Can we date even we are already committed?

@bembzee (769)
Philippines
October 8, 2012 3:15am CST
Dating is an art of communication. It is a planned and agreed event of two. Dating can lead into a wonderful love story or a good friendship. What if one is already committed? Is he/she allows on a date? Is it acceptable and fair? How about you, do you go out on a date even you are committed?
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@UmiNoor (3692)
• Malaysia
8 Oct 12
It really depends upon the agreement between the people involved. Personally, I don't think it's a good idea to go on dates with other people when you're already committed to another person but if you and your partner are in an open relationship like some people are then being committed doesn't mean you stop seeing other people. For myself, I will not be able to accept it if my husband wants to go out on dates with other women or even looking at other women. It's totally unacceptable.
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@bembzee (769)
• Philippines
8 Oct 12
It must have been very painful knowing that your partner goes out on a date. You are lucky to enjoy the respect your husband give to you. Many had gone through with problem of third party. It is totally unacceptable being betrayed by a partner. A loving husband like yours is definitely a gift. So cherish the best out of it.
@UmiNoor (3692)
• Malaysia
8 Oct 12
Oh sure, I have a loving husband but like any other men, he had strayed before but I've forgiven him. I've been married to him for more than two decades and I guess he must want some change or something or perhaps I've been taking him for granted. Marriage is really hard work. But it's worth it.
@GemmaR (8521)
8 Oct 12
I don't think that you should ever date any other people if you are already in a relationship with somebody else. If you don't want to be with your partner anymore then you should talk to them about it and consider ending their relationship, you should never go out and be with somebody else behind their back because they deserve for you to be at least truthful with them. I was in this position before and I wish that my partner had spoken to me because it would be better for them to be truthful than to hurt me in that way.
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@bembzee (769)
• Philippines
8 Oct 12
Dating when committed is like cheating. Truth sometimes hurts. But yes, it's better to get hurt in an honest way. Than being fooled and laughed by many because they are hiding truth from you.
@med889 (5954)
8 Oct 12
The day i was commited to my partner, i stopped seeing someone else. For me i wanted to start someone based on honesty and faithfulness and i expect the same from my partner so i started doing it myself by being honest to both me and my partner. It is not fair to see someone else when you are already commited to a person as this person can also be the right one for you later on.
@bembzee (769)
• Philippines
8 Oct 12
I feel the same way of understanding of what a commitment is. I expect to earn back what i give, from loving, to caring, from being true and dedicated. The rule is simple. Things that can be painful to you can also be painful to others.
• Indonesia
11 Nov 12
I will take a moment to think it. That 's difficult to answer.
@leeandrew (1226)
• Philippines
2 Nov 12
No... I wouldn't do such thing or even think about it. It definitely ruin your relationship with whoever your in-relation to, most specially if you are married. Once a trust is broken it cannot be fixed that easily, it takes time and more effort to return it plus the scars it done would always be there. Only people that are not committed enough to a commitment can do that. It will never be fair at all.
@silverfox09 (4722)
• United States
9 Oct 12
I dont quite understand what you are asking but here go... If your are referring to a couple that still go out on date , I think their is no better time to date than when you are in a relationship . Its important to keep the relationship excited . If you are referring to a person that is in a committed relationship and chose to invite a third party to the mix. Well I think that in unacceptable in my views . If you are in a relationship you should not be going out on dates with another person other than your partner.
@khhhaaaat (112)
• Philippines
8 Oct 12
Well I guess before going in to a relationship, you must first iron out all the small things. Like the type of relationship you're going in to. Is it an open relationship or not. There are girls who go into an open relationship, and say they are ok with it, but in any case, after all has been said and done, IT IS ALWAYS THE GIRLS who suffer. So I guess if someone is considering dating others while committed in a relationship, think it over. That is totally not fair. Not everyone is looking for just playing, some are looking for a serious partner, so if you;re not serious enough then just break up. For me, it is not fair. I mean, we girls are pretty serious about relationships. We don't wanna get hurt nor inflict hurt. For me, I just want somebody for company, a shoulder to lean on and make happy and sad memories. Tend to things together and share things we own. So I will definitely never ever go out with someone if I am already committed.
@rs1982 (99)
• United States
8 Oct 12
Dating another person after being in a committed relationship is a big no. It simply means cheating in other words. If it is a girls night out or a boys night out, things are different but romantic liaisons with someone else isn't a cute idea. Why be in a commitment if one cannot keep it. Yet again, it could differ from one person to another. If your partner does it, then it is harmless if you do too..commitment happens two ways and is not a one way traffic.
@jaiho2009 (38990)
• Philippines
8 Oct 12
Well, if it's a friends date, I mean a group date with friends I say YES. But if it is a romantic date I consider it cheating. Dating is an art of communication- so, what's the use of dating and communicate with other person when you are already committed. Unless your partner knows about it- and will give permission- then it's fine.