How to Forgive and Forget?

We are not supposed to forget. It is perfectly fine to forgive a person, that way we can go on with our lives and not have the thing that they did nagging at us all the time and bothering us, but if we forget, then we are not using the natural act of self-protection that is put in us. How does a baby learn not to touch a hot stove? Because they touch it once, it burns, and they remember not to do it again. Can you imagine a baby that once it was burned, forgot all about it and went back to touch that same hot stove again and again? We all learn that way. We leave too late for work in the morning, we are late for work. What if we totally forget that lesson, and we leave for work late again the next day?? Soon we will be out of a job. People love to say that when it comes to things that people do, we should forgive and forget, but...that is not natural, and it certainly is not wise. Yes, I forgive that you hurt me, but I'm not going to forget it, lest you do it again. Forgiving someone does NOT mean staying friends with that person. I forgive you, and hey, you go your way and I'll go mine, it's over and done with, see ya later. You can totally forgive someone, but choose whether to deal with that person or not to deal with them anymore. You forgive them--meaning you release the anger in your heart that you had towards them. After that, you are totally entitled to move on if you wish.

Forgiving a person for the most part comes easy for me.. Over time a lot of things I have been able to forget.. Until history repeats itself.. With other situations I just do not see myself ever forgetting what happened.. Unless I get an illness when I get older where I can not remember things.. Peace of mind comes over time..

I am guilty in having grudges with people. I just can't simply forgive and forget no matter how petty the situation is. I think it is one of those things that I don't like about myself. I guess you just have to remember that people make mistakes and you can also do the things that they did. It don't work for me though.

Sometimes, even though how much we try to forget the wrong deed that has been done to us, it is really difficult to do. The pain remains quite a long time. But we can forgive and totally forget if what has been done to us is not that grave.

it is really uneasy to forget others' mistakes. but we can forgive others first when they make some mistakes, then we should be confident to others and believe them they won't do it again. you can remind them their mistakes really bother you and you don't want to see it again. maybe that will make you more comfortable.

I think the best way to forgive someone's mistake from the past is purely acceptance and forgiveness.If we have a pure acceptance in our hearts, we wholeheartedly embrace the reality and the misery itself that we have gone through.Do not be too negative just be optimistic in life.

Forgive & forget..is the best thing to do when someone had offended you or made a mistakes. But sometimes its not easy to consider it when you are deeply offended and always being bothered by what was they did to you. But in order for you to go on with your life, you have to forgive and forget, even though how bad it was,.. because this is the only way for you to live in peacefully, and use it as guide and not a bitter one to look back.. which can help you make a better living.