In the brink of an outburst!
By Jenny1015
@jenny1015 (13366)
Philippines
October 3, 2012 12:26am CST
I have been married for 17 years. And being married has kept me away from my friends. My constant shopping companion since then is my sister in law, my husband's older sister. She is sometimes fun to be with but also has an attitude that if ever you came across her and you don't know her that much, you might think she is a lunatic!
She doesn't comb her hair, she doesn't wear clothes neatly, she walks like a child sometimes and even acts like one!
Yesterday, it was my mother in law's birthday. I made a reservation at the Japanese Restaurant for a family dinner. My sister in law told me yesterday morning that we will go to the bakeshop coz she wanted to buy a cake for her mom. I declined. I said I wasn't interested to go out of the house. I took a bath earlier than the usual and she thought that I was going with her. So when it was about 1pm, she was calling me. Then I told her again that I am not coming with her coz I don't feel like it and that my husband was not home and no one is going to stay with my yougest son who just came from school. She got furious! She said I said yes to her and then I have changed my mind. But I have really told her that I wouldn't want to go with her. She said she needs to buy a cake and if she won't go at that time, there would be no cake left in the evening. DUH! Yesterday was an ordinary day. People wouldn't be rushing in to buy a cake as if it was Christmas. And so she went without me. During dinner at the restaurant, she ignored me. I mean, she acts so childish. Do I have to be with her everytime she wants to go to the mall? Until this minute, she is giving me cold shoulders.
If I am just as crazy as her, I could have said a lot of things to her. But I won't. I don't want to waste my time on her!
She doesn't comb her hair, she doesn't wear clothes neatly, she walks like a child sometimes and even acts like one!
Yesterday, it was my mother in law's birthday. I made a reservation at the Japanese Restaurant for a family dinner. My sister in law told me yesterday morning that we will go to the bakeshop coz she wanted to buy a cake for her mom. I declined. I said I wasn't interested to go out of the house. I took a bath earlier than the usual and she thought that I was going with her. So when it was about 1pm, she was calling me. Then I told her again that I am not coming with her coz I don't feel like it and that my husband was not home and no one is going to stay with my yougest son who just came from school. She got furious! She said I said yes to her and then I have changed my mind. But I have really told her that I wouldn't want to go with her. She said she needs to buy a cake and if she won't go at that time, there would be no cake left in the evening. DUH! Yesterday was an ordinary day. People wouldn't be rushing in to buy a cake as if it was Christmas. And so she went without me. During dinner at the restaurant, she ignored me. I mean, she acts so childish. Do I have to be with her everytime she wants to go to the mall? Until this minute, she is giving me cold shoulders. If I am just as crazy as her, I could have said a lot of things to her. But I won't. I don't want to waste my time on her!6 responses
@Travis001 (3)
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14 Dec 12
I know it sounds weird, but sometimes we should be flattered when people get angry with us.
Sometimes people are uptight and have a hard time leting their hair down, and perhaps we should take it a a sort of compliment that people trust us enough to trust that we will not treat them unfairly if they let steam off in our direction.
Evenstill, I am sorry to hear about your unpleasent experience.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
14 Dec 12
Thanks, Travis! I am really not the type of person who would be bursting at the first sight of irritation. I try to stay calm as I can. I know that she is crazy and if I'll join her craziness, then we would really end up pulling each others' hair.
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
6 Dec 12
You shouldn't have to waste your time on her especially if you haven't done anything wrong. Since you had already told her you did not want to go, she should have left it alone. I hate it when people start acting childish and try to twist the words far from what you had told them already.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
6 Dec 12
She could be really be childish sometimes. Must be because she was brought up by her parents that way or her parents really didn't have the time to correct her attitude while she was still a kid. Although it happens every once in a while, everytime, I get hurt. But I never tried to put up a fight just because of it. I just keep my silence. It is always her who would come to me.
@marguicha (216342)
• Chile
3 Oct 12
I think that you should try to get new friends or see if you can make contact with your old friends. Your sister in law, as it seems, thinks that she is your owner and you have to do as she pleases. I think that she manipulates you with her behaviour because even if you did not say anything to her, you are so angry as to tell us.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
4 Oct 12
Hi, Marguicha! I try to connect with my friends once in a while. I rarely get to see them coz, well, my husband doesn't want me going out at night or being with my friends. I don't know why but that is just how it has been. But if I do see my friends, I have to make a good alibi! Well, that's another story.
Anyway, with my sister in law, really it is sometimes tiring and expensive to go out. I mean, I do not have a job that can sustain my malling with her atleast 3x a week. And even if she insists on paying our food when we go out, I feel uncomfortable with that.
Well, that's another story.
Anyway, with my sister in law, really it is sometimes tiring and expensive to go out. I mean, I do not have a job that can sustain my malling with her atleast 3x a week. And even if she insists on paying our food when we go out, I feel uncomfortable with that.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
4 Oct 12
Hi,
I can understand your feelings. You sister in law is behaving like immature and irresponsible person. You are very nice. You are not insulting her even you become irritated by her presence. But sometimes we have to make adjustments with some people in our life. You are right. You shouldn't waste your time on her and get upset by thinking about her.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
4 Oct 12
You are absolutely right! I am not the kind of person who would just be exchanging hurtful words with anyone. I'd rather stay away and be quiet. To think that she needs to do a lot of things in her messy house, but still she has time to go to the mall most of the week.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
28 Dec 12
This is life jenny. So many different people you will come across. You have to be very strong and to decide what is wrong and what is right and please stick to your decision once taken. Don't get repented. You have your own opinion, own choice, own time and own responsibilities. These crazy people have their own concrete opinions and they will never change so just forget and get to work. Don't get disturbed by this small small things.Be patient and everything will be alright soon.Best luck to you.
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
3 Oct 12
You're right, don't waste your time on her because I think even if you did say something she will still be like that, she won't change. Just keep your cool and I'm sure that your family knows what you really are and what she really is, so no concern over there.
I do have a concern on her hair, lol! I can't imagine a lady who doesn't even comb her hair.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
4 Oct 12
Hahaha! You just made me laugh so hard with your last statement!
That incident wasn't the first time that we had a disagreement. But everytime, it is always her fault. I try to stay away from her for a time. I don't speak to her. But I pity her kids if I won't help her kids' schoolwork and wake her in the morning to prepare her kids for school. Lately, I have been asking my sons to do the "waking and shouting" for me.
That incident wasn't the first time that we had a disagreement. But everytime, it is always her fault. I try to stay away from her for a time. I don't speak to her. But I pity her kids if I won't help her kids' schoolwork and wake her in the morning to prepare her kids for school. Lately, I have been asking my sons to do the "waking and shouting" for me.