Maybe I need to be hospitalized ...
By alberello
@alberello (4752)
Italy
October 20, 2012 12:20pm CST
Dear friends Mylotters.
If I told you that for some years until today, I'm not psychologically well, and at most live in families where there are no good relationships, in your opinion, what should I do?
Well, for years I am followed by a psychiatrist, it gives me the drugs that I take regularly, but my psychic malaise, unfortunately, is always at the same level!
I know that for many of you, to hear these words, you may be surprised, but perhaps it would not be the case that I be hospitalized in the psychiatric ward or even in a psychiatric clinic?
Of course, I'm not at all excited about this drastic solution!
But if with other systems, for many years now my problems are not solved in any way "at the root", is useless, continuous at that!
Anyone who knows me, even here, simply as a friend Mylotter, what do think?
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10 responses
@HomeBase (1153)
• United States
21 Oct 12
I think that you have to work through it. Continue to take your medication, and keep busy! Try hard to stay busy. It might not be easy, but you have to try.
You have a really good work ethic or else you would not have so many posts already. You are a worker, so use that to your advantage. I think that you can make it through this, but you are going to have to work at it and not give up.
Have you ever read the biographies about Winston Churchill and his psychological problems? You should maybe look into some books about him and other "famous" people who struggled with certain issues, but lived a long life and made it to be very productive people in History, even though it took a lot of work.
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
21 Oct 12
Well, responding primarily about the biographies of Winston Churchill, I must say that I have not read. So I did not know that he had psychological problems.
Secondly I want to specify that I am not a worker. In fact, (and I say unfortunately) I am at the age of 37 years old, still unemployed, and this is not good, and also has a negative influence on my status of health.
Inherently my will to hospitalize, was for now just an idea, I have yet to think before do it right. Unfounded, willing the hospital, especially in a department which psychiatry, doesn't go anyone!
@HomeBase (1153)
• United States
21 Oct 12
As far as the doctor goes, she is not the only doctor in the world, you are allowed to go see another doctor if you want to. You can get another opinion, or change to yet another doctor if that one does not help you.
If you think going in to the hospital for a little while will give you a break from your family, then you should go if that is what you feel you should do. I just hope that you do not want to stay in the hospital for a long time.
Maybe if you go to the hospital you will meet a better doctor for you.
@francesca5 (1344)
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21 Oct 12
sounds to me like your problems are related to your family.
family relationships are very complicated, my mother and father were very negative, and there were reasons in their lives why they were like that, and i think they were depressed, but my mother would project her own insecurities on to me, and it caused me a lot of problems, but i didn't realise this until i was quite old, as i just thought it was normal, and there was something wrong with me.
but its a very complicated issue, as we have a superego, that internalises the negative comments of parents, and coping strategies to deal with life, including life scripts, and lots of other things that make us complicated people.
my advice is do a bit of reading on this, but ideally you need a sympathetic therapist to work with, and its hard work to move on, harder than i ever realised, but it can be done.
@francesca5 (1344)
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22 Oct 12
its what you think will work that matters, but my experience is that if we have difficult family relationships it can effect our mental health, and that's not about blaming parents, sometimes they just have problems of their own, that they can't solve.
obviously it depends on what therapy is available to you though, but definitely i think psychologists can be good people to work with, though there is always the odd bad one, as in everything.
@GemmaR (8517)
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20 Oct 12
It is bad that you are feeling this way, and I think that if you feel as though going to the hospital would help then you should almost certainly do this. It is good for your own safety, because you don't want to be hurting yourself, and it must be upsetting for your family to be seeing you in this way. There is nothing wrong with getting a little bit of help, and the good thing is that if you go there you will be around people who know a lot about what you're going through and this means that they would know the best thing to help you.
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
20 Oct 12
Well, the doctors who have followed me over the years, have always maintained that depends a lot on me in making a radical change in my life to get better. But still, at the time I'm not at all skilled
@ravisivan (14082)
• India
21 Oct 12
alberello
good you are sharing openly with members. I am sure you will become alright. the fact you are aware that you are not ok is fifty per cent solution to the problem.
one solution in my way is good employment, recognition and possibly an understanding lady to marry you (if you are not married yet).
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
21 Oct 12
No, I am neither married nor engaged. I still live with mom and dad. But it is not the subject of marriage that bothers me, I could remain a bachelor all my life (definitely going to be so), you know I'm not interested in women. I prefer to be alone.
@ravisivan (14082)
• India
21 Oct 12
I wish things go the way you want. I wish you gain more confidence and courage and face things and you being good to people. God bless you.
@prashu228 (37518)
• India
20 Oct 12
If the problem is not solved from years, then you should either change the treatment or doctor or else be under observation, this will help you to come out of the problems and maintain good relations as well.
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
20 Oct 12
To be honest, in the course of my life, medical specialists, I have "seen" many, yet no one has ever managed to get on top of my case. It is probably more complex than it appears to outsiders.
However I am receiving from this psychiatrist is from the year 2005.
@deazil (4730)
• United States
21 Oct 12
I was in the hospital once like that. It was good for me. It gave me a break from all the things that were causing my problems. It was restful and calm. It took away all the turmoil in my mind. It's really not so drastic a thing to do. It may help you. If you felt it wasn't helping you would be able to leave, wouldn't you? If this is not something you've tried before maybe you should seriously consider it. Whatever you decide I do hope you find a solution to your problem.
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
21 Oct 12
Well, first of all I very much hope to get out of this bad situation as soon as possible, and I thank you in advance for your good wishes!
I've never been hospitalized before now. For me it would be something completely new.
Of course, the psychiatry department is not very pretty, but if necessary I will go there too.
@sid556 (30953)
• United States
26 Oct 12
If you think you need it then I think you should seek help but I also think and strongly recommend that you get a 2nd opinion. It sounds to me (if i'm following this correctly) that you don't have a very supportive family and that they even may be the source of your problems????? No need to lie blame. it is what it is. Finding the proper help which would be someone that you are comfortable talking to is important.
@toniganzon (77183)
• Philippines
27 Oct 12
Dear friend, I have known you for quite some time and i have been aware of your condition when you started talking about it here on mylot. I don't think being in a psychiatric ward might help improve your condition. I think the best way is for you to find your own place and just stay away from your family. I think the situation in your house makes your condition worse.
I know it's very difficult for you to find your own place without a job, but you have a friend you stayed with during your vacation. Maybe you can stay with him. Maybe he can help you.
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
20 Oct 12
Thank you, first of all. You know, friends who attend personally I only have three. They do not have my own problemsso they can not understand what I'm going through.
In the opinion of my doctor I should continue her therapy. But where are the improvements?
@roshigo58 (4856)
• Pune, India
28 Oct 12
Hi,
I can understand your feelings. It is very good that you are sharing your feelings with mylot friends. By sharing our problems with someone we can get some relief. It is very easy to give advice but we can not share your difficulties physically. If your doctor advices you to hospitalize then you can go for it. There are many people around us who are sadder than us. I think you should try to understand others sorrows and try to help them by doing this you can forget your illness. You have to keep your mind engaged in doing some good things so that you will be happy. You should try to become strong and don't depend upon others for your happiness.
