My friend is frustrating!!! Lol!!
By BabyGurrl
@BabyGurrl (65)
United States
October 14, 2012 6:13pm CST
This guy I've been friends with for about 5 years now has always liked me for some odd reason. I really only see him as a friend. When I was little, I used to really like him though but he played me big time. From then on, I just left it and him alone and never looked back. Don't get me wrong. We're still good friends and we keep in touch. But ever since then, I guess he's felt bad about it and he always talks about how much he wants to be with me.. Frankly, I still feel like he's on BS though. Mind you, he's only 3 years older than me but I truly feel he's just not ready for a real relationship which is fine with me. Yet it's frustrating when I'm always in a relationship with someone, he all of a sudden comes back around saying he wants us to be together because I'm who he really wants to be with.. It's like, dude come on now.. We've been back and forth over this for like 3 years now.. Give it a break already! Right now, I'm in a relationship with my first real love and I'm not letting him go anytime soon. My thing is what is my friend's problem!? I hope he finds whatever it is he's looking for. I'm sorry he wants to be with me and it can't happen.. But at the same time, he had soo many chances and not once did he try to take them when he had them.. So it's his loss...
4 responses
@BabyGurrl (65)
• United States
15 Oct 12
I was expecting him to get over it!!! Life goes on!!!! And I don't see anything wrong with it. It's not like I'm bashing him or anything. He's my friend.. I was simply just trying to get some incite/opinions on what may be the issue here.. People, if you're going to read my discussions, I'd appreciate it if you read with a little more UNDERSTANDING before you comment trying to get smart with me about this.. Wow.
@rooftop (110)
• Malaysia
15 Oct 12
How can your friend be frustrating when all the time i think you are the one leading him on. If you dont like him totally ignore him. It is better to hurt him now rather than givng him false hope. Break and patch , break and patch there's no smoke without fire.
@BabyGurrl (65)
• United States
15 Oct 12
How exactly am I leading him on??? Not once have I said, yeah I wanna be with you and then turn around and talk to someone else... Which is what he does every time.. I like him as a friend and at one point, I did have feelings for him until he played with my heart.. After some time had went by he came back around and like a fool I was back then, I fell for what the BS he was talking but he went on doing him. From that point on, I knew it was just a game.. It's been going on for quite some time now so I think you just don't know what you're talking about. Not once have I led him on at all. I'm straight up with him all the time..I don't beat around the bush nor do I give him false hope thinking he's gonna end up with me. ???? I don't get where you're trying to go with this but okay.
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
15 Oct 12
If that is the case, follow what is in your mind and in your heart. If you found him not serious of what he says it's because several chances already happen but he comes to you only when you have another relationship. I think he only felt jealous to you.
Have you ask him about his feelings if he is serious about it. Maybe he is thinking that having a relationship with you is like playing a game.
Or maybe he felt ashamed with you because you are a good friends for several years.
Have you ask him about his feelings if he is serious about it. Maybe he is thinking that having a relationship with you is like playing a game.
Or maybe he felt ashamed with you because you are a good friends for several years.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
14 Oct 12
Babygurrl. Good for you...keep it moving and dont look back.
like you said he had his chance and he blew it...You sound
like you are happy now which is whats important in life..
He might be one of those guys who just don't want to see you
with anyone..but neither does he want a seriously relationship
with you...
Be his friend and if he can not accept that then "oh well".
its not longer his call...
@BabyGurrl (65)
• United States
15 Oct 12
Thanks. :) He has no other choice but to except it. And I like what you said about him not wanting to see me with anyone else.. I never really thought about it like that.. I know he has told me before he's a jealous one which is why I usually try to steer clear of the "relationship" conversations because I know how he is. Yet, when he talks to someone, I wish him all the best. And I also agree.. I can tell he does not want a serious relationship with me.. He may talk like he wants one but he never proves it. I believe we're better off being friends anyway too. Thanks for your comments. :)
