Lending Money.
By rubyroy
@rubyroy (824)
India
September 29, 2012 6:42am CST
I learned that lending money to your near relative,you will never be able to satisfy his expectations.My brother who can never keep a job for more than six months got married,when he was 31 years old.His wife had a good job,which he made her to resign saying that he is going to start a new business.He said that he is starting a business.His wives family helped him to start the business.Finally after two years,by his sheer negligence,he got into debts and our elder sister helped him to get out of the debts.They also allowed him to stay in their house,and he mismanaged his brother in laws fund and fought with him.Now his wife is really angry with our family,because she also lost a lot of money,due to his hot temper and negligence.What should you do to control a guy like this?
8 responses
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
14 Oct 12
Several relationship destroys because of money matters. Whether we like it or not, we admit that when somebody cannot pay his/her debts all trust will be lost. Many things you will sacrifices, from properties to families. That's what happened to your relatives.
It happened to me also lately. I have a friend who promise to pay his credit after several months but now, it's almost a year and even single cents he didn't give us. I broke his promise and my trust to him lost. I break our connection as a friend and I want him only to pay his due to me and that's all. No more no less.
It happened to me also lately. I have a friend who promise to pay his credit after several months but now, it's almost a year and even single cents he didn't give us. I broke his promise and my trust to him lost. I break our connection as a friend and I want him only to pay his due to me and that's all. No more no less.
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
29 Sep 12
That guy sound like a hot mess , I would not have a solution for him . If I was his wife I would not let him run the business again or manage our finance since he clearly cant .
@saiKO92 (392)
• Malaysia
12 Oct 12
To handle this kind of person we need to handle like we do when a caterpillar is morphing from its cocoon state to a butterfly. That is to say, let him be (cocoon state) til he learn from his mistakes (morph to butterfly). Let him have a clear, executable plan for the rest of his life before helping him again.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
29 Sep 12
if there is still a chance to talk him out of his bad temper and bad attitude, then the relatives should try. if there are no changes, leave him alone and let him taste what he'd done.
@marguicha (215469)
• Chile
29 Sep 12
Yuo cannot change people. So the only thing you can do is to lend him only the amount of money that you can afford to lose. His wife should have known how she was before marrying him and she should not have quitted her work nor let her family help they moneywise. It seems that everyone keeps on giving him money to lose. It`s not his fault really. People should not trust him with their money anymore.
@challs12 (548)
• Malaysia
29 Sep 12
I would say there's nothing much we can do with a person with bad temper and careless in handling money. I think better to leave him alone and choose his own way. Let him suffer first till he feel guilty and willing to change then only we help him. Otherwise we just wasting our money and time. Another thing is that this make us feel ashame with other relative to have family member like that. So, let him learn from his mistake, don't help him for a while and wait till he accept his mistakes and willing to change before we lend a hand to him again.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
29 Sep 12
Hi friend, sad to hear about your brother, it is really hard to deal with this kind of persons, i think he is doing this kind of activities intentionally with his knowledge. I wonder why he is neglecting the good things and interested in wasting the money? It is not easy to start a business, we must have a good knowledge for it
