or their personal lives. If she gets on your nerves because of the complaining....then just tell her that she does have options and it's up to her to take control....but I hate it when someone tells me what to do with health issues....I have a bum leg. My doctor tells me that she doesn't want anyone to take anything that they don't have to because putting all those meds etc are NOT GOOD for you...so she is trying other options....a guy told me today to get a cordizone shot...do you know that it never leaves your body? That it just floats around and later you will have effects from it? I am trying not to ingest anything that is not good for me! the gentleman that told me that is at least a hundred pounds overweight....and I didn't say a thing to him about his being obese!
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@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
12 Oct 12
Personally this is the same person always wanting to borrow my Blood pressure machine, but then saying she does not take her Blood pressure medication because she hates taking medication. Maybe this is why she will not go to a Doctor or the Emergency room as well, but seriously one minute she is acting like this and everyone should feel Sorry for her, but when I am in a lot of pain saying I need to be strong and work thru it. Quit relying on meds so much.
@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
27 Sep 12
She may be afraid of doctors, or, maybe, she is deluding herself about how serious her issues are. Sometimes, it can be scary to admit to oneself just how bad one's health really is; if one tells oneself that things really are not all that bad, one can avoid the issue of one's own mortality.
Or, perhaps, she places a lot of faith in the medical profession and will do as Doctor says but has a really bad doctor. If he really said that her issues were not an emergency, that could be the case. I can think of a few people who have serious health issues and/or have a child with a serious issue, and they are going to incompetent doctors who are doing nothing to remedy the issue. Unfortunately, since I really have not had much contact with these people recently, I haven't had much chance to nudge them toward more competent doctors.
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@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
12 Oct 12
Personally I am not sure what the issue is because her dad said he would pay for her condo, etc. if she quit, and has had doctors not release her to go to work, or work only part time, etc. and apply for SSD and she refuses to do it, and still works 2 jobs even when she can hardly move, and her Blood pressure is extremely high. I am not sure what they have her on for Blood pressure, but I have heard she hates taking Meds. Wondering what it will ever take for her to wake up? Her having no choice but being an invalid someone has to take care of?
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
27 Sep 12
It seems a lot of people don't like to go to the doctors because they are afraid they will find something serious. I know a lot of people like this. Also, my mother doesn't like to go to the doctors, because she thinks everything will go away. This woman probably doesn't feel like that though.
@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
10 Oct 12
Personally I am not sure what it is, unless she likes using the PITY game, and WOE IS ME, and just wants everyone to feel Sorry for her instead of going to a Doctor before something more serious happens.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
1 Oct 12
It sounds like she really should go. I do know a lot of people who go to work because they have to, because their finances just will not let them stay at home. It is sad to see someone in bad shape trying to make it through.
@BarBaraPrz (51839)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
27 Sep 12
It may be as dragon has suggested, that she likes the sympathy.
Or, she may have come from a family situation where they are of the mind that if you go to the hospital, you will die.
An uncle of mine was so scared of dying in the hospital when he went in for varicose veins, that he checked himself out too soon and walked all the way home. He got pneumonia and eventually did die in the hospital a few days later, more of paranoia I think, than anything else.
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@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
9 Oct 12
Maybe it is the Issue of if she goes into the hospital or the Emergency room she is afraid of dying, but since she continues to loose friends she knows all the time, you would think this would make her want to be more proactive about her own life. But you never know.
@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
28 Sep 12
Hello my friend KrauseHome Ji,
Well, it is encouraging that you are worried about your collegue as you yoiurself need medical attention and have many issues. But I think that yoiur collegue ahs many things inside her heart, which She is unable to disclose to you all as such She ha sto work for 40 yrs. I think some very near and dear should try to find out and so taht proper medication
May God bless You and have a great time 
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
29 Sep 12
It is so terribly sad when people do not take care of themselves the way that they ought to. My husband's boss at work is one of those people, until this year it had been over twenty years since the last time that he saw a doctor and then just a couple months ago he was diagnosed with cancer. Since then he has spent a couple weeks in the hospital and has been going through chemotherapy as well. If he had been seeing a doctor on a regular basis, he really wouldn't be in the terrible shape that he is in now. I am just hoping and praying that he didn't wait too long to start seeking medical care.
@CookingIsMyPassion (653)
• United States
27 Sep 12
This is absolutely ridiculous to act in this manner. She is working full time, has great benefits and would be covered for disability. I doubt the doctor really said the surgery or stint that she needs isn't an urgent matter.
She is the one in the end going to suffer if she doesn't get the medical attention she needs. She could have a blood clot form, a stoke or a heart attack from the sound of it. Then she will be forced to be on disability. At least she will still have an income - not as much as working but better than nothing.
She isn't old but old enough to know better. Hope she wakes up soon before she falls into something far more serious that it is already.
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@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
6 Oct 12
Personally it would be nice if she would wake up and get the help she needs before something more serious happens. She even posts on Facebook she is not doing good, but instead of getting to a Doctor just says she will wait until her appointment the middle of this month. She already had to get something done to her neck last yr. and walks with a walker or cane. What else will it take to wake her up? Having a stroke and being left as an invalid and unable to work?
