Personality Differences
By melissa14344
@melissa14344 (211)
Philippines
October 2, 2012 3:18am CST
Hi mylotters!
Recently, I have been feeling uncomfortable in my workplace. The reason is there is someone in the office who at first was a friend to me, but as time goes by, I realized that she is not talking to me anymore. Since there is no verbal conflict or anything that happened between us, I am really hurt and confused. I tried to confront her and she said that there is no problem. I believe that she is not being true to me.
I also think that Personality Difference is playing a big part in our situation. I hate to admit it but I could really sense the tension when we are in the same area. I would love to settle things with her but I don't want to push things.
How do you deal with personality Differennces because I know that clashing of personality especially in the workplace is enevitable? HOw do you respond if you feel that your clashing with your co-worker? What do you feel when you are facing such scenario? I just want to find out if what I'm feeling during this circumstances is normal. So help me sort this thing mylotters! I'll wait for your response!
Good day!
12 responses
@cjjack25 (9)
• United States
2 Oct 12
Its hard, I understand completely where your comeing from here. I too have been have bouts with a co-worker. She found out something about my personal life, that at first she said she didnt have a problem with, but after I revealed it she looked at me different, and her demenor towards me changed. Some times I felt like I was walking on egg shells around her all the time, and I couldnt be my normal self around her. Finally I just decided that, Im gonna be me no matter what. If she doesnt like it then she doesnt have to be my friend. Just remember the ones who mind dont matter and the ones who matter dont mind.
@melissa14344 (211)
• Philippines
5 Dec 12
thanks for your sharing cjjack :D
that makes human interactions complicated. thats true what you said, we don't need to hide who we are. Everyone has flaws. Acceptance is must and let's just no one. :D
@Shavkat (137189)
• Philippines
2 Dec 12
I hate people who have double-face. Even if they pretend that they don't like to be acquainted with you. It can be seen through our naked eyes.
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
2 Oct 12
It is always very sad and uncomfortable if the co-worker who once close to us suddenly avoiding us, I think nothing can be change unless she wanted it, you have done your part by talking to her, I will not approach her anymore if I were you, infact I will be my own thing and do my work without talking to her anymore.
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
2 Oct 12
i experienced it not once but enormous no of times where the personality keeps changing quite often,the situation you have stated is quite unfamiliar but its more like that i have experienced with my coworkers
@Zskyla (39)
• United States
2 Oct 12
If you're taking extra measures to step out of your comfort zone to try and settle things down with her, and yet she still says that there is no problem then it is time to just let things go.
You've done your part in trying to confront the situation, and solving it, and if she doesn't want to respond then that is just her.
If you try to push the matter further it could elevate into something that may at most times result in a negative response. She may be dealing with much more complicated issues and needs time and space to sort them out.
Eventually everything in time (which may or may not be a very long time) will sort itself out.
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
2 Oct 12
Hi melissa! We should bear in mind that we cannot dictate how others should act. Your friend has her own policies in life and the only thing we can do is to respect it. But if you think you have not done anything wrong, you should not worry because she might just have other priorities. But if you think that the problem started from you, then you should settle it once and for all. You might have done or say something that might have hurt her.
You can find it out from the person she frequently hang out with nowadays. Have a nice day!
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
2 Oct 12
If you really want to know about it, how about telling her heart to heart that you can feel that's something bothering her. You can assure her that you'll be okay whatever it is. I don't know what's really happening between you. I hope you can solve it immediately. I guess being honest to each otherls feelings and open to criticism will fix that gap. Good luck and happy mylotting.
@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
2 Oct 12
I try to be positive as much as possible but sometimes there are just things that we can't change. And with regards to your situation with your coworker, if there is indeed some differences in personalities, I guess the best thing is for you to just maintain a professional attitude. I know it's a bit hard to work with someone you're not comfortable with, but we really can't do anything about people at our workplace. Also, don't change. If you had been conversing with her in the past, continue doing so. Maybe eventually she'll open up and tell you what's bothering her and why she suddenly became a bit cold to you 
@prashu228 (37526)
• India
2 Oct 12
its very common , especially in working place, they move well as long as they want and will, but once they decide with no reason, stop talking all of a sudden, if she is not interested ti talk about the matter don't ,think about that, leave it. you cant help if she is not interested in solving the problem, if if it exists.
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
2 Oct 12
That really cannot be avoided. A workplace is full of different people with different attitudes, even different levels of professionalism. I just have to always remember that I am there to work, and not to socialize and make friends. If I do made some, then well and good. If not, it's also okay. As long as I can still do my job well and the attitude of my workmate isn't affecting how we do our job, I'm fine with it.
@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
2 Oct 12
Hello,
I think your friend did not want your attitude at some point or instances. Have you both argued for some discussions or is there an issue from your office that somehow you opposed her? Or maybe you are not aware that you are already hurting her feelings and then she just choose to be quiet and doesn't confront you.The best thing that you should do is to confront her although you did it once.But if you do not have the courage, try to write a letter for her through email or Facebook .
@Kitty1991 (53)
• China
2 Oct 12
Let the time solve this problem,since you have tried your best.
There is a saying tomorrow is another day
