People "borrowing" things without asking and then not returning them!!! / myLot

United States

October 9, 2012 1:25am CST

I just have to vent real quick.....My roommates are two of my best friends in the world but they are SO annoying anymore... I'm so glad we're moving. They come up here and get things without asking and don't bring them back... If they would ask, I would tell them yes, but at least if you're going to borrow something, return it. They take kitchen utensils, mop, broom, salt, hair dryer.... And then when I go looking for it I can never find it and I have to go downstairs and search for it. It really pisses me off. I have said something before, but they still do it. I never go down there and take anything without asking them... They don't have anything that I would want or need, mostly because they use all of my crap, so they don't buy their own, but even if they did have something that I needed, I would never take it without asking. I think that's so rude and inconsiderate!!!

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@allknowing (153544)

• India

9 Oct 12

Then that is not called borrowing. That is called flicking or robbing. Whoever takes things without taking permission and then not returning then they are first degree robbers. Sad that you have robbers as your best friends!

akash009

@akash009 (452)

• India

9 Oct 12

hello, this is the most annoying habit of people. i hate people who does this kind of things. i dont like this kind of attitude. i like to help people and so i give them things when they need them and it is their duty to return those things in time when they are done with that. but sometimes they dont. thats a very bad thing to do. its totally your duty to make sure that u return those things that you have borrowed from others in time. i hate irresponsible people a lot. these things should not happen.

MsControversy

@MsControversy (446)

• United States

9 Oct 12

I agree with you. It's very irresponsible and immature. I would never feel comfortable taking something of someone else's without asking, even if I was "borrowing" it and intended on returning it or it was my friend or whatever. It's just not right.

Angelo Abuda

@aabuda (1722)

• Philippines

9 Oct 12

There are really people who doesn't care about the feelings of others. They don't mind if they are already hurting the feelings. They just continue what they think will be be beneficial to them.

pahak627

@pahak627 (5347)

• Philippines

9 Oct 12

Getting things without asking consent from the owner is already stealing. They are already abusing your kindness. How can you bear that kind of people in your room?

subhojit10

@subhojit10 (7375)

• India

9 Oct 12

Hey i can understand your problem very well as this situation is synonymous with most of the people. There are some people who are very good at asking, begging and borrowing things from others and when it comes to retuning those things to the ones they borrow from they feel reluctant and hesitant to return the same and this is such a shameful act by them. They should rather feel guilty and inferior enough to do so and they should be humble enough to come forward and return the things they have taken. i think u should talk to them directly so that they can realize their mistakes and so that they wont repeat this mistake again. What say?

MsControversy

@MsControversy (446)

• United States

9 Oct 12

I have talked to them before...just casually like, hey if you need to use this, please ask first and bring it back....I'm just so over this whole situation. Having room mates was the worst mistake ever. My husband and I were renting the house ourselves but when I lost my job, we were having trouble making the whole payment and they needed somewhere to go because their lease was up, so we let them rent the basement. Now, the landlord has sold this house and we're getting ready to move and I can't wait. At first I was bummed because I love this house, but now I'm looking forward to moving. They are childish and loud and obnoxious and I like them more at a distance. I would rather not have to live with these two. I can't wait to move.

41Combedale

@41CombedaleRoad (5966)

• Greece

9 Oct 12

Are you sure they are your best friends? i don't doubt that you are theirs but this seems like a one way relationship. You should tell them again and if they continue to take your things you must put a lock on your door either that or find somewhere else to live. If you are feeling brave you could go down there with a basket picking up everything that is yours. If they complain you have your chance to put your feelings into words once more and maybe this time they will listen.

choybel

@choybel (5042)

• Philippines

9 Oct 12

I have lived with the sort and I have just come to the conclusion that some people are just this way for reasons I really can't understand. Like you, I like to find my things in places I know where I last placed them and if they had to be moved or borrowed I want to be informed. I am one to mostly say yes to almost anything especially favors from friends so I think it really is inconsiderate of them to take things without my knowledge. At one point, I not only had to talk to them about this but confronted them in a very serious tone. I felt bad afterwards though, but I guess it's all for the best, right?

Sreekala

@Sreekala (34312)

• India

9 Oct 12

My neighbours have their manners, if they need anything, they will ask for it. Earlier I had such neighbours, who took some more liberty, but they returned it without fail so I didn’t care that too. I understand, it is annoying when you need a thing and on search you realize the thing is not with you but with neighbours.

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GemmaR

@GemmaR (8517)

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9 Oct 12

I don't like lending things to people because I just never know whether I'm going to get them back or not. When I was at school I was always the kind of person who was very organised with my things, and it made people ask me for them all the time because they knew that I was going to have them. But they would never give them back, and then they would come to me again the next day and ask me if they could borrow something else. In the end I had to tell them no because it was just taking too much of my things.

Jane

@jaiho2009 (39140)

• Philippines

9 Oct 12

Such kind of people are abusers. I don't mind my friends taking my things without permission as long as they will return it back to where they took it. Sometimes it happens that our friends cannot ask our permission anymore- but as long as they how to return it- then it's fine. but in your case, I guess your friends are real abusers- they're too inconsiderate.

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sishy7

@sishy7 (27166)

• Australia

9 Oct 12

You're right, it's highly inconsiderate of them to do that... They may think that you are all so close and it is alright for them to do that. That is not right, though. Even family members have to respect each other's things. I ask my sons's permission every time if I need to go to their rooms to borrow a scissor, a ruler, or even other simple things like that...

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Raine38

@Raine38 (12387)

• United States

9 Oct 12

I can sympathize, this is definitely one of the things that really ticks me off. My sister used to be this kind of person. Well, I don't know if she's still like this until now because I am no longer living with her in our parents' place. So anyway, she "borrows" everything, clothes, perfume, electronic gadgets, even those stuff that I haven't even opened yet! What's worse is when I will look for my stuff, I can't find it. Then after a few weeks, I will find the missing shirt for example, under the bed complete with dust bunnies and really really filthy.

Raine38

@Raine38 (12387)

• United States

9 Oct 12

Amit Mitra

@barood4money (388)

• Kolkata, India

9 Oct 12

Its very bad habit to take something without asking. You should be strict with them. I know its very difficult to say but you have to. I don't like anyone taking my things without asking. I tell them straight not to touch my things without asking.