Wannabe Independent

The concern of your parents are very touching. It's the same for me but I am not embarrassed by it. If the situation would be in reverse, where my mom would stay out late, I can't breathe very well. I'm used to my father not being at home since he had been a seaman ever since I can remember. Instead of being embarrassed you should take pride in it and be happy. Because at least your parents care for your safety. Not everybody has this. There may be times that the texts and calls are annoying but it's really out of concern for you. There was a time or two this happened to me and I got annoyed as well but I understand them for their concern. And I believe you should too. You're their one irreplaceable daughter after all. In my case being independent means being financially free and get to graduate from school. My father, grandparents and uncles won't stop bothering me until I get to finish my academic schooling--thus graduating means freedom from their constant nagging. What matters to me right now is to focus on increasing my financial intelligence. I can get low grades in academics, I don't care since a banker won't ask me for my report card. I know I need to have good grades in order to get a good job. But no job is secure these days that's why my financial intelligence is of great importance to me than my academic intelligence. Besides, what's important in the Information Technology industry is not school grades but in the practical. And I believe I have that. I want to be independent soon because I don't want to put my fate on people who knows less about what should be important. I want to have control over my life soon so that I can make mistakes soon and get to learn from them at an early age than when it is too late. I want to learn how to change my life from bad to better and see how far I can go from where I am now.

Being independent takes time. I started out my road to independence when I went to college and had to be away from home. Although I still depended on parents on most of my college years, I have learned a thing or two on living alone and relying on yourself. I didn't know how to cook or do laundry by hand and I always had to depend on what allowance my parents had to give me, and that's when I started to learn the value of saving money. Then, after graduating, passing license exams and finally landing a decent enough job, I can say, that I have grown to be more independent than I was, 10 years ago. It takes time, and practice. You have to be in situations where you have to only depend on yourself alone. I have been in many situations like that, and so there were a few times, where I made mistakes, and learned from them, and there were times, when I came out with pride after being in a hard situation. As for you, you're still young. Don't be too hard on yourself. Just take your time. Don't rush into being independent at once. Go out there, make mistakes. Take risks and learn how to take responsibility for your own actions. Finding a job that you love, is one step closer to becoming the independent person you want to be. And when you do get the job you want, make it work and love it. On your first salary, maybe you can treat your parents and the rest of your family, and I bet you'll feel pride and joy in having achieved something even though how small it can be. Good luck!!!

I can understand why you want your independence i have just left home for the first time to go to university and i absolutely love having my independence.If i can i wont live at home with my mum ever again though i will probably have to for a while after university while i look for a job and get some money together so i can afford to get my own place.Like your parents my mum is very overprotective its nice now im living on my own not to get a phonecall everytime im out late asking where i am despite the fact i am a grown up and quite capable of looking after myself.So i can afford to get my own place as soon as possible i have started saving up some money and researching cheap accomodation.

There are many factors to consider when you want to be independent. Age, health and money are very important. It`s not enough to have a good job if it is not stable. On the other hand, staying too long with our parents keep us from growing up. I`d say take the chance and try it. But explain all this to your parents and do it as a first attempt. So, if it doesn`t work, you can añways go back for a little while more.Take care and do what you feel it is best for you.

I had set backs along the way towards my independence from my parents. Right out of college, I found my first job near my parents house so I moved back home. They did help me with managing money because I had to pay rent. I also helped more around the house, picked up groceries made meals. My big jump to independence was taking a job overseas. I had to learn to fend for myself, balance my own budget, and to get along on my own.

yeah being independent takes lot of responsibility and maturity. You had such a nice job as a nurse, how could you not do it well. well what is happened so happened but if you wanna be independent you have to have a job and income to pay the bills . I am away from home and independent though now 2 years i got married. But I tell you life is a struggle. Do something which you love and be content. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.