Missing the Point
By echoforever
@echoforever (5180)
United States
October 2, 2012 2:56pm CST
(myLot ate my discussion and I didn't copy it!!! WAAAAH! 
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I see this all over the site and it is really starting to bother me.
I am sure I am not the only one who will agree. 
You would think upon joining the site this would be common knowledge. Also because myLot is called a "discussion" site and not a "paid to post" site. But I guess more than half the population in myLot still would like to ignore that fact and keep on earning a lot less than they could be.
I hope youwho are reading this realizes that this is truth. You are not paid per post, in myLot. If you thought so, you were sorely mistaken. And now that you know this fact please, start using myLot differently. How can you do that? Simple: Discuss, Discuss, Discuss!!!
When you start a discussion reply back to everyone. Reply back until each reply given has gone dry. All of us, not just the person who started it. If you also respond to a discussion, do the same thing.
Do you realize how much less topics would be up there for us to have to sort through if we all did this?! People wouldn't feel discouraged for not getting replies. They wouldn't feel discouraged because they think they're getting paid per post here and they are NOT!
Use the site properly how we should be and I can't imagine how well we will all feel about myLot in the future.
Hope you take my advice! 
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I see this all over the site and it is really starting to bother me.
I am sure I am not the only one who will agree.
You would think upon joining the site this would be common knowledge. Also because myLot is called a "discussion" site and not a "paid to post" site. But I guess more than half the population in myLot still would like to ignore that fact and keep on earning a lot less than they could be.
I hope youwho are reading this realizes that this is truth. You are not paid per post, in myLot. If you thought so, you were sorely mistaken. And now that you know this fact please, start using myLot differently. How can you do that? Simple: Discuss, Discuss, Discuss!!!
When you start a discussion reply back to everyone. Reply back until each reply given has gone dry. All of us, not just the person who started it. If you also respond to a discussion, do the same thing.
Do you realize how much less topics would be up there for us to have to sort through if we all did this?! People wouldn't feel discouraged for not getting replies. They wouldn't feel discouraged because they think they're getting paid per post here and they are NOT!
Use the site properly how we should be and I can't imagine how well we will all feel about myLot in the future.
Hope you take my advice! 5 people like this
13 responses
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
2 Oct 12
Brilliant topic echo! 
You forgot to mention that you have dicosvered this in the short time since you joined and that you have seen the results that it produces, in terms of new friends, fun and earnings too 
Some of us rarely start new topics and we spend the whole time just hopping form one topic to another, from one box to another, to dicsussions started by friends, by new iusers, reviving old topics, anything at all BUT whenever we receive a comment, no matter where it is, we go back and add a bit more. Long chains get going and it is then that the fun starts. Anyone can joinin - but sadly not many do 
Yesterday a friend landed in my box saying that she was 'just hopping in' and then another arrived asking if she wa training for the Olympics - and away we went with a whole chian of comments that followed on from each other, with many people joining in. FUN!
You forgot to mention that you have dicosvered this in the short time since you joined and that you have seen the results that it produces, in terms of new friends, fun and earnings too
Some of us rarely start new topics and we spend the whole time just hopping form one topic to another, from one box to another, to dicsussions started by friends, by new iusers, reviving old topics, anything at all BUT whenever we receive a comment, no matter where it is, we go back and add a bit more. Long chains get going and it is then that the fun starts. Anyone can joinin - but sadly not many do
Yesterday a friend landed in my box saying that she was 'just hopping in' and then another arrived asking if she wa training for the Olympics - and away we went with a whole chian of comments that followed on from each other, with many people joining in. FUN!2 people like this
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
2 Oct 12
echo:
what prompted you to have this id? you want your words to be reheard and reheard? nice. i saw your profile and your site prayer circle also.
nice. someething different. normally women of your age may not be active in such forums.
good day.
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@ravisivan (14079)
• India
2 Oct 12
much depends on are we enjoying the journey? some of us enjoy. some of us travel out of compulsion. some travel every day. some travel occasionally. some take the drinks offered free. some do not take--I compare to an air travel.
some travel in business class. some travel in economy class.
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@echoforever (5180)
• United States
2 Oct 12
OH! I did forget all that but I'm glad you came in to remind me!
Mysd is surely right. I've not been here very long and this is now my practice here in myLot. I will tell you that I had a teacher or five 
And I'm happy to have met them so I learned this early on.
I see a huge difference in the amount of fun I have when others are responsive and participate with me rather than when I can find no one who will! 
(That is not mentioning that the earnings are also usually triple for those days too 
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And I'm happy to have met them so I learned this early on.
I see a huge difference in the amount of fun I have when others are responsive and participate with me rather than when I can find no one who will!
(That is not mentioning that the earnings are also usually triple for those days too )1 person likes this
@allknowing (130292)
• India
4 Oct 12
There are several reasons why people do not take part in 'continuous' to and fro discussions.
1. Time zone is one main factor.
2 Some topics do not warrant such a flow.
3. Some do not get notifications.
4. Some are selective.
5. Not all are here for money.
6. Many have no time as they have an interesting life in their real world where
they need to spend time.
7. Even in the real world there are some who speak little.
If anyone feels that they want someone to comment on their response they could
perhaps alert them. Just a thought.
I could think of some more but I have lots of interesting things awaiting me in the real world that I need time there.
My earnest appeal is let each one here enjoy their way as long as they do not violate guidelines.
My earnest appeal is let each one here enjoy their way as long as they do not violate guidelines.
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@allknowing (130292)
• India
4 Oct 12
One response that I received was so insulting and that too from a veteran that I just ignored it. The user did not even know the existence of the word that I used but blatantly criticises my English, more because of her own ignorance. I have no time to take up such issues. Let them wallow in their ignorance.
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@allknowing (130292)
• India
4 Oct 12
I have found 2 users here who only post topics. They never come back and comment on the responses but strangely each time they post a topic they get countless responses. No responder bothers that their responses have not been commented on. It takes all sorts to make myLot
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@ravisivan (14079)
• India
4 Oct 12
allknowing:
you have explained nicely. First place you mentioned the points one by one. I agree with those points fully. it is the trend. we like chapati. But when it is given every day we may not like it on the fourth day. same way people do respond occasionally.
Re. English -- I learn difficult words from this forum. I verify dictionary and get to know the meaning. May be I cannot use them day to day but it is nice to know them while earning. Once I suggested a correction in expression and that response was deleted -- commenting on English is not allowed in mylot. From then I never use to comment about English.
we have people whose mother tongue in English. We have a few who have studied in english medium and they also talk in english day to day transactions also. Some are learning english through this forum.
A few users start the topic of discussions with an idea of getting responses and they will come and post their replies as and when they get time.
I use my spare time to share ideas, earn and also learn.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
3 Oct 12
Maybe mylot should market a game called "Hungry Hungry Mylot!" though I know the fees for using the title would be... well a LOT? lol..
Honestly we all SHOULD reply back to each other and keep DISCUSSING into we just have nothing left to squeeze out, and THEN move on to another discussion, but with so many people here, how do we get it all across to everyone? Even if 100 people respond to you, so many more haven't seen it, or don't understand what you are trying to convey either.
I do say, as a sugestion though, that people should find FIVE friends here that they love to discuss with and DISCUSS DISCUSS DISCUSS. The more people see this, the more they may catch on and think "hmm, maybe I should keep responding / comemnting back on this discussion, find out what others have to say and think."
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
3 Oct 12
I think a certain MysD is the best at getting points across with those whose second languge is English. I know I've relied on her quite a bit to get people to understand what I am trying to convey. Hopefully we can have her come in and help us if the need be to reiterate what we mean?
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@echoforever (5180)
• United States
3 Oct 12
I'm sure she will if she sees someone needs help! She has helped me out a lot already
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
3 Oct 12
Hungry hungry mylot!! Totally made me think of hungry hungry hippo and I loved that game as a child. So yeah it would probably be a lot to get that title, maybe a different one though!
Great idea! I know I have at least three that I discuss with regularly. I found them discussing one day and decided to try and "jump in" being brave, now we chat pretty often on here. That's how I started out and I hope others will see this and think the same also.
I thought about that too, some won't understand what we're meaning because of english being their 2nd language... well we can only try to reach those who can understand though? 
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@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
12 Oct 12
Excellent learning guide because a lot people like myself spend little time reading the FAQ so this will help them . I learn about the site from the person who reintroduce me to mylot and encourage me .
I think they really mistake that part starting discussion and leaving it . I mean common courtesy should have guide them also .
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@echoforever (5180)
• United States
12 Oct 12
True but some people don't use their common sense. I start to wonder if they have any when it comes to things like this.
I've learned along the way from members here mostly, glad to have met them and that I have listened.
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@romzee (937)
• Philippines
3 Oct 12
Yes, recently mylot emailed me a couple of times informing me I lost points/credits because the discussion I was involved was deleted. I see a lot of my friends open a discussion three, four a day, some more than that.
So far I have only 10 discussion on my credit since I join and I see to it that I reply to everyone that get involved in my discussion.
Am I doing it right? What do you think?
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@purplealabaster (22094)
• United States
3 Oct 12
I do not think that almost everybody is missing the point, but I do agree that there seem to be a lot of people that miss the point from time to time. Some seem to learn and change their ways. Some continue to post topics and/or responses and never return to them (I sometimes refer to this type of myLotter as a hit-and-run myLotter
), and I think that maybe the suggestions and fun others are having is missed due to the fact that they do not bother to read through others responses on a discussion or even go back and read through the responses made on their own topics. Others understand but just do not care, and they myLot the way they want, which is their own choice and at least it is an informed choice.
), and I think that maybe the suggestions and fun others are having is missed due to the fact that they do not bother to read through others responses on a discussion or even go back and read through the responses made on their own topics. Others understand but just do not care, and they myLot the way they want, which is their own choice and at least it is an informed choice.@echoforever (5180)
• United States
3 Oct 12
You're doing well that way yes. Always respond to those who talk to you whether in your own discussions or someone elses. This is what we should be doing here and not just posting and leaving that topic for good.
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@romzee (937)
• Philippines
3 Oct 12
I have seen many discussion topics without any response to the topic maker and all I can see are unreplied comments and the topic maker just left off and start another topic and I find this odd. Discussion is a conversation, an argument or a debate of sort, it involves exchanges of ideas, opinions, experiences, beliefs, etc. to explore or to reach a decision, solutions, or consensus.
I think you're right, Almost everybody is MISSING THE POINT!
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@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
3 Oct 12
i'm not sure which is worse: those who keep starting discussions, but never answer the responses, or those that only pay attention to the responses that agree with them and/or members that they know and like.
anyway, the upside of abandoned discussions is anyone of us can go there, leave substantial comments in the response boxes we're interested in, and probably earn more from that discussion than the member who started it.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
3 Oct 12
That is indeed the point that echo is trying to get acrioss here. We can all go and add something to every discussion, every, response, every comment no matter who started the topic.
That is what discussinf is about and that is what myLot pay us to do too!
Welcome aboard! 
Welcome aboard! 1 person likes this
@purplealabaster (22094)
• United States
3 Oct 12
I have to agree with you, Hereandthere. I know that it does not feel that great when I respond to a topic and notice that the original poster of the topic has not returned to comment back to any of the responders. Similarly, it does not feel good when you realize that your response is the only one (or one of the only ones) that has not gotten a reply, especially when the response was well thought out and relevant to the topic. There have been a few instances, though, where the original poster has returned after a while, and I found out that they were unable to be on myLot for whatever reason, and it does feel good to get a response, even if it was over a month since I had commented on the discussion.
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@echoforever (5180)
• United States
3 Oct 12
Some might look at us a little crazy when we go on other people's discussions that haven't been commented back on but you're absolutely right, we would be doing better than that topic starter and there is NOTHING wrong with doing that.
PA that is always an option too and I try not to feel very discouraged sometimes if I don't get a response back. It is not always that they're ignoring you. Some people can't be on myLot for a length of time also. So yes that is always something to consider for the lack of discussion.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
19 Oct 12
Personally these are some good points, and ones especially the Newer people in here could learn from. I know when you take time to start a New discussion it is important to go in there when you can and read and respond back to what others are saying. This in turn also helps you get to know the others here and make better friends as well. If more people could learn from this it would continue to make it a Better site for sure.
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
19 Oct 12
I believe it would make the site more fun for everyone but I've come to realize it is one of those things that won't happen with all people. There are a large amount of people who do this, some times they're hard to find because they are busy in their own little world - in people's boxes discussing on and on. 
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Oct 12
hi echoforever a really wonderful discussion and if all read it and ollow your suggestions a lot of newer people will be much
'happier and earn more.I just had responded to a discussion which had a lot of responses and has been up for several day s.as I saw this one responder making a lot of responses I thought oh she must be the one who made it. no the one who made it has not ever come back and commented on any of all those responses so people have come in and and are making the discussion really live the discussion is about how her little daughter fought when it was time to get on the school bus and wanted us to help her
And she has received a lot of responses too some great ones, but she had not come back to comment back.I hope she reads this discussion' and goes to her own discussion to give her valid comments back to all her many responses as she has as yet not commented back
to a soul.
to a soul.@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
2 Oct 12
I agree Hatley, it is indeed a great discussion
I am wondering if manyhere think that it is a waste of time to read all the long topics, responses and comments though Maybe they don't realise that if they read them, they will then find lots of things that they can comment back to. their comments will be longer and therefore they will increase their earnings.
Why don't they at least give it a try
to at least see if what we say is true?
I am wondering if manyhere think that it is a waste of time to read all the long topics, responses and comments though Maybe they don't realise that if they read them, they will then find lots of things that they can comment back to. their comments will be longer and therefore they will increase their earnings.
Why don't they at least give it a try
to at least see if what we say is true? @echoforever (5180)
• United States
2 Oct 12
If they will take the advice I am sure they will not be disappointed.
I hope a few will read this at least even though its a lot to read (for some). All of the smiley faces and myLot code would attract me. In fact that is what started it!
It looked fun and first I thought - woah what are they doing there? That's discussing? - And it is! And its FUN!
I hope a few will read this at least even though its a lot to read (for some). All of the smiley faces and myLot code would attract me. In fact that is what started it!
It looked fun and first I thought - woah what are they doing there? That's discussing? - And it is! And its FUN!1 person likes this
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
2 Oct 12
I agree. All of those are potential new discussions with each person within the one "bigger" discussion that they're missing out on! That's the main thing i wanted to get across here. I don't mean that in each discussion you enter into that you need to reply to every person there too - if it isn't your topic. But the one's you do comment on, reply back to those as well. I usually have a couple I will comment on in one discussion adn try to keep up with each one that I reply on.
I hope that person will realize this too and do the same.
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@purplealabaster (22094)
• United States
3 Oct 12
I have had that happen to me a time or two as well ... myLot ate my discussion and I had forgotten to copy it, so I had to retype the entire thing - I hate it when that happens!
Oh wait ... what ... I missed the point you, say? I must say that you are wrong about that - I am pretty sure that I got the point, especially since it stabbed me in my root system when I sat down to respond to this topic.
Oh wait ... what ... I missed the point you, say? I must say that you are wrong about that - I am pretty sure that I got the point, especially since it stabbed me in my root system when I sat down to respond to this topic.
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
3 Oct 12
Woopsie! Watch out for that, it sounds painful. 
myLot doesn't eat my stuff too often which is good cause it is a pain in the . . . hands to retype them.
You know what I mean here, myLot is full of typing and running people! There goes one now!
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
3 Oct 12
it happens ideally for most of the cases ,people tend to deviate from the imagined topic and end up on the flip side and its kind of confusing to also
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
3 Oct 12
Doesn't a real conversation also deviate from one topic to the next though?
It will fluctuate but just reply on those things you know
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
16 Oct 12
Maybe when I come back we will see even more visitors too, we shall see.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
2 Oct 12
echforever
What is the difference between an office and a forum?
A forum like mylot -- is one nobody is permanent and nobody is temporary. Each one can log in at his convenient time and post his views.
an office is one where one has to go by rules and regulations as far as timing is concern.
yes. mylot also has rules and regulations and when one violates it he is given a warning or his membership cancelled.
Because of the freedom given and also because all of us have outside the online work--some are working as a teacher, some are working in call centre, some are engaged in looking after their children, some are working as writers etc. we are not able to allot more time and hence we devote lesser time for this and hence many members start discussions and do not reply the responses received. they know that they will get paid if they reply properly.
Each member has to understand his responsibility and act accordingly and people who perform well stay longer earn more and are recognised.
you seem to be having previous experience in mylot or in other forum and hence have framed the discussion nicely. good day.
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
2 Oct 12
Yes I do realize these facts also. Some will not always have time enough on myLot like I do that I am here every day.
I don't think that time is a matter though for when you respond back, just that you DO. (someone correct me if that is wrong)
We're always paid for discussion. It takes the same amount of time to respond back to someone than to make a completely new post, correct?
Some will not always have time enough on myLot like I do that I am here every day.
I don't think that time is a matter though for when you respond back, just that you DO. (someone correct me if that is wrong)
We're always paid for discussion. It takes the same amount of time to respond back to someone than to make a completely new post, correct?@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
2 Oct 12
"It takes the same amount of time to respond back to someone than to make a completely new post"
Not only does it take the same amount of time but the earnings are the same too because, as everyone should know by now, there is no rate per post here.
Ravi I often compare mylot to a bus ride. Some people get on and ride all day while others hop on and off, some only at the week-end. While we are here we join in the conversation with our fellow travellers and talk about whatever is the topicof the day or whatever interest at the time.
Not only does it take the same amount of time but the earnings are the same too because, as everyone should know by now, there is no rate per post here.
Ravi I often compare mylot to a bus ride. Some people get on and ride all day while others hop on and off, some only at the week-end. While we are here we join in the conversation with our fellow travellers and talk about whatever is the topicof the day or whatever interest at the time.@echoforever (5180)
• United States
2 Oct 12
That's a great analogy for it.
I'm on the myLot bus almost all day 1 person likes this
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
3 Oct 12
yes. question of discussion will come more only when a point is disputed or countered. Most of us post responses wherein there is less scope for counter point or elaborating of the same.
One basic advantage of a forum like this -- we all get benefited -- without any fixed commitment to it-- the forum runs because it is working 24X7 and is liked by people from different parts of the world. Somehow topics in which all the people are interested evinces more interest and participation.
Topics like religion, politics are controversial areas and nearly 95% people do not come near them. Common topics are internet, food, relationship etc.
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
3 Oct 12
We're meant to enhance or counter our opinions brought up here yes. Even though we're not here 24x7 to always reply back we can come back when we are here.
Thanks riyauro and i am glad that i came to know this quickly. But some won't join us to have fun for themselves.1 person likes this
@Kitty1991 (53)
• China
3 Oct 12
This topic is a good guideline for the users both old and new.
Receiving no respond after you commented,this feeling is just like throwwing the little pebble into the sea.With this emotion,maybe next time he will think whether to comment when he read a discussion again.
Caring and friendship is the first,earning is the second.
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@echoforever (5180)
• United States
3 Oct 12
That is a great philosophy to keep as well. Keep in mind for the fun, the friendship and the time you'll have here rather than first thinking on what you will get for it.
