what are the manifestations that your child is being bullied
October 23, 2012 4:56am CST
I am a mother of a 23 yr old daughter she is now second year high school in private school here in our place..in her first year high school she complained to me that she doesnt want to go to her school she wants to transfer i used to wonder because she started there since nursery and she was an honor student too..so i keep asking her good reasons why?then after a month she divulged to em that she was being bullied, she was being outcast or some instances that she was being humiliated in front of her friends..at first of course being a mom its hurts us..however i have to be see all the angle why maybe im thinking my daughter has some faults too..but when i keep asking some are being envious to her coz she was top 3 in her class..i had a heart to heart talk with my daughter the only advise i told her on how she would handle that situation is just ignore them and show to them that she is not affected that they dont exist ..but i gave my daughter an assurance that once there is a physical harm then that is the time il go to the school and report it to the persons concern ..everyday i talk to her and assured her im on her side i always give her a god advise and we just talk i uplift her moral and we always have bonding time together by doing her assignments or watching movie too on weekend..now after a few months and even on the present time she never complained about bullying on her..have you experienced the same please share with me...this cases hope school authorities should make some actions coz there are school that bullying becoem serious
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24 Oct 12
I am glad that your child was able to endure the bullying she experience in her school. I think bullying in schools is so much more complicated that even the school is hard identifying this since most bully would not look like a bully but acts normally when their teachers are there and would transform when no one is watching. The only thing that this is identified is when the victim starts to talk about it. I am glad your daughter just did the first step by informing you and you gave them your piece of advice to help her go through with it. I just think that you should have reported that to the school so they could assess the situation there and maybe they could correct the situation and minimize the incidence.
24 Oct 12
thank you i already planned reporting it but i still hold my plan just to check if my daughter listens to my advise and she followed it..im happy she overcome such incident ..yes your so correct at least as early stage my daughter open it up to me so we are able to control the situation..again thanks a lot...
23 Oct 12
There are lots of things that can happen which might show that your child is being bullied, and I think that as her parent you would know when everything is not right with them. One of the things that shows the difference is that they might be withdrawn from the normal things that they would have been attractive to them before they started being bullied. If they are quieter, or have more of a temper, then this is a sign that you should probably go in and have a word with her class teacher to see if there is anything that can be done.
24 Oct 12
thanks alot you have a good point my dear..as a parent we must be observant for our growing up kids their attitude and character once there is a sudden change we must eb alarmed and start knowing the cause of it before its too late..thanks a lot
23 Oct 12
Your statement clearly proves that in today's society our children at school need a councilor to guide the emotional and motivation development so the the children may acquire a sound personality. Today many children have only a single parent. Even though the child may have everything she needs then too there is a need to mould the personality. Very many children suffer from communication skill. Some enjoy at school only by enjoying by being puoud, arrogant and insulting others. Many may not allow others to surpass them in any aspect. Sometimes the students may all join together in a group and leave away one classmate or some classmates. These experiences can be shocking. When the child feels unwanted in the group, it is really very painful So the parents need to dialogue with the class teacher and the Headmistress.Helping the problems of a students is a collective responsibility. Even the students should have some ethics to make everyone feel at home
24 Oct 12
yes its true a collective effort to make this bullying is eradicated in school..by the way my daughter is only 13 yr old..at least now im quite ok not worried about her classmates coz i know my daughter is strong enough to handle her situation..again thanks for ur response..can i be ur friend?