Relatives are Here Visiting
By NailTech
@NailTech (6874)
United States
October 13, 2012 8:27pm CST
I just found out my cousin and her husband are visiting relatives and such here this week from another state. They supposedly wanted to stop by here today before they went home tomorrow but my mom told my aunt on the phone that we aren't usually home much on the weekend (& it is the truth too). She didn't know til Thursday that they were in town, thank goodness. Otherwise she would have been running around cleaning anyways in case they did drop by and getting all nervous, etc. for nothing again. They must be wondering why she doesn't say something like "Ohhhh we'd love to see you, please stop by when you can!!!" etc. Ha! Mom doesn't want to see them apparently & I really don't either. I don't feel comfortable with them. My cousin is a critical person at times, friendly but critical. I heard her say a few bad things about my other cousin(s) when they weren't around, such as "Tina is fat". I think thats awful to say. Very juvenile for a (35+ yr old person at the time). Then they brag about everything they own, etc. How happy "so and so" was to see them, etc. It is just not a fun visit usually. Perhaps if I had a different living arrangement I would try to go somewhere with them but I fear they would probably say something negative about me somehow, when they should just accept people how they are. My Aunt calls and has said 2-3 times already how she is the same weight since she got married. (Who cares?! She's never even had a baby! Some people aren't that lucky or want to be concerned with weight that badly cause it's what's inside that counts). I don't think I'm going to send a Cmas present this year either, just not enough funds and she won't even email me anymore, so..... I won't be able to call or email now then if something important happens here. I bet they send another mini-tree for mom's bday, ha. She hates them. If they send a Cmas gift then I'll just tell them thank you, though.
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@dfollin (27267)
• United States
14 Oct 12
I know people that are always bragging about what they have knowing that you don't and they just do it to rub in your face! They probably just want to come over and see your house and clothes you are wearing .Then go tell the next person they visit bad things about you all and your home.Just ignore them.
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@NailTech (6874)
• United States
14 Oct 12
The house is just a hoarder's paradise practically here anyways and my clothes are just raggy old things so nothing to see. Supposedly he takes everyone out for dinner when they visit and he pays for it all but doubt they would do that with us. They didn't the last time they were here anyways.
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@GemmaR (8517)
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14 Oct 12
I think that it is great that you are able to see your relatives that you haven't seen for a long time. Even though a lot of people in my family annoy me, and there is not a chance that I would want to see them every day of the week, I still feel as though I am quite lucky to be able to see them as much as I do because it is just nice to hear about all of the things that they have been up to since I saw them last. I always try to get big family gatherings once every two years as that means that everybody gets to see everybody else, but yet only actually has to attend one gathering.
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
15 Oct 12
I didn't end up seeing them and not really that upset about it. It might have went better if they actually wanted to come and visit and take us (mom and me perhaps) somewhere and have alittle fun but they wouldn't want to do that. Just sit around and talk isn't my idea of fun, and with them there is nothing much to talk about anyways. My cousin doesn't even email me anymore, so I don't need them to be in my life either then. They have 2-3 homes and a few businesses and they have all they need. They write off alot of their expenses to their businesses too so they can afford anything they want I'm sure. That includes friends.
@shaggin (74987)
• United States
14 Oct 12
Well I guess its good they havent dropped in since it sounds like it isnt fun to visit with them at all. Her bragging as talking negatively about others weight would drive me nuts. I usually bite my tounge but sometimes I cant and would probably say something to her if she called someone fat and bragged about being the same sizecas when she got married yet neer had kids. Obviously she is more concerned about her weight then being a nice person.
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
15 Oct 12
Yea it seems they just care about materialistic things and how a person looks. You'd think she would outgrow that as a 40+ yr old now. Maybe she has but I doubt it. I wish I just had some better cousins like N. and S. Those are the two cousins I could sit in a room with if I had to and not get anxiety from. I have not talked to them all in years.
@natliegleb (5173)
• India
14 Oct 12
wow its a great moment and xmas time is near so you can treat them well and have a nice time together with the baby also
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
15 Oct 12
We have no baby, not sure where that came from, LOL. But we don't have the funds to treat them well sorry to say when they usually don't treat us that great either. I don't feel that telling them something in secret then them relaying that secret to the person you least want it leaked to to be nice either, which was one thing they did long ago to me. It caused a huge mess in a relationship and made me so ill that I almost had to go into the hospital. Now, I get pretty sick everytime I hear that they are coming to visit. I'm glad they didn't tell us beforehand this time otherwise I would have gotten sick again!
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
14 Oct 12
Sounds like you sont like company much. i dont get much here in Mexico as most of my family is in the usa. But I understand cleaning when someone does come to visit. Have a great day at mylot.
