Can their be better way to say no?
By bembzee
@bembzee (768)
Philippines
October 15, 2012 11:55pm CST
I always encounter this problem by saying no to end a conversation. I find it difficult to say it because i don't want to embarrass or insult someone. For me it takes a lot of courage to stop someone from its own time of conversing. Sometimes i wonder what could be a nice graceful exit to such scene. Can i just say no in the middle of her story and make an alibi? Or do i really have to bear an hour nodding and trying to be interested even if i have better things to do? Can their be better way to say no without someone feel neglected or uninterested? Do you often experience this situation?
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@lynnes75 (443)
• Malaysia
17 Oct 12
I have. Nothing worse than having to listen endlessly to someone who lacks self-awareness that they just go on and on and on.... I once fell asleep in the middle of a conversation with a friend on the phone. Quite literally fell asleep. My mom woke me up half an hour or so later because the phone was making this beeping sound. My friend had long hung up on me. She didn't call for a few weeks after. I felt bad and did apologize afterwards, but also thankful a bit that at least she knew why I fell asleep on her. Now, when I feel like she's rambling or I really need to go, I just have to say so and she'll stop talking, lol! Just say, "I have to go now. It was interesting talking with you, but bye." And go. It's not a lie or insulting if you really do remove yourself from their presence right after ;)
@Raine38 (12387)
• United States
16 Oct 12
I used to be that way too, too shy to tell that person to stop talking, or I am not in the least interested to whatever she's saying. But now, I realized that by not speaking up, I am being unfair to the both of us: on my part for suffering to hear something that doesn't interest me in the slightest, and on her part because I could saved her the nervy and effort trying to tell me something when she can just spend it to someone who will really listen to her.
Usually, I would cut her mid-way by saying I'm sorry and it's really been fun and I do want to talk to her some more but I really really need to make a very important phone call. Then I will juste excuse myself.
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@sjvenden27 (1840)
• United States
16 Oct 12
Ahh yes the mindless story telling that seems to go on forever... I use to experince this every day unless this person was either too mad or asleep... How did would I get out of it.. I would say I think the kids are calling me... If the kids were asleep.. my phone was usually in the other room.. So I would say I think my phone is ringing excuse me I will be right back.. then dont come back... but if she would follow I would grab my cell phone and just start talking to myself.. and then if she gave me that look who was it.. I would give her that look like u know.. and to leave me alone.. IF those didnt work I would start to nodded off... then shake my whole body really quick.. do that a couple times rub my eyes then off to bed.. If it was a story that I already had for the hundredth time.. I would say something at the end of one of her sentences.. Oh that story.. such and such and this and that... If none of the above would work I would do one of two things tell her that I need to leave because there was something that i needed to do or I needed to go to bed... Then I would just be pissed off that she didnt get the picture and snap.. This person is one of those drunk story tellers that can go on all night long, unless you end up yelling.. granted it would make her mad.. but she would leave me alone... and possibly for the next couple of days....
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