When was the last time you Cried?
By Nightshade13
@Nightshade13 (74)
Philippines
September 27, 2012 1:44am CST
Hi Mylotters!
Good day!
"When was the last time i Cried?" this is the question that comes to my mind when I'm all alone in my room just sitting and having my coffee in the morning, i just realize that i haven't cried for a very long time now. I'm not sure if i got a heart of stone or something or maybe there was no reason for me to cry at all.
its not that i don't encounter problems which is very impossible nowadays and in fact i currently have lots of them, but i don't think that crying will make those problems go away. There are times that i am almost on my knees begging for help from God but i just couldn't cry, i tried not to, maybe because i tried so hard for my journey to be full of laughter and think of all the positive things that can ease the pain and make the smile come to my face.
And with that thought, i met someone who always cry or seem to "not being shy" in showing his/her emotions publicly. Sure, i know a lot of people who cries in front of me because my Friends knows me as a "good listener", but this person is different, sometimes i think that THAT person cries to catch some attention that sometimes i no longer sense the "truthfulness" in his/her cry and it made me realize that "Not All Cries are True" sometimes people do that to catch some attention just like a child who would cry out loud just for his folks to buy him some candy.
How 'bout you Mylotter's? have you encounter this kind of personality? do you believed that not all cries are true? i do, because i met one...
13 responses
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
Most of the time,when I can't control my emotion,I cried in front of a person whether in public in private. That is my attitude that I wanted to change in my life because sometimes I am being misinterpreted in that attitude. they thought that i am just creating commotions or catching the attention of other people. but they don't know that I am damn serious with it.my point there is why would I catch the attention of others,if it is for my own embarrasment?maybe i should not learn from that.maybe "not all cries are not true" for others" but for me, when i cry, i do it not to get the heart of the person or to pity me,i just show what i feel inside. having this said, i will never cry in front of someone because they might misinterpret it.
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
I understand your point of view Nightshade13.and i respect your idea on this matter.but i still stand on my view that i cry even in front of many people not to get their attention but to show how i feel about the situation or I am undergoing a painful thing that time.I never thought that it goes differ than this and even put into writing. you will never see my cry again.thanks for the great discussion.
@Nightshade13 (74)
• Philippines
23 Oct 12
i had a feeling that you're relating yourself to my story... like i said, i met one person who fits to my description and i go for what i saw and what i feel. Don't let this comment give you the decision to stop crying, there are benefits to that and i mentioned it already and crying is not a sign of weakness rather you will be strong after you did it and i've proven that as well. Although i haven't cried for a long time and you're the witness of it, i still believed that it has the power to ease the pain and sadness within your heart, you know that more than i do.
Keep Mylotting!
@Nightshade13 (74)
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
Hello there,
crying is not actually bad in fact i believed it can take away the stress of a person, it can lighten up the negative feelings that's inside of him. i also did not say that ALL cries are not real, off course people cry for a reason, however, what i'm trying to say is, the ulterior motive will define the crying of a certain human being (if it's true or not). all i can say is that there is that feelings that tells us that "hey, this person is faking it" or "hey, he/she is really hurt". Don't you agree? i mostly trust my instict, because i am basing things in a logical manner.
Happy Mylotting friend!
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@aejey322 (1004)
• Philippines
27 Sep 12
me.. just a few hours ago... it was not really literally cried... but i did shed some tears. an officemate forwarded me a link about a 19yr old dog with arthritis. i was just touched that his owner did not give up on him even though his vet already recommended euthanasia. he patiently did some therapy to make him make well. i can't control myself, i really cry reading this kind of story. especially if involves dogs, children, and elders... 
@Nightshade13 (74)
• Philippines
27 Sep 12
Hi aejey322,
Wow, that's the true friendship if you're gonna ask me. i wish that all of us would have that kind of love especially to the "Man's Bestfriend"...
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
Can I just answer the opposite question since I cry almost everyday. This week, as far as I remember, it is just yesterday that I did not cry.
I also believe that not all tears are true. I think they call it crocodile tears, not sure though. Some people just love attention and would do anything to make the attention of everyone be focused in them.
@Nightshade13 (74)
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
Hello Paper_Doll
yes, i look at them like a hollywood star and that's the movie that they're making. Although, i always give the benfits of a doubt to the person, however, i can't really explain it thoroughly, i just felt it. i mean, you will feel if the person crying in front or just talking to you on a casual way if they're true/sincere to what they're saying or doing, right? although i don't judge an individual easily, because, there are those people whose really easy to cry but they're tears are indeed sincere, however, i do "observed"...
Keep Mylotting!
@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
Yes I also encountered that kind of person.You are true,she or he is just doing that to catch some attention.Childish is the right term for that. I think the best way to resist that kind of attitude from someone is not to pay attention from her crying.She will be just too disgusting.
@Nightshade13 (74)
• Philippines
7 Oct 12
Hello kokomo!
as rude as it is, i actually did that, there is one person before that cries in front of me while we were trying to solve our problem/s with each other and i just ignore it considering the fact that we are at the public place.
@nancyfancy (61)
• China
28 Sep 12
I haven't cry for a long time.I can't remember the correct time when was the last time I cried.It was almost four months ago and I cried only because a moved movie.To be honest,the moved movie is just a mask for me to cry out.At that period I was in a low spirit everyday and I need a way to abreact.To my surprised,all of my roommates cried at that night for different reasons.
@Nightshade13 (74)
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
hi nancyfancy,
it's a good thing that you have roommates that might share the same feelings as yours and might understand what you are going through, i suggest you to find someone whom you really trust that is willing to be an outlet to those emotions, because if you will not going to let it that emotions out of your body and it so happen that you cannot handle it, it might damaged you mentally... i hope you surpass the current storm you are going through
@ztuberi (395)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
I dont want to cry anymore. I'm tired of it. Especially crying alone. Well, of course except tears of joy.
But actually I once felt, I already missed crying. LIke it seems I am not crying for a long time. And just want to cry to remember how it feels like.
@Nightshade13 (74)
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
Hi ztuberi,
i'm not encouraging you to cry, but, sometimes crying is good to let those stress and hurtful feelings that you just experienced be reduced even if on a tiny basis and it is really a good feeling after you cried. Also, i don't believed that this is a sign of being weak, but i do believed that crying can make you stronger at least emotionally...
@irajohann (95)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
I haven't really heard of fake cries/crying. I believe crying is some sort of a release and should have a compelling reason in order for someone to cry -- whether you're worried or sad or too happy. It takes too much emotion, and energy so I guess faking it is just a waste of time.
But I guess there are sensitive individuals who cries at almost anything. At least give that person the benefit of the doubt.
@GemmaR (8517)
•
27 Sep 12
I am not the kind of person who cries all of the time, and I have never been like that. I guess I might have cried when I was younger, but there is nothing strange about that because all children cry. In the past three years I have hardly ever cried at all, and when I have it has always been out of frustration rather than because I am feeling sad. I cried last in November of last year when my Dad lost his job. I knew that there was no way that we would be able to afford the house without taking on a lot of extra hours, and I was certainly right about that. I don't even cry and books or films, and I haven't cried for almost a year now.
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
27 Sep 12
i guess a few nights ago, like sunday night, i was really feeling a bit annoyed and pissed off for some reason i could not remember. Actually crying relieves me of stress and all other bad feelings i have inside.
@Nightshade13 (74)
• Philippines
7 Oct 12
Hi Jazel_juan
i guess you're right, if you always keep that feelings inside your heart then you'll go crazy sooner or later... I'm wondering when will that come to me...
Happy Mylotting
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
17 Dec 12
hi,
its really easy to cry a fake one,because we can only turn back the time when we were lonely in life and those saddest thing that happened to us,and the last time that i cried was in my last boyfriend,he was my lived in partner and i really loved him so much.
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
27 Sep 12
I cry whenever I'm sad, heartbroken, very happy and when I just want to unload my problems. You see when I'm mad, I don't want to hurt back someone, so I just cry because I don't want to bottle up negative feelings inside me. When someone broke my heart, I can't help but cry for the end of something that was once beautiful that we shared. When I am very happy, I cry tears of joy because I work hard for everything that I want, including material things, lol! And of course, when everything's very heavy for me to carry, when I am so burdened and weary, I cry whenever I pray for help.
I think the last time I cried was last week when me and my husband argued over something that he's doing that he thinks it's okay, but in fact it hurts me. It's just a misunderstanding. He was able to yell at me and that opened up my tears. Well, we also made up and everything's all good now. I usually shed tears when it is about my loved ones.
@Nightshade13 (74)
• Philippines
7 Oct 12
Hello Raine38
it usually the feelings that made us cry, and i envy you for being so showy to other people and to your love once. Because I'm not the type of person that wanted to cry in front of other people, especially if it is at the public places...
@blinjk (617)
• United States
27 Sep 12
Today, I have cried because I am missing my father.It has been one year when he faced an accident that caused him his life.I am really an emotional person and I cry when I get hurt.Maybe some people can fake their cry to get attention like kids they usually cry just to get what they want.Happy mylotting.
@Nightshade13 (74)
• Philippines
27 Sep 12
Hello blinjk,
now that's the right time for a person to cry, to have lost someone whose close and dear to your heart, i on the other hand, thank God that both of my folks are alive.
i would understand if the person who's crying is a 5 or 10year old child, however, if the person fake its cry, that's a different story for me, there might be a hidden agenda to that...
i believe that there is nothing wrong in crying, but there is a right time and place to do that if you're going to ask me...
Thanks for sharing about your father and I'm sorry to hear that, reminiscing the past can be a bit emotional but always think that the past can be a good place to visit but NOT a good place to stay, life has to go on...
@kimilawini (111)
• Philippines
6 Oct 12
Well I do recall receiving a quote explaining that we all need to cry once in a while.. because tears wash away what laughter sometimes can't. It's never a sign of weakness to cry. It's just a release of pent up emotions.. Uhmm, a kind of unloading. Notice that everything feels a little different. Of course, too much crying is not something good either. Just keep it at normal levels.. If your tears are not that easy to surface, then good for you, toughie. :) but when the time comes that you need to do it, let it go.. Even in the privacy of your room. Just so you can be refreshed again. :) Good day!
