Attention seekers, how do you handle them?
By deserve40
@deserve40 (1656)
India
October 3, 2012 10:37pm CST
In our day to day work, we find that there are many people who want to get noticed by others. It is general human charateristic and it may be present in all the people in very less to very high proportion.
When you come across such people, how do you react? How do you think that they should be handled?
Please share your suggestioins and experience here.
3 responses
@GemmaR (8517)
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4 Oct 12
I really don't like attention seekers, and I had a lot of trouble with one of the girls who I went to college with a few years ago when she was seeking attention. She told me that she was thinking of killing herself in the hope that I would be able to spend a lot of time with her instead of my other friends, however I chose to tell her parents about the things that she was saying because I thought that it was a better idea to lose her as a friend because I broke her trust than lose her off the planet because she was being serious. Turns out she was just lying and she had absolutely no intention of ever killing herself, but she is no longer my friend because of the fact that I told her parents about it.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
4 Oct 12
I think that you did the right thing by telling the fact to the parent of that girl. It is really very surprising how people can do it with so ease...! Killing oneself is not an easy thing but to draw your attention if a person is threatening to kill herself, I think that it is very difficult to get rid of that person.
I have said the same thing in the discussion here above. If a person is determined to win your attention, then it is not so easy to get rid of him or her just by ignoring him or her. You have to take some action because of which that person starts feeling that winning your attention is not going to be possible and you may be able to achieve what you want then...1
Thanks for your response to this discussion...! Have a nice time...!
@allknowing (153530)
• India
4 Oct 12
There is nothing one can do if these attention seekers have heavy backing from the powers that be. Some of these attention seekers will see to it that those who compete with them are done with using foul methods and with the support they get from the higher ups they succeed. In that scenario it is best they are left alone as sooner or later their own game will have them good and proper!
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
4 Oct 12
If you leave them alone without paying any attention, they will try to make sure that you pay attention to them when you are near them next time. However, if you tell them straight way that you are not interested in them, perhaps they will try on somebody else.
One more thing I feel is that if you just smile at them and move away, they may realize that you have understood their aim and you do not want to pay attention to them and so they will not try similar things on you atleast...!
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
4 Oct 12
That is very difficult...! You know, such people will continue to do something or the other so that they can catch your attention. So evenif you ignore them, they will not stop trying to win some attention.
I think that if you just tell them that you are not interested in useless things which they are doing, then there are chances that they may stop trying to get the attention of yours.
