My ex-...I am tired...
By ryanong
@ryanong (9665)
Vietnam
October 15, 2012 10:50pm CST
He and I are broken for a while already (i don't remember exactly how many months, i have to see back my topics in here to know it) but recently my ex- often send msgs to me to tell me that how much he loves me, he misses me so much, he thinks of me so much, blah blah...
He wanted to have a meeting in hanoi for talking about everything and he asked me many times about it.
....Finally I replied i will travel to Thailand in the end of this month and i will go to korea after that, so that if he wants to talk with me, he can go to hanoi and meet me before Oct. 25.
Yesterday he sent msg to talk blah blah about his love with me, i asked him whether he goes to hanoi to meet me for talking or not because if he doesn't come, i will rearrange my schedule. He said he is trying...
Well, i know he won't go to hanoi for the meeting because many times he used to tell me like that but he just went to hanoi to meet me 1 time since we did not live in the same place anymore.
This morning when open my YM, i saw his msg, he said he is sick and in the hospital now...To be honest i don't have any feeling even though he said he is sick now. I am not happy to get his msg anymore...
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12 responses
@victorywp (3524)
• United States
16 Oct 12
since you mentioned that you already have no more feeling with him, you shouldn't have replied to his message anymore. 
i think you should just ignore him from now on and move forward in your life. this will be good for both of you. 
if you continue to reply him and show how much you care, he will start thinking that he still stand a chance to be with you again, which is not good... and you will always stuck with him, leading to a never ending story... 
i think you should just ignore him from now on and move forward in your life. this will be good for both of you.
if you continue to reply him and show how much you care, he will start thinking that he still stand a chance to be with you again, which is not good... and you will always stuck with him, leading to a never ending story... 3 people like this
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
16 Oct 12
i told him i am tired and i don't want to waste my life time, i will move forward to my life without him, i told all already. I told him find a woman who is near him since he and i live so far now, and we did break one time already...
Yeah, you are right, i should not reply his msg anymore, just ignore as if he does not appear in my life yet...
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@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
16 Oct 12
No, i guy i will meet in Thailand is my UK friend, he is a nice friend from 2 years ago till now.
My ex- is not that guy, we had many conflict, debates..and then i said bye to him because i was very tired with it, he always looked down to me and didn't care my love.
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@joycseer (845)
• Malaysia
16 Oct 12
ryanong, is this the person you mentioned that you are going to see him in Thailand to know whether you are in love with or not? how can he do this to you with all the "love talk" and request to meet you, then suddenly giving you reason or excuse of being sick? wonder if it is true or not. if he is not sincere and genuine, then he is not worth your caring and attention if he only finds for you whenever he feels like it. if you don't feel comfortable with him, then you should just ignore him and move on with your life like you said.
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
16 Oct 12
It's normal feeling to a person who doesn't have anymore love to her ex before. I think your love for him was already expired. No need to renew again, it's like a medicine after the expiration throw in the garbage.
But if still you have feeling to him, you will be affected after you know that he was sick. I think you will run immediately to the hospital where he was confined. Am I right?
But if still you have feeling to him, you will be affected after you know that he was sick. I think you will run immediately to the hospital where he was confined. Am I right?2 people like this
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
16 Oct 12
it`s said like the song Steel Heart "She is Gone"
we can change it become He`s Gone
yes, he is gone..and you didn`t feel his appear in your heart
that`s why you aren`t active since 4 days ago..
your ex bother you, and every night you maybe is tired and easily sleeping..
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@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
16 Oct 12
he is not my heart anymore...i am tired whenever think back my suffer time after broken.
oh, you know i had not been active for 4 days? really? thank you so much for your caring to me.
This time i am tired with my dissertation already, i don't want to get an unhappiness from the love anymore.
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@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
17 Oct 12
yeah..mylot is quiet without you
the discussion is empty from your respond
but anyway it`s cool if you are alone and think all things for your life..Just think about your purpose life, your next destination, your short and long target and so on
don`t forget remember too about your mother and your cat...
@ellebj (784)
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
If he loves you, he should get you back and travel all the way in your place to prove his love. At this point, he is sick you can show him that you care. You could give him a kind of friendly love if your don't feel anything from him as a lover. Just enjoy life and do want could make you happy. If you want to see him go, if you don't just tell him. Follow what your heart speaks. He might be a good guy after all.
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@natliegleb (5175)
• India
16 Oct 12
wow you are in a sticky situation,just because you need to get rid of the ex in hanoi.its not fair.just give him another chance
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
16 Oct 12
A chance is i agreed to meet him in hanoi for talking, he can speak out whatever he wants...it is the last chance because i don't want to get stuck in his relationship for long, it took me a long long time already
well, 10 days later i will travel and go to Korea and for sure he has no chance to meet me again
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@fatlex06 (895)
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
Oh. I think the best thing to do is ignore. Don't let him play on your feelings and emotions once more. Don't hope that what is he doing is sincere because he can't even give you a call. Well, I don't know but if I'm in your situation, I will just ignore him. I won't waste my time responding in his email specially if I knew that most of it weren't meant. If you don't have any feelings for him, just ignore him. I'm not mad if you think I sound as one. Sorry. haha :D
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Oct 12
hi ryanong there are mostly good reasons why exes are exes
and you should remind him of some of them, the reasons wshy ypu are no longer with him. as for the hospital bit thats up to you
as we have no right to tell you what you should or should
not do. In all probability if I had been in your shoes I
too would not feel any thing though he is sick.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
17 Oct 12
Yeah, i have no feeling toward to him anymore. I don't mind
about any his message or information anymore. He has his life and i have my life in here.
I also try dont read his msg if he send it to me. I don't exchange my happy life to be back unhappy life as before.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
16 Oct 12
so i get the feeling you think he may be lieing.
yes, it does seem mylot is a bit like a journal if we want to figure a time out.
ive been thinking to maybe go back over some of mine to look back at things happening before.
yes, it does seem mylot is a bit like a journal if we want to figure a time out. ive been thinking to maybe go back over some of mine to look back at things happening before.@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Oct 12
hi bunny and ryan I h ave thou ght many times of making a sort of j ournal or book from some of m y older discussions, wonder how
hard that would be really? they are all here after all. sort of like a diary in a w ay.
@sweetloveforeve (13106)
• Portugal
16 Oct 12
if you dont love him anymore just tell him. its not good that you keep being like talking about being together and then thinking about break up. its not good for you neither for him. talk with him before you go to thailand so things can be clear for once. if he is in the hospital maybe you could go visit him. and talk with him. but you need to be sure of what you will say when you see him^^
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@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
17 Oct 12
Umh, i told him already, i told him go to find another woman who lives near him to settle down with him.
I have no intend to visit him because in the next morning he sent me a msg that: seem i don't care...yeah, it looks like a game and he just want to see my action, he is not sick at all, i hate it.
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@rizzaspeaks (391)
• Philippines
17 Oct 12
Guess he's just making excuses not to meet you or maybe he's trying to test if you still care for him. If you still care for him then send him a message, if you're fed up, then you should stop communicating with him.
Some people are just like that. They promise everything and all the love after the break-up, but won't prove it in action.
You deserve to be happy. You have given him a chance but he won't grab it. The very moment you asked him if he's going to meet you, he should seriously grab it but he didn't. It just proves he's not worthy for a sweet second chance.
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@arnabroy16 (438)
• Howrah, India
17 Oct 12
I think a small discussion is must before you go to thailand or korea you should make it clear to him wheather you want start your relationship again or move away.If you don't make it clear to him he will msg you again and again talking about his love to you and blah! blah!!!
@flydog99 (25)
• China
17 Oct 12
Hi ryanong:
I dont know whether he loves you now or not.Since you dont have any feeling about him,so just enjoy your journey and learn to ignore him.As i know,when you love him,he seems not care you a lot,and ofeten look down at you.So he is not a worthtrust person.Follow your heart,enjoy the life.
